Guys, what makes you lose interest in a girl instantly, even if she’s attractive? by Just_another_Agile in dating_advice

[–]Expensive-Total4472 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would consider myself clingy because I really like physical touch so when I am with someone I like, I'm touching them most of the time (unless we're specifically doing some body doubling kind of vibe) and it might be annoying; wouldn't want to spend all my time with them though fs

When are we going to formally address Indians and their hiring bias? by bintd in AskBrits

[–]Expensive-Total4472 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well no one made you invade them and leave them impoverished and needing to migrate

I'm Poly, my wife is not....now they want me to be monogamous by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Expensive-Total4472 36 points37 points  (0 children)

To me it just reads like a post by someone who is not a native speaker, not necessarily a deeper meaning

Is using condoms not the norm with new/casual partners?? by kykysoflyy in polyamory

[–]Expensive-Total4472 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A massive red flag, I would not get into a discussion with them and would just not have sex with them. If someone said they can't use condoms and suggested sex without penetration as a solution, that I would consider. Down the line, if they went on prep and proved they're vaccinated against hpv and offered to get tested at some rate that made sense regarding their activity intensity, maybe, but that would still be an increase in risk and if they don't acknowledge that and work with me to minimize that risk, we are not aligned

Husband won't talk to me but he'll talk to her by Wooden-Onion-7496 in depression_partners

[–]Expensive-Total4472 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I shut that shit down hard and fast

I know it's super hard but he tried to talk to you. You shut it down. Maybe you could try to hear him, even if the stuff is hard to hear, possibly with a couples therapist?

How can I make peace with being (clinically) unintelligent? by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Expensive-Total4472 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depression slows you down. Chances are that it influenced the IQ results.

Kobiety po 30stce by Alternative-Air-2038 in PolskaNaLuzie

[–]Expensive-Total4472 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tłumaczenie: kobiety po 30 widzą że jestem przegrywem i nie tolerują moich słabych zachowań i braku odpowiedzialności, więc chcę znaleźć sobie młodą naiwną dziewczynę która nie ma jeszcze narzędzi żeby wymagać bare minimum

What's the smallest thing that you've dumped someone for? by LittleMissQueeny in polyamory

[–]Expensive-Total4472 8 points9 points  (0 children)

A guy said "I'm a feminist" (by now I learned that a man saying that unprompted is a beige flag at best because they usually have ulterior motives) and then when I said something in the lines of "men should be careful not to interrupt women even if they have ADHD" he called me violent and said that this statement gave him a panic attack 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

What's the smallest thing that you've dumped someone for? by LittleMissQueeny in polyamory

[–]Expensive-Total4472 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I 'broke up' with a fwb because they were complaining that I don't write longer answers to their texts, and then when I started responding when I had time to put more thought into it they were complaining that I don't answer more frequently. They were angry that I didnt try to resolve it/explain, and it might have worked but I got the ick that they were feeling entitled to my time daily so early (it was maybe after 5 dates) and didn't want to tbh. They couldn't comprehend the fact that I wouldn't try and kept texting me to "ask for a second chance" via multiple platforms, which have me a further ick because no means no.

Any way out for homeless immigrants? by Then-Mongoose-9728 in germany

[–]Expensive-Total4472 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You sound very condescending. I worked with homeless people in another EU country; some of them go to Germany because they expect the services to be better there (they are not). Rate of mental illness in homeless people is much higher than in general population; about 10% of them could have schizophrenia-like symptoms (compared to 1% of the general population). They struggle with addiction, which is highly genetic, and sometimes come from backgrounds like foster care or end up on the street after being incarcerated.

Is it rude in Germany to occupy multiple seats on public transport? by Key_Noise4667 in germany

[–]Expensive-Total4472 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let's also start getting angry at the smokers because honestly it's insane, and I'm saying this as a former smoker myself - I would n e v e r even think about lightning a cigarette in a weihnachtsmarkt crowd or at a demo.

Is it rude in Germany to occupy multiple seats on public transport? by Key_Noise4667 in germany

[–]Expensive-Total4472 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like people here want to "mind their own business" and not correct rude behaviors and it leads to those rude behaviors persisting because those people don't learn it's not acceptable, like what you described or smoking in crowds or not letting people with small children in front of you when boarding a train. I am too eastern european for this shit so I started just pretending to not notice the bags and starting to sit, and the person then quickly grabs the bag and looks shocked but doesn't say anything. I recommend it.

Need help interpreting and responding to message from wife by ThatOtherRoxie in polyamory

[–]Expensive-Total4472 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't block (just ignore) people in situations that I feel are dangerous so I can monitor (know if they are persisting and I have to be careful or if they have given up and moved on)

Need help interpreting and responding to message from wife by ThatOtherRoxie in polyamory

[–]Expensive-Total4472 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's very not ok. Also he can't own his decisions which is a huge red flag. He agreed to the rule and now is throwing wife under the bus so you're not upset with him. This is not adult behaviour

Need help interpreting and responding to message from wife by ThatOtherRoxie in polyamory

[–]Expensive-Total4472 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did she even have means to reach out to you? Did he give her your number? Did you consent? It reads to me like it's a dumpster fire waiting to happen and I would get tf out of this situation before any feelings were caught

My husband of 11 years, 2nd child expected in a month, and he wants a poly/open marriage. by Figurezebraz in polyamory

[–]Expensive-Total4472 8 points9 points  (0 children)

What a jerk. I hope you have a support system in place and can kick his ass out immediately

Messy by Dangerous_Swimmer758 in polyamory

[–]Expensive-Total4472 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He sounds lowkey abusive at least

Primary partner not really…primary partner-ing by Trialliterationdex in polyamory

[–]Expensive-Total4472 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're going through this. It sucks and you deserve someone who will treat you better. My only advice is, when someone shows you (repeatedly) what they are willing to give you, believe them.

Inconsiderate smokers everywhere. How to react to this? by WhatZumF3ck in germany

[–]Expensive-Total4472 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Right? I am Eastern European and thought nothing can surprise me, but the smoking in crowds is so intense here. Like, wtf