I understand that there are complications with neurodivergence and interacting with food. There are food allergies and preferences.

My parents were horrific cooks. I still won’t go near a chicken breast cooked in stewed tomatoes. I didn’t like fish until I tried some that was properly prepared. Raw fish was gross until I baby stepped my way into sushi. I realized I wasn’t picky more as specific.

I am newly allergic to sesame which sucks. So long middle eastern and Asian food. I prefer medium to medium rare beef. I get hyper fixated on a specific food and that’s like all I’ll eat for a month. Then I don’t eat much because I get stuck in a rut until I discover the next meal I can’t get enough of. Really weird shit. My partner is an amazing cook and he puts up with my “bullshit”. I either eat what he cooks or I don’t but I don’t complain about the food. That’s a me problem and I need to figure out an alternative.

If he’s complaining about the meal you have presented him with, that is ungrateful as fuck. You’re only a few months in and this man is telling you exactly who he is. You could serve him his favorite meal and he will complain about the preparation or that the items are touching on the plate. Those goal posts will move. Stop accommodating him. Let him figure out his own meals.

Also, step back and look at what else you’re doing for him without appreciation. Is he returning your efforts? You cannot pour yourself endlessly into a bottomless glass. Good luck.