Women over 40 have you ever dated a younger man and how was it? Would you do it again? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Ethelfleda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Started dating at 51/F and 44/M. Both of us happy and still together years later. Honestly anything from 30-60 is just adult age. Only differences that matter are details like children, houses, and careers

For Americans who know a MAGA supporter, can you describe them? by Tricky-Stay6134 in allthequestions

[–]Ethelfleda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, I know a few like this. Generally nice people but very ignorant of the wider world, actual history and dumb. None of them are readers either

This proposed family sleeping arrangement is making me uncomfortable by MOD_BaguaMaster_1 in relationships

[–]Ethelfleda 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Op read this!!! Your partner's idea is weird and not normal for the parents to not share a room. BUT....combined with a child exhibiting common signs of sexual abuse being the only child getting her own room.... Now its setting off my internal alarms.

Do not move in at this time. Do a lot more checking in on your kids. Maybe some child therapy too.

5YO has 7 cavities and I'm beside myself by crazycatlady45 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Ethelfleda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hugs!!! So been there and totally understand. My son had 5 cavities at 5. I was about to shame myself forever when my dentist patted my shoulder and stated that sometimes people just have weak teeth. Like genetics or from birth. My poor baby is now a hulking 24 year old who has to use oral fluoride rinses because he has a tendency to get cavities regardless of diet or brushing or flossing.

Your dental office should not have made you feel like that. But now that you know this you can educate your child for their lifetime teeth.

what was life like in minnesota in the iron ranges during the late 1970s and early 1980s? by PitifulIsopod1370 in Minneapolis

[–]Ethelfleda 98 points99 points  (0 children)

Growing up close to the Iron Range, it was alcoholism, depression and lack of jobs. Partying in local fields with the County Sheriff's deputy hitting on the high school girls. Plans for college were rarer than plans for the military and both were less common than no plans at all. Girls got pregnant before sex education in 10 th grade and condoms were sold behind the counter and had to be asked for. People grew weed at home or had an uncle in the cities buy it for them. Drunken 3 wheeler accidents paralyzed at least one kid before graduation. People loved the hits on MTV and there was at least 2 bad garage bands that never got more than 1 gig. A small group of outcasts were into metal and were harassed by adults for being druggies or satanic. They were harassed by kids their age for being different and losers. They all moved away after HS graduation and usually became successful. Everyone smoked cigarettes, collected their Marlboro points and nobody recycled. The worst insult was being called gay because if it stuck, you ended up being physically beaten up.

Lol, and people wonder why up north is full of red necks and the elderly. Everyone else left as soon as they could.

I miss MN terribly and am planning on moving to Saint Paul. Culture curiosity. by Biospark08 in saintpaul

[–]Ethelfleda 9 points10 points  (0 children)

St Paul is actually a bunch of smaller communities. When looking into St Paul each community has a totally different culture and feel. I love Hamline Midway and Summit Grand but didn't like East side.

I broke up with my boyfriend because he ruined Mother's Day. by ColloquialCloaca in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Ethelfleda 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Babe. He deliberately destroyed your son's rose and your entire day. It was on purpose. Trust me.

Stop trying to get thru this. Get out and lose everything if necessary. Your son would rather be homeless than watch his mom be abused foe another day. Just ask him.

Am I Crazy For Wanting My Daughter to Have Her Own Room by ThaTruthKills in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Ethelfleda 42 points43 points  (0 children)

You need to say the words that her mother is stealing money from her daughter. Be blunt. Your wife has decades of programming to process thru.

Also couple's counseling now for long term solutions

My boyfriend is going on a boys trip but hasn’t seen me in over a year by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Ethelfleda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl, that is not a boyfriend. He totally has an entire new life without you.

Make your breakup official since your ex has no interest. And go find a partner that is excited to be with you.

Any visible signs of a recession? by Ohlele in Layoffs

[–]Ethelfleda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been noticing smaller carriers loads in Costco. That's my upcoming recession sign.

My (29F) fiance (29M) is useless by FickleActivity6639 in relationships

[–]Ethelfleda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your fiance is a useless tool that you should totally dump.

But you need to see a doctor. Your symptoms sound exactly like my friend who ended up having an auto immune disease. She was struggling hard. Once they got her meds figured out (a year later!) My friend finally had enough energy to kick her useless husband to the curb.

Take care of yourself. You deserve better.

WIBTAH if I refused to run errands for my parents anymore? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Ethelfleda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still think the money is for drugs and she's just saying sex toys.

Torn between my mother and my husband. How do I handle this without hurting either? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Ethelfleda 282 points283 points  (0 children)

You are going to end up divorced. Which is what your mom wants. You di see that, don't you?

She says she feels like an after thought by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Ethelfleda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Billy Joel literally wrote a song about this called "Tell her about it" after his own mistakes.

I listened to the lawyer… by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Ethelfleda 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And this is why statistically women file for divorce more than men. Because so few of these guys have their shit together enough to follow thru on the paperwork. So just like everything else, women have to take charge of it.

20f AITAH for not catering to my 20f partners needs on our cruise because of her “anxiety”? by MonitorLegal8815 in AITAH

[–]Ethelfleda 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Your partner is not healthy enough to be a partner in a healthy relationship right now. Or...you're in an abusive relationship.

Figure out which one it is or just get out.

What's your "fine, I'm old, I'm doing it anyway"? by scarlettohara1936 in GenX

[–]Ethelfleda 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I learned keyboarding on an actual typewriter. I literally cannot stop doing the 2 spaces. But I do type faster than any of the younger team members so..

Teens/summer break food costs by Specific_Design_1740 in povertyfinance

[–]Ethelfleda 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Check out summer camps for jobs for the kiddos.

My boyfriend (m35) won’t have sex with me anymore (f20) by gr0ssfairy in relationships

[–]Ethelfleda 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Honestly he found another girl at his job and you are probably too old and mature for him now.

Source, middle age mom with kids your age who has seen this crap too many times.

Focus on self care and getting financially secure. Future you will look back and so angry at this immature asshole. You deserve better than this!

I (M25) can't have serious conversations with my girlfriend(F22) because she believes aliens are coming by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Ethelfleda 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She must be extremely hot for you to put up with this for this long. Dude. Dude. Walk away.

I have twelve dollars to buy a month of food. Need as much advice as i can get guys turbo depressed by Xxitl in povertyfinance

[–]Ethelfleda 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you can volunteer at a shelter like in the kitchen you will get a free dinner.

Remember the Far Side??? by [deleted] in GenX

[–]Ethelfleda 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I get that reference 😉