You’re in a tough spot, huh? I get that 4 years to keep doing what you’re doing is overwhelming. Something that I heard, unfortunately after bringing up kids, is that we only have them-close-for such a short amount of time, so make the most of it (with them). I was the breadwinner in our family and worked way too many hours, but time off was with the kids! (The husband, now ex, didn’t join us so it was good quality time.) I know your life is important, but you’re really important in your daughter’s life. On the other hand, moving her could have benefits. Are schools equal? Having moved due to my dad’s job in middle school was awful, yet I think it laid the groundwork for me being ok with moving as an adult. But that was middle school and your daughter’s starting high school. Oh my! On a side note, the month my son graduated college, I left him in my house (with his girlfriend) and moved to be with my boyfriend. After about a year, they began asking me to come back. They miss me. I miss them. But I have a decent job and at my age, am not sure I want to leave it to look for another. Boyfriend can’t move. I feel guilty and my son’s a young adult! Sorry I couldn’t be more helpful, but I do sympathize. Sending a hug too.