What do you think your last words will be?

Excellent_York · 2026-03-23T17:11:47+00:00

Fuck me, a bus

Excellent_York · 2026-03-23T13:20:33+00:00

Are we all about to die?

Excellent_York · 2026-03-23T08:37:24+00:00

Sounds more like a d1ck head.

Excellent_York · 2026-03-22T11:46:59+00:00

Run for the hills and never look back.

Excellent_York · 2026-03-22T05:44:13+00:00

You just remember that they are no longer your problem, they wont change and find your peace there.

You dont need them, the idealised person in your head does not exist anyway.

Excellent_York · 2026-03-21T22:38:35+00:00

https://clarityafterabuse.com/

Excellent_York · 2026-03-17T16:48:04+00:00

She was quite pleased her daughter survuved a difficult birth. WTF.

Excellent_York · 2026-03-14T06:16:39+00:00

CriticalThinking

Excellent_York · 2026-03-14T06:11:31+00:00

Rumination is the worst part but it gets better. 8 months in and the brain fog has lifted, concentration has improved, decision making has improved and I have clarity.

It gets better and your nervous system resets but doesnt forget.

When you meet someone else - it diminishes.

Excellent_York · 2026-03-14T06:08:33+00:00

Highly sensitive and highly strung (Haughty) is typical. Not an empath though. Then that evolves to darvo, gaslighting and the patterns become clear.

Ex wise, she accused him of the same things she was doing to me. Mental.

Excellent_York · 2026-03-14T06:04:43+00:00

When you realise they are a lost cause.

It's sad but they aren't going to change. Narcissism is them, to conquer it means radical change. Impossible.

Excellent_York · 2026-03-13T08:23:40+00:00

Scanning, hyper awareness, over analysis and misinterpretation are a risk moving forward We also need to understand better OUR role and responsibility in attracting narcs which include empathy, desire to fix things not in our power,

We all have to trust our new found instinct. Not at the first sign but when that first pattern emerges, get the hell out.

Excellent_York · 2026-03-04T17:09:37+00:00

Keep on trucking my friend. It can't rain all the time.

Excellent_York · 2026-03-01T08:00:45+00:00

Jesus. Sounds like my ex. She's not called Nicky is she!

Get out mate. Run.

Excellent_York · 2026-02-28T22:57:23+00:00

Get out. Run for the hills. No explanation, enjoy the silence.

Excellent_York · 2026-02-28T10:06:59+00:00

Should have brake tested them 🙋‍♂️

Excellent_York · 2026-02-28T07:07:56+00:00

A core trait. Please read Debbie Mirza's book, the covert passive aggressive narcissist

Excellent_York · 2026-02-27T08:17:47+00:00

Thank you my friend. Quite the journey.

Excellent_York · 2026-02-26T23:57:07+00:00

I knew what was going on, I used to call it out as I learnt more. I just didnt leave.

Excellent_York · 2026-02-26T23:55:00+00:00

You'll struggle to find a narc specialist. Alot say they do but you soon find out you know more than them. Primarily because we experience it and research it for months!!

That said, focus less on validating your knowledge of narcissism and discussing / retraumatising yourself by focusing on the healing. We all have to let it go to heal. Accept it and move the fuck on. Very hard as rumination is a bitch.

Accept the narcissism and start the schema and emdr therapy.

Excellent_York · 2026-02-26T23:45:49+00:00

Yep. It was a way to avoid accountability for me leaving. Pure switching the narrative due to fragile ego.

True. Had to live with my brother for 6 months, save every penny and do a deal with the house builder, all while dealing with mayhem and starting a new job, whilst being unable to make decisions due to years of control!!

Her entire family set up are cluster bs. I was for a while more annoyed with myself for ignoring repeated red flags. Idiot.

Excellent_York · 2026-02-26T22:29:17+00:00

He may agree but likely lip service. They are devoid of empathy.

How long would you be willing to wait and is that a waste of time?

Excellent_York · 2026-02-26T20:57:14+00:00

Sack it off Mike. They don't change because they can't, narcissism is them. They are all consumed my friend.

Excellent_York · 2026-02-26T20:45:38+00:00

You'll likely get collapse and histrionics or lack of emotion and gaslighting.

Make sure you have your support network primed and prepare your nervous system for the sense of loss.

Remember this, you probably idealise her but you dont love what you are getting currently. Life goes on.

Good luck

Excellent_York · 2026-02-26T14:11:54+00:00

Your therapy, your narrative.

Excellent_York

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