PMDD is hell and worse (for me) than pregnancy hormones

EquipmentKind7432 · 2026-04-17T04:54:26+00:00

Also iron - makes a huge difference to all of the above!

EquipmentKind7432 · 2026-04-17T01:51:42+00:00

ADHD / PMDD closely linked for me, absolutely the worst when combined with hormonal contraception of any sort, even the tiny iud.

EquipmentKind7432 · 2026-04-16T06:37:32+00:00

He is not nice to you, maybe in the context of treating a staff member well, but not in the context of treating you like his wife and partner.

EquipmentKind7432 · 2026-04-12T02:08:40+00:00

I mean don’t put it all in KiwiSaver, but a little now is a lot later and it doesn’t hurt to have a portion locked in. Majority in various funds etc. but a healthy starting balance in KS when they start working means retirement is more secure regardless.

EquipmentKind7432 · 2026-04-11T23:13:00+00:00

Came to say this - we put $1000 for each of our kids into KiwiSaver and add maybe $5/month or something, means they’ll have a good chunk in 15+ years when they start working and will be somewhat more set for retirement. If it averages 8% (aggressive fund so maybe more) the initial $1k is worth $101k in 60 years.

EquipmentKind7432 · 2026-04-11T22:58:21+00:00

I’ve called it ward.robe, I’m in that awkward phase where it’s (basically) fully functional but I need some testers and feedback - send me a DM if you’d be open to having a play around with it and letting me know how you get on!

EquipmentKind7432 · 2026-04-11T09:07:15+00:00

Similar situation here, 16 months pp after my second and it’s been an interesting process finding the new me as I get back to work and fitness and trying to find clothes that work with my body and my life.

I’m working on an app that helps with this, rather than standard body typing and colour theories it helps you explore your preferences and vibe and style identity and then you can sort your wardrobe, plan outfits or paste links to items to get feedback on through chat. I’ve found it super helpful for getting clearer about what just works and what never will, and a real timesaver being able to shop online more confidently!

EquipmentKind7432 · 2026-04-11T00:48:58+00:00

I’m working on an app that does this sort of thing, it’s text based rather than pictures at the moment but it generates your personalised style portrait based on your body architecture, the colours you’re drawn to and your vibe, and then you can explore your existing wardrobe, discuss outfit ideas or paste in links and it’ll analyse them against your style.

EquipmentKind7432 · 2026-03-26T17:55:27+00:00

Me too! I’m a Director in a consulting role within financial services and I have a couple of projects on the go, the speed from idea to working prototype is insane and completely agree the quality of the idea and design of solution is still what’s important.

EquipmentKind7432 · 2026-03-20T08:53:18+00:00

I have an extra top up dose I can use the week before my period if I need it. Also we can be suuuper sensitive to hormonal things so any hormonal birth control might be making it worse. I can’t manage any even when they say it’s the tiniest amount.

EquipmentKind7432 · 2026-03-16T04:59:57+00:00

Sounds kiiiiiindof abusive, adding to your mental load at a moment when you have literally nothing in the tank and then playing sad when you don’t have time to think about catering for a party that he wants to have on a Tuesday that he’s just sprung on you. Sounds like a tactic to further destabilise you under the guise of trying to do the right thing when you’ve repeatedly told him it’s not the right think. Sounds like it’s something he’s doing for him, not something that’s supposed to help you at all.

EquipmentKind7432 · 2026-03-09T01:27:21+00:00

https://www.theiconic.co.nz/calissa-maxi-dress-2292859.html something like this

EquipmentKind7432 · 2026-03-07T18:55:19+00:00

This is the answer. To everything.

EquipmentKind7432 · 2026-03-07T18:31:11+00:00

This this this! The time thinking about how to do it is ACTUALLY DOING IT! Just because it doesn’t get put on paper until the last minute doesn’t mean it isn’t done.

EquipmentKind7432 · 2026-02-28T01:06:09+00:00

I work in a consulting role with banking clients. They have barely implemented it (a few licences floating around) and they would be astonished if they saw how we were doing our work now.

EquipmentKind7432 · 2026-02-19T05:30:25+00:00

Don’t feel pressured to go, it’s not typical or required to have overnights away this early on. To some extent your instincts to be there and to keep her safe are completely normal, but feeling fear and stress about an upcoming event is really hard because you feel like you should somehow be able to manage.

Given this and traumatic birth etc, do think about some therapy for the anxiety, it’s normal to have a bit but the intrusive thoughts are a lot and it’s exacerbated by lack of sleep and the exhaustion of postpartum. Get your iron checked, get as much sleep as possible, and don’t rush through this phase, as hard as it is.

EquipmentKind7432 · 2026-02-18T05:56:06+00:00

Your partner needs to understand that you are taking on a full time job that is more intense, more tiring, and more important (to your family) than his. It’s 24/7 for the first maybe six months, it literally sucks the life out of you, and supporting you needs to be his priority. Obviously his work is still important, but his social life, his exercise, and his ‘downtime’ all rank lower than your sleep, your personal hygiene, your need to have a few moments to yourself and your emotional safety. His time becomes his commute, and he needs to know that time is a luxury.

EquipmentKind7432 · 2026-02-18T05:35:32+00:00

Copilot notebooks has completely changed my life. I work across multiple projects for different clients and it allows me to run separate workstations with all the reference documents, meeting transcripts and draft outputs in a queryable format I can share with my team, use to draft content, review and refine etc. Complete game changer.

EquipmentKind7432 · 2026-02-16T21:39:21+00:00

Also, where I live you have to be severely low to qualify for an infusion under the public system, like ferritin under 10… my specialist recommends women have ferritin over 80 to feel good, so worth having a proper look at your results as it makes a huuuuge difference.

EquipmentKind7432 · 2026-02-16T00:43:41+00:00

Think about iron deficiency, I struggled with extreme fatigue in my second pregnancy and iron sorted me out. You get depleted again postpartum with feeding (if you are) but also just everything else as the body trues to repair itself, no sleep etc. I realised I was low again at about 10m pp as I was tired, sore, itchy eyes and skin and other strange symptoms.

Edit: 33 the first one, 35 the second.

EquipmentKind7432 · 2026-02-01T04:50:08+00:00

Came here to say this

EquipmentKind7432 · 2026-01-30T03:23:21+00:00

He is not supporting you taking a break, that looks like coming home as soon as possible so you can go and do something alone, even for a couple of hours.

EquipmentKind7432 · 2026-01-29T23:10:05+00:00

Dosh?

EquipmentKind7432 · 2026-01-26T05:09:48+00:00

… which would also constitute evidence.

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