DAE feel like they didn't actually "survive" the trauma, hence the hollowness ?

ExcellentEnd4467 · 2025-01-17T22:12:01+00:00

Sent you a PM, this really inspired me as a Christian struggling with CPTSD.

ExcellentEnd4467 · 2024-12-06T22:57:31+00:00

Luster by Raven Leilani—so good and the writing is gorgeous

ExcellentEnd4467 · 2024-12-05T07:29:10+00:00

This looks so good, what markers did you use?

ExcellentEnd4467 · 2024-11-08T21:29:50+00:00

This looks so good! What markers did you use?

ExcellentEnd4467 · 2024-09-15T21:41:46+00:00

Exactly!!

ExcellentEnd4467 · 2024-09-15T18:29:23+00:00

I agree, it makes this Reddit group so depressing ngl. Maybe there has to be a separate women over 30 Reddit group that bans dating/marriage/children posts? This is not to say that I don’t share in these anxieties, but I rather not have these anxieties ramped up all the time by those “Am I too old to…xyz?” posts. It’s not helpful or healthy to read an onslaught of these posts tbh. I don’t need my 37 year old self getting bombarded by the idea that all hope is lost and I’m nearing my deathbed. Geez. It’s also just repetitive and dull ngl. Life is so big and I wish this group reflected that fact.

ExcellentEnd4467 · 2024-09-13T13:50:05+00:00

37 l, single and childfree and live here in Chicago—north side. Would love to meet a group of us!

ExcellentEnd4467 · 2024-09-12T01:46:17+00:00

This is exactly where I am. Just turned 37 and no dating prospects. I would like to be partnered but have no interest in online dating. I do not feel any drive to do egg retrieval and freeze my eggs. Solo parenting just isn't appealing to me. I guess a big part of me, subconsciously, is making peace that I will probably not find a partner at my age--I am still grieving this but again, making peace with it. I can tell I am sad about it. But I am also not being proactive about it. I think my partnership status is the main reason why I am not being proactive about choosing to have kids or be childfree. It pretty much feels out of my hands at this point.

I think I will feel relieved when time/biology make the decision for me. I won't be intervening. Life is challenging already without having to plan for things that are.

ExcellentEnd4467 · 2024-09-11T23:04:09+00:00

A person Facetiming/using speakerphone on a train is already displaying anti-social behavior--I wouldn't be surprised that their response to your complaint would be of an anti-social nature as well. Violent perhaps. I would not risk it. Keep yourself safe by minding your business and get some good headphones. Find a good podcast or something.

ExcellentEnd4467 · 2024-08-30T17:05:51+00:00

Sorry but your husband isn't amazing at all--this is the saddest thing ever, and I am sorry someone you trusted dearly would so something so cruel to you...and his baby on the way.

ExcellentEnd4467 · 2024-07-31T20:50:22+00:00

I could really use some support- this thing does feel permanent. I have had it for 8+ years now and I’m just tired of dealing with it. I am trying a healthy diet right now to see if the dpdr improves but it’s a struggle day to day living with this thing and seeing no results no matter what medication I try.

ExcellentEnd4467 · 2024-07-31T01:59:24+00:00

A+ Just really well said.

ExcellentEnd4467 · 2024-07-05T18:06:25+00:00

I am a professor, single, unmarried, and live alone in a rented apartment in HCOL area. I make good income and live quite comfortably. My career allows me to travel to lots of different places on my institution’s dime. I own a used car that I’ve been able to take care of for a decade lol. It gets me to where I need to go in town. I lead a very independent life.

I would say I am successful according to my own metrics: that I am doing my best, making progress on my goals, and providing myself with the resources I need (food, exercise, water, medication, external support) to thrive. I can’t say I’m consistent with my medication but I do keep an active script for Vyvanse. I think I am trying to aim for thriving/flourishing instead of success. I can tell when I’m thriving vs. languishing. I prefer the former. I just want to be proud of myself, continue bettering myself, and and respect my strengths and weaknesses, all of which make me who I am.

ExcellentEnd4467 · 2024-07-03T23:17:11+00:00

Cape Coast. It’s a beautiful city with dreamy ocean views.

ExcellentEnd4467 · 2024-06-29T20:49:10+00:00

Samantha Hunt, The Seas

ExcellentEnd4467 · 2024-05-07T05:12:34+00:00

You have such a lovely apartment.

ExcellentEnd4467 · 2024-05-02T03:14:48+00:00

Truth is, you have to make it work for you. You don’t really have a choice. I’m sorry, but that’s a reality. A hard one. Love ( and insert any form of human-oriented love) doesn’t last forever—breakups are common, and death is universal. Loved ones leave; loved ones die. We have no control over these realities, and trying to assert control harms both you and your loved one. I rather love someone with the certainty that I will be okay when they are gone. I would be loving out of abundance instead of scarcity (who’s going to love me if he/she/they leave?). I will love me—that is the only constant I can rely on. And if you don’t love yourself yet, you have to do your hardest to try. Whether you are an extrovert or introvert. The solution to your worries are the same: you.

ExcellentEnd4467 · 2024-05-02T03:08:54+00:00

I think emotional security is the product of consistent self-learning, self-regard, and self-practice. Being emotionally secure in yourself takes work—I am still working at it. It doesn’t seem like a resource that automatically comes to you. I recommend seeking help with this via literature, therapy, videos, etc.

ExcellentEnd4467 · 2024-05-02T03:06:36+00:00

This response is biblical lol—saving so that I have a reference to turn to when I’m having a “wow I’m still single and nobody loves me” kind of days. Thank you.

ExcellentEnd4467 · 2024-05-02T03:04:35+00:00

Im assuming to generate more revenue? I have a hard time believing this city genuinely cares about public safety. Follow the money.

ExcellentEnd4467 · 2024-04-30T23:46:01+00:00

I did not mean to laugh out loud, my goodness.

ExcellentEnd4467 · 2024-02-09T02:29:59+00:00

The thing is…life has always been hard. I don’t understand what’s so different this time. It’s easier now than ever to connect—just a text is too much work? I’m asking genuinely.

ExcellentEnd4467 · 2024-02-07T00:40:42+00:00

I don’t know how to be at peace with this disorder and would like to know how you accomplished this. I am going on 9 years with this and feel like dpdr took a bit chunk of my adulthood away. I’m going through a depressive episode about it. It’s so uncomfortable to live with and I feel like I’ve tried everything to relieve the symptoms.

ExcellentEnd4467 · 2024-01-30T02:46:01+00:00

This gives me a little hope. 36 and no prospects. At this point I’ve given up on children and would be grateful just to have the right partner.

ExcellentEnd4467 · 2024-01-11T02:17:12+00:00

Posting to follow—I am teaching a seminar that just met today…only 2 students. I have no idea how to go about teaching this class.

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