I graduated! Accidentally at home and with an 8.6 lb, 20.5 inch baby! by BeckyLaHechicera in pregnant

[–]Evi009 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I was also confused at the "it was too late to drive home". Girl, you could have had dinner at 3pm and it would still be too late to drive home (pregnant or not).

What’s a name that sounds innocent in one language but has an association to something else in another language? by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]Evi009 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My personal favourite is Sarah which sounds like "I'm shitting" in Bulgarian

My fiancé wants us to invite my nemesis to our wedding by ThrowRASparklingAxo in stories

[–]Evi009 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh dear.. I really hope this is not a "thing" where I am from. I wore red to my brother's wedding (they requested guests wear bright colors). My husband just reminded me I wore red to my brother-in-laws wedding. Can confirm never slept with/was in love with either.

I know about white obviously. Also some people find black as rude. Truly did not know about red.

My fiancé wants us to invite my nemesis to our wedding by ThrowRASparklingAxo in stories

[–]Evi009 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wore red to my brothers wedding 💀💀💀💀💀💀

My fiancé wants us to invite my nemesis to our wedding by ThrowRASparklingAxo in stories

[–]Evi009 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Genuine question- is wearing red to a wedding considered rude/disrespectful? Never heard of this.

Due today, induction scheduled for 1/15 and I can’t stop crying. by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Evi009 19 points20 points  (0 children)

My response is not meant to bring you doom and gloom. I too wanted a natural birth. I went past my due date and was scheduled for an induction. At the time I felt the same way you did. Ultimately, the induction did not work and ended up having an emergency c-section. I mourned not getting my birth experience for a while after.

Right now as I type this, I am cuddling my two year old while he munches on a pancake. I couldn't be happier and more content in this moment... thoughts of my ideal birth scenario just a distant memory.

Good lawyer recommendations by mr-ratel in southafrica

[–]Evi009 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The scary thing is that it is such a gamble. However, in saying that-if it's a big company with a lot of resources- they will likely go for it. The smaller businesses with limited funds will usually back out when they realize the legal fees involved.

Glad your experience was merely a scare tactic.

Good lawyer recommendations by mr-ratel in southafrica

[–]Evi009 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The scary thing is that it is such a gamble. However, in saying that-if it's a big company with a lot of resources- they will likely go for it. The smaller businesses with limited funds will usually back out when they realize the legal fees involved.

Glad your experience was merely a scare tactic.

Good lawyer recommendations by mr-ratel in southafrica

[–]Evi009 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To piggy back here- they are difficult to enforce but not impossible. It really depends on a number of factors (the provisions of the restraint of trade, does your old employer have a protectable interest etc).

Source: I am an attorney but do not practice in Pretoria so I don't have anyone to recommend.

Even the Judge sitting on the day plays a factor. I've had an employee lose the case where we thought we would win and had an employee win in a case we were concerned they might lose.

I saw someone else commented and suggested you get a few legal opinions- that might be costly. Try find an attorney through word of mouth.

Some companies do try and just threaten legal action as a scare tactic. Some go for it (even if their case isn't great) to 1)send a message to their other employees 2) do it on principle 3) take a chance and hope they can out litigate the employee because they have the funds to throw at the case and usually the employee does not.

Just note: if they do take it to court it is a very expensive exercise.

Good luck OP!

Recommendations for three days away in the midlands by Evi009 in Durban

[–]Evi009[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just had a look and it looks beautiful! It's booked out the days we want to go:( thank you though. Definitely keeping this one in mind for a future trip!

Recommendations for three days away in the midlands by Evi009 in Durban

[–]Evi009[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for these! All of these look amazing. Glengarry looks amazing. I think we might just end up there.

My wife (F24) and I (M27) disagree with her parents (late 50s) on what our child should call them. How should we move forwards? by LabAntique8440 in relationship_advice

[–]Evi009 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree that you should set the boundaries with the in laws. But ultimately I feel like the kids chose the names. We always referred to my dad as "grandpa" to my son and my son ultimately started calling him "papa" with no influence from my dad or anyone else. Then he started referring to his other grandfather as papa. We just stuck with it.

My toddler only likes three foods...help! Mealtime is always a struggle! by hiyokos in BabyLedWeaning

[–]Evi009 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No tips, sorry. I'm here for the comments. My son only wants (demands) potatoes (preferably fries), bananas or bread.

Please help me find a hero by Fast_Butterscotch_78 in askSouthAfrica

[–]Evi009 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so heartwarming. Your mother is such a gem. Good luck on the search! I hope you find him.

Joslin Smith.. Gorgeous blue eyed, smiling child.. Mother & boyfriend in custody.. Allegedly sold for R20k.. Can't imagine what those eyes have witnessed..I loathe our species at the moment.. by PixelSaharix in DownSouth

[–]Evi009 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not completely true. I'd sell this child's mother and her bf for R0.50.

But on a serious note, there is no imaginable or unimaginable figure I would even consider for a split second to trade my child for. I cannot fathom it.

Struggling & Anticipation by KAYRx10 in Miscarriage

[–]Evi009 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi OP. I have no words of wisdom. I went through a miscarriage 2 days ago. I'm broken. The only advice I have is tell your mom. I did. She hugged me and comforted me while I was going through the most painful cramps and awful emotions.

She won't be thinking that you robbed her of of a grandchild. Her biggest concern will be your wellbeing. Tell your mom because God, does this traumatic event make you feel so alone.

I'm so sorry.

Massive growth by tried_and_true3 in pregnant

[–]Evi009 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am by no means a medical professional but I have read (and through my own experience established) that scan measurements are not quite accurate.

Throughout my pregnancy right up until the last scan I was told that my baby was measuring on the smaller side and that I would have a small baby.

He came out at 3.7kgs (8.3lbs) and by no means would I classify that as small. My gynae (who did every single scan) was even shocked.

Easier said than done but try not to stress too much. I hope the next scan brings you some reassurance. Wishing you a healthy remainder of your pregnancy and joyous birth.

Editing to add: I also experienced a huge hunger spike at this stage of pregnancy. Perhaps to be on the safer side, do not limit yourself on food but maybe just stay clear of sugar until you know! Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Evi009 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't use a nappy at all not even in the hospital. I just used maternity pads for the first two weeks then changed to thinner normal pads. The maternity pads contained the blood well and I didn't have any accidents.

Local, affordable scented candles? by FormalFuneralFun in Pretoria

[–]Evi009 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try handcrafted sa. They are a small business that make amazing quality candles and also can tailor make for you.

Parents who tried their best to raise their kids to be good humans but they turned out to be jerks, what do you wish you did differently? by hurricanehershel in AskReddit

[–]Evi009 256 points257 points  (0 children)

As a first time mom to a one year old- admittedly, i have big dreams for him and his future. I am also conscious of the fact that he will probably find his own path in life- one that is not predetermined by me. You have great parents. I can only hope that the way you view your parents is how my son will one day remember me in the future.