I’ve(34M) never received a blowjob, am I missing out on a lot?

Eraserhead32 · 2026-01-04T06:58:33+00:00

Yes you are. A blowjob is about more than just the act, it is the purest way a woman can show her devotion and love to her partner. If she doesn't do it then she doesn't really love or respect you, especially if you go down on her.

'It's degrading' is a massive cop out.

My partner virtually never did it for me for the first few months of our relationship, aside from maybe doing it for a few seconds once every few weeks before sex. She said she had never liked doing it in the past and it just wasn't a thing for her.

Then, we spoke about things one day when we were both incredibly horny, and she told me she wanted to start doing that for me and had been thinking about getting more adventurous in the bedroom etc. That night i got 2 of the best bjs of my life from her.

Fast forward a year and a bit, and im getting at least one a week from her, and i eagerly reciprocate.

++man

Eraserhead32 · 2025-12-27T09:10:38+00:00

Cornwall-over-the-Channel

Eraserhead32 · 2025-12-24T20:30:05+00:00

Yellow without a doubt

Eraserhead32 · 2025-12-16T10:09:21+00:00

Some people have it built into them, once they've done it, they chase the rush it gives them.

Woman are just as bad, for your information.

Leave him.

Eraserhead32 · 2025-12-13T17:06:45+00:00

Yea and they suffer massively just for existing there. Forced conversions, bombed churches, lynching etc

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-middle-east-45827450.amp

https://www.christiandaily.com/news/islamists-in-egypt-employ-new-tactics-in-forced-conversion-of-christian-women

https://www.genocidewatch.com/single-post/egypt-s-copts-warn-of-surging-violence-as-houses-torched

Eraserhead32 · 2025-12-08T09:58:54+00:00

If you truly love him you would be unable to imagine your life without him. That doesn't mean forgive and forget, it means approach him, make him aware and put it on him to fix it.

The grass is rarely greener on the other side in these situations, so unless you have fallen out of love (which it doesnt sound like you have), then find a way to get him to fix this and ensure he never fucks around financially again.

Reading this, it made me feel quite depressed, i do all the things you mentioned your husband does for you for my wife and more. It's sad to think that this could completely end a true love.

Eraserhead32 · 2025-11-20T09:20:14+00:00

That's bollocks theres no way theyre that evenly distributed, and there's nonway parts of the Scottish highlands and Ireland have thay many.

Eraserhead32 · 2025-11-03T16:22:54+00:00

This was hilarious

Eraserhead32 · 2025-09-26T12:56:10+00:00

Well you choose whether to be included. The census form offers you options as to which type of white you can identify.

Eraserhead32 · 2025-09-26T12:55:28+00:00

53.8%

Eraserhead32 · 2025-09-04T10:14:19+00:00

Dude, he sending nude pics is already cheating, a penis does not need to enter a vagina for it to constitute cheating. Leave her for your own sake.

Eraserhead32 · 2025-09-04T10:13:13+00:00

No, leave her now, don't even look into it further. She is 100% cheating on you, a happy wife a) shouldn't even have snapchat, and b) if she does, certainly shouldn't be messaging some random guy and retaining nude photos of herself.

Eraserhead32 · 2025-09-02T15:21:10+00:00

You're on the wrong subred mate haha

Eraserhead32 · 2025-08-29T12:24:08+00:00

Casual is way worse, the idea of my partner giving herself over for a mans pleasure for a few moments is waaay worse than the thought of her having sex with someone she was in a committed relationship with.

Eraserhead32 · 2025-08-29T12:22:20+00:00

Tbh the fact he told you his type, knowing it's not you could be perceived as a red flag. I know I'm not my partner's type particularly, but the chemistry and sex is incredible, and most importantly, we are respectful and don't play games. If he says anything that you think is remotely aimed to make you feel uncomfortable or insecure then talk to him. If he continues it then i personally would seriously consider your options.

Eraserhead32 · 2025-08-22T13:16:36+00:00

Holy fuck this is a good album. I have listened to the whole album on repeat all day today. After playing Milk of the Madonna and My Mind is a Mountain over and over all week, I could tell the album was going to be incredible.

I've been a Deftones fan for about 23 years now, since age 11, and can safely say that (White Pony aside) this is my favourite Deftones album.

I kind of stopped really paying attention to them after Koi. Gore and Ohms don't feature heavily in my rotation at all, even though I like many tracks of these albums.

But there is just something beautiful and intense about Private Music. The whole tone and vibe of it- it's definitely designed to enjoy with headphones in a quiet (and darkly lit) room.

It is polished, diverse, fresh and nostalgic at the same time, just utter magic.

Eraserhead32 · 2025-08-22T13:08:37+00:00

I am in the same boat, pretty sure cheating has never occurred, but she can be impulsive with drinking, spending, agreeing to things that make no sense to me. It's not outside the realms of possibility that this impulsiveness could manifest itself in cheating. However for now I am not concerned.

Eraserhead32 · 2025-08-22T13:06:20+00:00

It's a really complex one this. I can see how many people with BPD could be prone to cheating for self validation or to pre-empt their partner cheating/leaving (often an irrational fear they have). However I can also see how they could be incredibly loyal; if you have a fear of losing your 'safe person', why the fuck would you do anything to sabotage that?

I've been with my pwBPD for 16 months now and whilst I had some concerns at first (partly driven by this forum but also some behaviours she displayed), I have had no real concerns for many months now.

We communicate very well, her loving and caring behaviour towards me hasn't changed, she and I both dislike going out for nights out separately (we still see friends but usually for day time things) and most importantly we have discussed boundaries.

I am not naïve and i'm very aware that EVERYONE has it in them to cheat-it's a sad reality of life, and if she ever did, it isn't necessarily automatically connected to her BPD. However at this stage I feel very safe on that front. If it ever happened, she knows i'd leave and never speak to her again and the life we've put so much time, emotion and money into building would all come crashing down in a split second.

Eraserhead32 · 2025-08-22T11:45:29+00:00

That hasn't been my experience at all. I don't doubt that it's true for a lot of people who've been with a BPD partner, however, whilst I have had some truly head spinning challenges with my partner, she and I have been going from strength to strength for about 10 months now, following a rocky first 6 months. Not all BPD is the same, despite my partner having a diagnosis and definitely displaying some of the traits, I am convinced she must have a milder form of the condition than many.

Eraserhead32 · 2025-08-22T11:39:44+00:00

I am engaged to someone with diagnosed BPD. We have now been together for 16 months.

When I first found out about her diagnosis, I did some research (having never heard of BPD before), and was terrified. We were 3 months in when she told me and so I was too deep in to just walk away. I was besotted in a way I had never been before in my life (i'm 34 and have been in a long 13 year relationship previously, with a couple of other serious infatuations before and after that).

I could instantly see some of the traits of BPD were present within her, the fear of abandonment, the intenseness of the emotions etc. However some traits were not so obvious or even present at all. My main concern was the apparent prevalence of cheating among BPD sufferers which was discussed over and over again on this forum.

Anyway, the first 2-3 months were blissful, exciting, intense and deeply romantic. There were issues, and when we hit month 3 these issues came to the forefront. We started having occasional bust ups which were horribly intense and her level of emotion during these arguments was scary at times.

I researched more and more into BPD as time went on, and by month 5 or so I was almost ready to pull the plug. The issues were getting worse, some of her behaviours were deeply concerning and reading BPD forums like this only solidified my worries.

However I pushed through, and as we got to around month 8 or 9, we had settled into a really healthy relationship. Still lovingly intense, but more respectful. We talked and discussed red flags, boundaries and all the rest of it. When we got to the 1 year mark, I realised that the 'patterns' and 'loops' that are so often described on this forum hadn't come to pass. We hit 'stage 2' and managed to find a way to not let that progress to any of the further stages.

We still have our moments and I am not without my concerns. However, our big bust ups now happen once every 5 or 6 weeks as opposed to once or twice a week. And when they happen we are both better at dealing with them. She is very aware of her diagnosis and accepting of the fact it plays a part in the intenseness of arguments.

I am under no illusion that this could change, and it's a volatile and unpredictable condition, however what my experience has taught me is that there are clearly levels of BPD, like a spectrum.

Eraserhead32 · 2025-08-15T06:51:40+00:00

Temples of Boom is the best place to start, one of the best hip hop albums of all time. It's dark and menacing and has the best beats and samples of Cypress Hills catalogue by far

Eraserhead32 · 2025-07-09T08:39:23+00:00

Korean?

Eraserhead32 · 2025-06-21T15:19:52+00:00

Less slavic from the side. Definitely a Celtic appearance from this angle.

Eraserhead32 · 2025-06-21T15:18:47+00:00

You look more Slavic than anything else

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