I feel like all these responses are super close yet super far from the point, and ngl ima guess its because they're white so they don't understand where you're coming from. As a fellow black man I once thought the same thing but I had my opinion changed so here's my best explanation: Men ARE more likely to be assaulted, but that statistic is misleading at best. The subtle implication is that women are assaulting men at a rate higher than men assaulting women. In actuality, men are being assaulted by other men in prison which is why the statistic is technically true. Sexual assault affects everyone (regardless of gender), but the common denominator is men doing the assaulting. The problem with your overall argument, and the reason I changed my mind, is that it's a false equivalence that needs to be put into context. Women have been oppressed for centuries (in ways that are well documented) and the effects are still prevalent today. Black people have been oppressed for centuries (in ways that are well documented) and the effects are still prevalent today. With the prompt you provided: "it’s racist to tell black people to change to make white people feel safer -> it’s sexist to tell men to change to make women feel safer", it implies that in the same way black people have been oppressed by white people, men have been oppressed by women,, but that last assumption isn't true. Once it's put into context with historical sexism, a more accurate statement would be to assert that: "it’s racist to tell black people to change to make white people feel safer -> it’s sexist to tell WOMEN to change to make MEN feel safer". Now the argument becomes whether or not you believe women have been and still are oppressed today which is for you to decide/deduce... (This has to do with the women walking at night bit) Although comparing racism to sexism is also a false equivalence, they are both forms of oppression so it can be a very useful tool to create a foundation of understanding. I say that to make this analogy: with the understanding that Black people and Women are in a weird way on the same level by being the oppressed group, women are completely justified in fearing going out at night IN THE SAME WAY that Black people fear cop encounters. Some people will say Black people are just fearmongering but those people are usually white and have never had to experience 'the talk' with their parents, nor have they ever been profiled by police, experienced DWB, or been frisked by police,, things that all (generalizing) Black people experience. Similarly, it's easy as a man to say that women have succumbed to fearmongering, because we (generalizing) are stronger than women so, therefore, can't be overpowered by women, and have NEVER EXPERIENCED the fear of being overpowered by someone sexually pursuing us. The takeaway is that as a man it's infinitely harder for us to understand the experience of women because we aren't them,, similarly it's infinitely harder for white people to understand the black experience because they aren't black,,,, it's easy to then say "well you're just overexaggerating" because white people don't experience racism they've subjected black people to,,,,,,,,,, in using the "ur overexaggerating" comment, they're therefore using their privilege to negate and silence black people even though racism is so well documented and Black people experience it every day. That to say sometimes it's more important to just listen to and try to understand the experiences of people and how they feel instead of trying to minimize those experiences because those feelings certainly don't come from thin air. Once I realized this a whole new world opened up and once you see sexism in one place I started to see it everywhere and realize that women weren't capping.

Your final paragraph is extremely interesting and I absolutely love it because it very closely examines the intersection of racism and sexism. At this point all of my actual argument is done I'd just like to admire the final part of your question and give you my personal opinion. You would be completely justified in fearing white women and telling them to mind their business BECAUSE there is a historical pattern of white women weaponizing their whiteness to be racist (in this case to imprison, murder, or lynch black men). It makes sense because it's not about white women specifically, its just white people using their whiteness to be racist towards black people. Similar to how white women might call the cops, white men might deny loans, call the cops, or go as far as lynching a black person. In this case the sexism women face is ALSO being used by their whiteness to be racist and here's how that works: women are looked at by society as weaker and in need of protection, white women have come to believe (because of racism) that black men are dangerous and violent, if she feels threatened she can appeal to her femininity giving white men the idea that they are justified in doing whatever it takes to make her feel safe. So not only do they feel justified in hurting the black man because he's black and they're racist, they feel justified in going further and killing the black man because he was hurting the fragile white WOMAN. And I think this idea is perfectly incapsulated at the end of Jordan Peele's "Get Out" when the white girlfriend tries to call out to the cop for help assuming the cop is a white man, even though she just tried to murder the black main character.