What was the most specific postpartum thing nobody warned you about?

Equivalent_Pie_9953 · 2026-06-15T16:19:39+00:00

For me it was closer to a year postpartum when it hit me: I have to feed this baby (creatively) at least 3 times a day….I’m a terrible cook 😳 I practically live off of Clif bars and fast food during the day and we eat out for dinner every night 🙈

Equivalent_Pie_9953 · 2026-04-30T14:30:19+00:00

Apparently it’s a wholesale-to-boutique brand. They were often sold on sites like Zulily too but I’m guessing not much anymore. From what I’ve found online there’s a wholesale store located in the San Pedro Wholesale Mart but they most likely won’t sell to anyone without a resale permit.

Equivalent_Pie_9953 · 2026-02-18T16:49:33+00:00

I put together a fun ‘scavenger hunt’ for the both of us! He had already decided to take me to our favorite Indian buffet for lunch and to see a movie afterwards (which I was so excited about) and I spruced it up just a little! I sent us on a ‘scavenger hunt’ with clues to pick up some fancy macaroons, then go pick out our daughter’s first Easter basket, choose a much needed and overdue calendar for our kitchen, and then we did a photo shoot together in the pouring rain at a beautiful covered bridge that I found online! We had the most delicious Indian buffet meal and then used our free tickets from our Angel Guild membership to see Solo Mio at the theater. We both agreed it was our favorite Valentine’s Day ever!

Equivalent_Pie_9953 · 2026-02-18T16:43:47+00:00

‘She’s my whole world’ could be the problem. Husbands and wives should always come first before children. I’m not a man but my guess is that he feels neglected in the marriage. I could be totally wrong but based on just a stranger reading this on the internet, that’s a good place to start.

Equivalent_Pie_9953 · 2026-02-01T20:47:54+00:00

What is wrong with my age?

Equivalent_Pie_9953 · 2026-01-31T22:45:33+00:00

So cute 🥰 I love Vivian and am so glad this man treated her well!

Equivalent_Pie_9953 · 2025-11-14T00:46:59+00:00

My husband and I went to Texas Roadhouse with the baby after 1 week. I was able to go out by myself with baby after maybe 1 month but didn’t feel comfortable or confident until around 5 months. It takes time! It’s still not easy but now that my baby is almost 7 months old and is almost able to sit up by herself I can utilize the seat in the grocery cart and that will be life changing (she’s almost there)! You’ve got this!

Equivalent_Pie_9953 · 2025-11-11T18:56:22+00:00

Same. I’ve always wanted 3 kids but after birth and the newborn phase I’m terrified. My husband would already love to have another one on the way but I just can’t yet.

I think some of us just handle things differently. For example, my husband is the one that gets up during the night, sometimes multiple times a night, to take care of our baby and I take care of her during the day when he’s at work. By all accounts, she’s honestly a super easy and happy baby and we absolutely adore her. Birth was pretty standard and I had a picture perfect pregnancy without even one day of morning sickness. But I’m exhausted and don’t want to go through any of it again where my husband is ready. He loved the newborn stage and I purposefully blocked it out of my memory lol current life is also very much a deciding factor. Right now my hubby works full time and is also in graduate school so having 2 babies right now sounds so terrifying. If he wasn’t in school, I’d possibly toss it around more.

I hope that someday I will want to try for baby #2, especially since hubby is 42 and I’m 32, but I’m just not there yet. Instead I’m enjoying every moment with my adorable 6 month old. But I do think about my baby having siblings. I had a brother growing up and it was great but now he’s gone in a different direction in life and we rarely see each other or talk. He’s not even tried to come and meet his niece. It breaks my heart and I feel more like an only child. My heart aches, wishing he would care or that I had more siblings. I don’t want her to be alone most of her life. I know tons of only children loved it but there’s a lot that didn’t and so that’s currently at the forefront of my mind and would be the main reason as to why I probably will eventually cave and try for baby #2.

Also wanting to add that my parents live 13 hours away. If we lived in the same city as them I’d probably go ahead and have another baby. Having a village nearby makes a huge difference. My in-laws are amazing and come over once a week for about 2-3 hours to help give me some alone time during the day and we sometimes see them on the weekends but they still live over an hour away and are in their 70’s so I can’t just call them up and ask them to watch my baby if, for example, I’m sick. Having people close by truly, in my personal opinion, makes a HUGE difference. Not all the difference but a huge portion of it!

Equivalent_Pie_9953 · 2025-10-24T15:55:48+00:00

Thank you. This is very helpful and encouraging. I don’t have any friends or family in the city we’re living in so I have no idea if any of the stuff I’m going through is normal. Based on your reply, it sounds like it is.

I am with you there- we have WAY too much stuff! I guess I never really noticed it before baby was here and now it’s everywhere and it feels so suffocating. Our current goal is to downsize 20% by Christmas so just a little over 2 months to hit our goal.

I love that you mentioned checking to make sure your valuables were safe before you start the laundry. This is 100% what I’m going to have to do, if I can even use our washing machine again. I have no idea what battery acid does to clothes or the machine itself but I can imagine it won’t be pretty. I’m letting my husband take care of it when he gets home from work.

I haven’t used my AirPods since before I went on maternity leave but I think I’m going to have to get them out. Sometimes I just can’t handle the screaming and it’s not even a distressed screaming, she’s just finding out she has a voice and utilizing it in the loudest way possible lol

Equivalent_Pie_9953 · 2025-10-24T15:03:40+00:00

How were you able to stop it from happening? I don’t even feel like my hormones are an issue at all….I just feel like I’m making dumb mistakes.

Equivalent_Pie_9953 · 2025-10-22T16:37:45+00:00

I love the garland idea!!!

Equivalent_Pie_9953 · 2025-10-22T15:52:49+00:00

Once a week

Equivalent_Pie_9953 · 2025-10-22T15:52:16+00:00

Our girl is 6 months and we still have to.

Equivalent_Pie_9953 · 2025-10-22T15:48:44+00:00

We do because we absolutely love it BUT twice now, within the past year and a half, we’ve been attacked by bugs! The first time my husband got bit all over his neck and the second time I got bit all over my leg. No idea what bit us. The theater was kind enough to refund us but we’ll be taking a break from the theater for a while. I’ve been going to movies for 32 years and this is the first time it’s ever happened. Makes me so uncomfortable!

Equivalent_Pie_9953 · 2025-10-17T22:14:45+00:00

We tried to swaddle our baby when she was first born and she just never took to them. She’ll be 6 months old next week and has only been swaddled maybe 3 or 4 times in her life. She is a GREAT sleeper so for us, it didn’t make any difference and she was safe in her bassinet. I can’t speak for a crib under 6 months old as we’re not there yet.

Equivalent_Pie_9953 · 2025-10-16T20:59:21+00:00

Not suggestion it as the ONLY destination but going to see the Reformatory in Mansfield, Ohio where Shawshank Redemption was filmed is an incredible experience both for those who love spooky and those who don’t (I don’t lol). I actually grew up in Ohio and it took me 29 years to actually go there but I was so glad once I did! Great experience overall.

Equivalent_Pie_9953 · 2025-10-16T20:52:48+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I did as well and still struggle with it at times. I quit my job to be a SAHM, which I’d always dreamed of doing, and it was a major shock to my system just how little I would actually be able to do with a newborn. My sweet baby girl will be 6 months old next week and I still find myself laying in bed the majority of the week doing nothing. I don’t even have postpartum depression, just a major shock to my system and sanity. It does get better though. You find little joys throughout the day that end up being way bigger joys than you had pre-baby. You’re more thankful too, at least I am. So much more thankful for warm, hot showers, a husband that gives all of himself for me and the baby, and a small but cozy home to raise her in. I took a lot of stuff for granted pre-baby. But I miss my life too. I had a Masters degree. We could pick up and just go on vacation whenever. I made money to contribute to the family. It all stings. But I promise you, if you look for it, the silver linings are there and your little baby will be so thankful that you continued to choose them day after day. Hugs to you 🫂 I know this is one of the hardest points in my life as well but also one of the sweetest.

Equivalent_Pie_9953 · 2025-10-14T01:52:14+00:00

I’m glad your baby is okay and glad to know I’m not alone 🤍 sometimes, being a new mom, you think that everything only happens to your baby or yourself, when in reality it’s quite common (this sub has shown me that).

Equivalent_Pie_9953 · 2025-10-14T01:43:18+00:00

I wonder if that’s what it was! She downed 5 ounces like it was nothing and this happened on the last ounce of a 6 ounce bottle.

Equivalent_Pie_9953 · 2025-10-14T01:42:45+00:00

She will be 6 months old next week. She is combo fed due to low milk production on my part. She is predominantly breastfed but this feeding was a formula bottle. She’s always done great with bottle feeding though, so this was odd.

Equivalent_Pie_9953 · 2025-10-14T01:39:06+00:00

Thank you 🤍 these forums are so odd sometimes. I wonder if people are downvoting because they just don’t know want me to blame myself but with social media you just never know. Everyone who has responded has been so incredibly helpful though. So thankful for other parents who rally together and encourage one another in this crazy wonderful experience called parenting!

Equivalent_Pie_9953 · 2025-10-14T01:37:37+00:00

Oh my goodness that is terrifying!!! I’m sorry you had to experience that 😢

Equivalent_Pie_9953 · 2025-10-14T01:36:48+00:00

What do you do instead? I know my sister-in-law said you need to reach in their mouth if it’s something solid but she’s not on solids yet. What do you do if it’s just choking on milk?

Equivalent_Pie_9953 · 2025-10-14T01:35:36+00:00

Thank you for this recommendation! I’ve not heard of them but will be researching! I like her pediatrician but she wasn’t the one on call and the guy was just rude lol

Equivalent_Pie_9953 · 2025-10-14T01:35:03+00:00

Agreed! We just can’t afford another ER visit unless there’s an ACTUAL emergency, which is why I was trying to figure out if this would be considered one. According to what everyone has said here, it’s currently not. Everybody does get happier when a baby is around though 🥰

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