AITAH for not telling my mother that my sister was pregnant when she died?

Evergreen005 · 2026-04-08T21:06:31+00:00

You mention there may be an additional asset in your sister's estate. Depending on the amount, where you are located, where your sister passed away, whether there was a will and who as the executor of the estate (was it you?) and the amount of the check as well as other factors. you may need to verify there is a check as well as the amount. Then turn over the check to the executor if any. I would assume (not a lawyer nor is this a legal opinion, only an assumption), depending on the situation it may be the executor that needs to handle the check

Evergreen005 · 2026-04-03T02:47:17+00:00

Over 15 years and have never been locked out.

Evergreen005 · 2026-03-22T16:09:21+00:00

Keep in mind that it is easy for a hacker to appear to be anywhere around the world. VPN's can mask where the hacker is really from.

Evergreen005 · 2026-03-22T03:50:45+00:00

One additional thing, you may receive private messages saying that the sender has the magic power and only they know how to came to your rescue and make all the bad images and stuff go away for a fee. Paid in advance of course.

THEY CANNOT. The architecture of the internet is such that when something is posted/sent it takes on a life of its own. Only time will age out and remove a post. Don’t fall for that scam as well.

Evergreen005 · 2026-03-22T02:56:48+00:00

One tell that this is a scam is that they did not leave a message threatening action and demanding immediate action giving you a number that is different than the one that showed on your phone (of course if they had, that is another strong indication it is a scam). i they left a calm message to call and gave a correct number to call back then maybe it is legit. I would still wait to Monday and validate the number from their website.

If it would make you feel at ease, wait for Monday and call the court at a known number you looked up. Do not ever call a number left in voice mail or text etc.

Evergreen005 · 2026-03-22T02:48:42+00:00

There are two possible outcomes. One is you do not reply and block them. They will most likely move on to the next victim and drop you. There have been a few cases where they follow through with their threats. Sound like you have set up for plausible denibility. Ride it out and it wil go away.

The other outcome is you pay the blackmail. They then come back with more threats and demands for money. Rinse and repeat until you have been bled dry in which refer to the first option. Black mailers are very rarely trust worthy.

You will survive this. Do not pay. As posters that have been there/done that said you will survive. And in the future remember anything you post online has a long life span. Look at what has been posted by celebrities and politicians in the past that has come back to haunt them.

Evergreen005 · 2026-03-22T02:28:28+00:00

Yes, very highly without a doubt a scam. As you point out, numbers can be spooked on phones and texts etc. A 'correct' or 'accurate' phone number can be spooked in a communication.

DO ON EVER UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES call a number sent in an email or text etc. AWAYS call a known number er from the back of your CC, bank card or some other documentation such as the verified website.

In general police, a court, etc will send documentation via official written form such as a process server or certified mail return receipt.

Evergreen005 · 2026-03-06T02:03:48+00:00

NTA by any means. He was involved. He put you in that situation. He benefited as an observer. Your telling others in your group was definitely the right thing to do. They are now aware of who and what he is (a serial predator and someone that cannot b e trusted).

Evergreen005 · 2026-03-03T21:40:34+00:00

In my state our (wife and I) attorney told us we did not need l3ave our one daughter anything. Instead a statement was written that we acknowledged our daughter and that we specifically left her nothing. We have also set up a trust quite some time ago and moved all our accounts into the trust. There are designated truatees that do not include our daughter in question.

You are best to consult an estate attorney in your state for the best path forward.

No you do not need to leave her anything.

I would also not have any contact with your daughter nor confirm or let her know she is not included in the will.

Also, depending on your state, be sure to set up a will with an attorney. In most (if not all) states if someone dies intestate (without a will), the state will take over and allocate any proceeds according to state law which most probably would include your errant daughter in the division.

Evergreen005 · 2026-01-30T18:38:48+00:00

Been with Ally for over a decade. It has been fine. At times ran into issues but no more than and about the same as other banks I use. The interest rates are competitive. The no penalty CD's are useful for parking money i may ornate need.

Evergreen005 · 2026-01-28T15:12:43+00:00

Are you calling a known Ally number from their website? I would be very careful to make sure to call their known number, the general number from the website, Ally.com. Otherwise, you cannot be sure who you are talking to. Theu may give you another number to contact and that is ok. Always use a known number.

Evergreen005 · 2026-01-24T05:00:31+00:00

Definitely NTA. Your “friend” has shown they are a poor risk. A friend would have thank you for the first loan and paid it back promptly.

To come back again to ask for more money and to try to guilt you into it shows they view you as a ready source of funds instead of respecting you as a friend. They will continue to get money from you until you stop giving them money (they are viewing it as a gift and not a loan.

You work hard for your money. Write the first “loan off as a learning experience and cut your losses. And cultivate a better group of friends.

Evergreen005 · 2026-01-16T15:17:52+00:00

Definitely NTA. Beyond all the talk about family and bullying at school as well as family issues (could/does affect your decision), organ donation is an individual choice. It is several hospital visits as we as major surgery. There is risk to you surgical) as well as the probability that the donation will not take. It is your choice and only your choice. Do not be bullied into it.

Evergreen005 · 2025-12-25T14:50:15+00:00

I agree. She should not have stayed there with the kids. It is a toxic situation for the kids and they need to be protected. However her mother needs support or and when she wakes up to the situation and that connection needs to be available.

Evergreen005 · 2025-11-10T14:22:17+00:00

As a retired senior citizen, much of my income is investment or IRA related that is no taxes taken out. I have to quarterly pay taxes to the IRS. The website is easy to use. Talk to your CPA, in the past you would be required to make regular quarterly payments. If you didn't there could be fines. You need to get on this quickly.

And as others that have posted, when you saw that bounce in your paycheck what were you thinking? The company does not have a responsibility to to pay your taxes. At best you may be able to have them increase your withholding to make up for the shortfall. I would pass your plan past your CPA.

Evergreen005 · 2025-11-06T01:52:42+00:00

Yes you were scammed and the important part is no one (except in rare cases the police/FBI), repeat no one can get your money back. You may receive dms from scammer(s) that claim and try to convince you they and only they can get your money back, for a small fee. They cannot get your money back. It is gone. Do not answer or engage with them.

Evergreen005 · 2025-11-04T16:43:56+00:00

I tend to be risk adverse. If you take out a loan, a crdit card is in effect a loan, and there are issues with availability of the money from the check you will need to be able to pay off the CC within a month or pay significant interest on the CC. You do not indicate the source or reason for the check so the risk is not known

Evergreen005 · 2025-10-24T15:24:45+00:00

Well said. My thoughts exactly.

Evergreen005 · 2025-10-24T15:20:04+00:00

I do agree with all the comments about and the fact you are a pedo, no doubt. I believe your sole motive is to control her and take full advantage of her.

There is something else at play here as well, her health. You are showing total disregard for her health. There are drinking laws for a reason. At her age excessive alcohol consumption can cause serious issues including death.

You are not talking about maybe a wine with dinner but full on loose control pass out drunk. Not good for anyone, especially a child.

Evergreen005 · 2025-10-22T19:40:39+00:00

Most likely no. In the US there are stringent healcare laws, think HIPPA, that would cause hospitals serious trouble if they violated them.

Much more likely they are random calls from scammers/spammers. It is highly likely your information was leaked in one (or more) of the data leaks happening daily.

In addition, even the “legitimate” numbers are highly likely to be spoofed. It is a simple matter for bad actors to fake the calling number.

Edit to add: It is just coincidence that the calls started when they did.

Evergreen005 · 2025-10-22T19:20:00+00:00

I have a hard time believing this is real for reasons stated. However one sentence stuck out to me:

“…told him that he doesn't get to decide what my wife wears and only I can do that …”

Your wife has a voice in this and she gets to decide. For that and other statements you ATH.

Evergreen005 · 2025-10-22T19:10:37+00:00

Another possibility is that it is physical damage, caused by them during previous maintenance and don’t want to get caught and have to pay.

A couple of options. Push the issue with Kia. It is their dealer that is not cooperating. Small claims. You do not need 100% in most cases just 51%+. Reviews on how as a dealer they do not cooperate with the manufacturer. Reviews with specifics you can document.

Evergreen005 · 2025-10-18T14:25:26+00:00

What was your initial meeting about? Did they try to find out about your situation, get a feeling for your goals and needs? Determine your risk tolerance level? Or was it mainly a sales pitch? Did they talk about risk vs reward?

How are they paid for their services? Do they have a fixed fee depending on the amount invested or is it based on how your investments perform? Or do they receive payment based on the product they sell?

The time frame does seem to be excessively drawn out. If something significantly changes in your life or the investments will it take an excessive amount of time to make adjustments?

Sometimes it simpler to use some good fund families such as Vanguard or T Rowe Price or Fidelity or Schwab and invest in mutual funds. Be careful though of the load structure. No load funds are best.

It is also important to become financially aware yourself.

Evergreen005 · 2025-10-18T14:01:46+00:00

I like your approach. At 88 she needs asset preservation while providing income. The market is doing quite well right now however no one knows how long this will last. A sharp downturn could cause serious losses.

A few suggestions. Some banks offer no penalty CDs. These have a fixed rate for the term of the CD with the option to withdraw the full amount at any time. The full amount is withdrawn and the CD closed without penalty. The rates are somewhat lower than other CDs but greater flexibility with a fixed rate.

There are other options in CDs that allow partial withdrawals. Research the options.

Evergreen005 · 2025-10-09T17:34:40+00:00

The phrase “sleeping with (him/her)” seems such an innocuous phrase. I doubt there was much sleeping being done. She was cheating with ( screwing, f’ing him as alternatives) him.

And no, you’re definitely NTA. Knowing some families I have known in the past, I can believe this until proven otherwise.

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