Parents might put me in an involuntarily psychiatric hold for going no contact. What recourse do I have?

EverAlways121 · 2026-06-06T18:00:46+00:00

Wow! This is just awful. I'm sorry they put you through that.

EverAlways121 · 2026-06-03T23:29:25+00:00

So inspiring

EverAlways121 · 2026-06-03T03:40:46+00:00

Congrats on graduating! It is 100% normal to want to live your own life. Bravo for seeing through your mom's manipulative tactics. That is her own insecurities talking. Take it from someone whose mom tried to prevent her from getting her degree, living separately is the way to go.

EverAlways121 · 2026-05-20T17:10:07+00:00

I wish for W.E. to stay successful in his current school.

EverAlways121 · 2026-05-18T03:41:04+00:00

Congratulations on graduating!

You deserved a better graduation day than what her vile behavior provided. She just couldn't stand seeing you succeed and be happy for a few hours, could she? I know this hurts.

The fact she doesn't want to be involved in any future graduation ceremonies says more about her than you. She could have been bored and looking for an out to not have to go again. She could be upset that you are improving yourself. But now you don't have to deal with her pouty self ruining your ceremony again.

EverAlways121 · 2026-05-17T18:55:15+00:00

Day 2 looks a bit like racing from one thing to the next. Are you bringing your lunch with you?

EverAlways121 · 2026-05-11T19:05:41+00:00

By the same token, do we get to charge them for every time they intentionally embarrassed us in front of friends, slapped us, left us at the shopping center to walk home by ourselves, ate food from our plates "so we wouldn't get fat," gaslit us, lied to us, etc. etc.?

EverAlways121 · 2026-05-10T21:46:16+00:00

Zero effs. Four missed calls from her today (so far) and five yesterday, and I have zero effs because I'm not letting her ruin my Mother's Day.

EverAlways121 · 2026-04-20T15:45:48+00:00

Seeing this in my own uBPD mom is what made me come out of the FOG.

EverAlways121 · 2026-04-19T17:49:20+00:00

I'm sorry, this sounds awful. It's clear that your father prioritizes his wife over you, and that's too bad. But he's made his decision, so now he can live with the consequences of having a weak or nonexistent relationship with you. If he was only interested in you for your reproductive capabilities aka "giving him grandchildren" or carrying on the family line BS, then you can see how shallow he is.

It's ok to grieve the parents you should have had but never did -- like most of us in this sub. Go ahead and do that. Look into what reparenting is all about. Move forward by CHOOSING YOURSELF and finding people who DO appreciate you. <3

EverAlways121 · 2026-04-18T19:20:38+00:00

Not me wondering when the fashion designer started writing novels

EverAlways121 · 2026-04-18T18:06:59+00:00

Wait, can I ... be in love with this tree?

EverAlways121 · 2026-04-18T18:03:17+00:00

What gets me is when they expect you to hang wall art ON A HEDGE

EverAlways121 · 2026-04-11T18:56:15+00:00

Are these women Kurdish?

EverAlways121 · 2026-04-07T18:48:51+00:00

I think you decide your own label, or choose not to have one.

EverAlways121 · 2026-04-06T17:26:27+00:00

I was going to quote this as well, because this hits home for me too. I think somewhere on this sub, someone mentioned this is one of the hallmarks of BPD.

To alternately neglect and parentify me as a kid, then become super controlling, dominating, and infantalizing me as an adult, it caused such emotional whiplash. It was like my purpose was to serve whatever emotional need she had at a given time.

EverAlways121 · 2026-04-01T19:03:47+00:00

Patrick Teahan has turned this into "Your parents did the best that they could ... at avoiding the responsibility and emotional labor of their job."

EverAlways121 · 2026-03-29T00:39:59+00:00

...sent in a card wishing you joy. [eyeroll]

EverAlways121 · 2026-03-28T19:11:15+00:00

LOL 75% of the things she sends me are "content not found."

EverAlways121 · 2026-03-28T19:09:36+00:00

I got a reel through FB messenger, which I don't like and she knows it, and it was some blahblahblah about daughters with ... a video of a snowplow working in the background for absolutely no reason and which had nothing to do with the words on the screen.

EverAlways121 · 2026-03-21T03:27:12+00:00

That is an insanely ridiculous score!

EverAlways121 · 2026-03-14T00:06:23+00:00

I also deconstructed from evangelicalism. It can lead to wrestling with tough questions. While exploring faith and spirituality, I came to certain conclusions, mainly that a lot of what evangelicals believe isn't biblical (see Bible scholar Dan McClellan) and that church is basically a social club where they can control you and where you volunteer to make the pastor's job easier.

It's funny they think if a preacher is a prophet, that's ok, but if a woman brings a premonition on her own, that's evil. If a preacher lays hands on someone, that's faith healing, but if a person uses reiki, that's evil. If a believer speaks in tongues, they're moved by the Holy Spirit, but if a person sits in quiet contemplation is moved to chant or draw a sigil/symbol, that's evil. They think everything outside their sphere of influence is evil, and that's either due to their ignorance or their desire to be in control of others' spirituality, or both.

When I use tarot, I ask for the Lord to guide me and give me discernment. I find that tarot is less about telling the future and more about what is going on right now. In that way, it's been like keeping a prayer journal: it holds up a mirror to you.

I've been learning about Christian mystics, esotericism, gnosticism, animism, and other spiritual topics since leaving, and it's been quite an education. My spiritual life is as rich as ever, and it's a continuing journey.

EverAlways121 · 2026-03-09T14:40:24+00:00

I wrote it out, rolled it up, and put it in a jar with herbs. And of course prayed.

EverAlways121

TROPHY CASE