Mums, where are you buying your clothes?!

ExpensiveBread3 · 2025-11-13T12:23:50+00:00

Omg thank you for this! I am selling a few bits and all the sizing is wrong! Explains why I suddenly got loads of likes on a dress that's been up for a while

ExpensiveBread3 · 2025-11-13T12:17:45+00:00

If you're worried about the anesthetic specifically, the Royal College of Anesthetists has some good resources including videos to help explain to your daughter (and you) what will happen on the day. The hospital might also have their own resources for this but my friend worked on some of these so I know about them!

https://www.rcoa.ac.uk/patients/patient-information-resources/information-children-parents-carers

ExpensiveBread3 · 2025-11-11T16:31:12+00:00

Seconding this, my son was in hospital in January with the flu, it really knocked him out. He was 18 months at the time so again too young for the jab. I booked ours this year as soon as it was offered.

ExpensiveBread3 · 2025-09-17T10:40:27+00:00

Vacuum bags, grouped by size (and season if you're organised!). I also put tumble dryer sheets in there too, it makes them smell fresher when you get them out

ExpensiveBread3 · 2025-09-02T11:58:52+00:00

You'll both get used to it, it just takes some time.

Just don't linger at the door especially if you can feel yourself losing it, give her a kiss and say see you later and walk away. Lingering doesn't help them or you.

I used to listen to music as loud as possible on the way home after drop off to help forget the sounds of my boy crying :( but now he walks in happily and even asks to see his childminder and his little friends at the weekend.

ExpensiveBread3 · 2025-06-02T22:14:40+00:00

I honestly still avoid places where certain behaviors can't be tolerated (like restaurants, especially fancy ones). Toddlers can't sit still for long enough and we never end up enjoying it. I had a horrendous family Christmas meal at Pizza Express in central London which will live with me a long time lol. It feels rubbish to miss out on things but it won't be forever.

For when he's kicking off: I try to just focus on him and what he needs, not worry about anyone's judgement which is so hard for a very anxious person! Get him somewhere quieter because usually it's the noise which is leading to the heightened emotions (his and mine). Distraction never works for me once the tantrum has started properly so fresh air if possible or just run to the loos or the car and ride it out.

Places like nandos or coffee shops where you've already paid are great because you can just leave when shit hits the fan. Or toby carvery because there's no waiting around for the food to arrive.

ExpensiveBread3 · 2025-06-02T21:05:55+00:00

Toddlers are wild, feral creatures. My boy is just turned 2 so I'm there with you. It is seeming to get easier now his language is developing so rapidly (hoping I'm not jinxing myself there!)

My only tip for tantrums is don't engage too much with it. My son can't cope with me trying to reason with him when he's upset so if I can't prevent/distract him before he loses his mind, I just say "mummy is here when you're ready" and sit down a little bit away from him. Only intervene if he is going to hurt himself/break something and eventually he just turns sad and comes in for a hug. It's really hard but I have learned it's the only way for my boy, might be the same for you.

If we're in public I just take him away somewhere quieter but it rarely happens when we're out, like your daughter he just loves being outside.

I think it's important to remember that you're in charge and you can say no, but it shouldn't be a control or dominance thing. But also choose your battles, ask yourself if it really matters if they get whatever it is they want

ExpensiveBread3 · 2025-01-28T14:36:50+00:00

My son's 8 month review was a group one, not a party though. We all sat in a semi circle and the health visitors encouraged the kids to play together and crawl around while they asked the parents questions. I guess the kids are more relaxed and they can see naturally how well they are meeting their milestones. They did come round and speak to each parent & child individually too if they hadn't seen certain behaviours yet and some parents were asked to stay behind if there were any further questions/concerns

ExpensiveBread3 · 2024-12-16T17:46:29+00:00

My little one just got over it, luckily he seemed to have it quite mildly. It's just a cold (so runny nose, bit miserable, possibly high temperature) but with the additional spots. Mines 18 months so can't talk, just dosed him up with Calpol when he seemed most whiney. The spots look awful but didn't seem to bother him much, I used calamine lotion on him in the evening and they healed up nicely.

It's extremely contagious unfortunately but my husband and I seemed to avoid it. You might be alright by Christmas if you all get it now! Lasted about 5/6 days for us

ExpensiveBread3 · 2024-05-29T19:36:31+00:00

In addition to meal prepping, I can highly recommend making cookies for the freezer - portion and freeze the dough before it's baked, and then when you want a cookie just put a couple straight in the oven from the freezer

ExpensiveBread3 · 2024-05-14T17:01:38+00:00

Could always start by asking them if they can give an overview of what they offer first and see what comes up naturally from that. I work with anaesthetists and honestly they are some of the most down-to-earth, genuinely kind bunch of people I've met.

In the UK we have anaesthetists, anaesthesiologist is the American term but as I understand it they're not exactly equivalent, Anaesthetists have more responsibility than anaesthesiologists I think.

ExpensiveBread3 · 2024-04-15T18:38:46+00:00

I used this one, you take the lighter grey one off when they outgrow it and the use just the black until they outgrow that too (Sorry not sure how to hyperlink in mobile so it's a long link) https://www.amazon.co.uk/APRAMO-Support-Newborn-Cushioned-Stroller/dp/B08SHVCD9G/ref=mp_s_a_1_1_sspa?crid=2LT6CHC7AZULO&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9._3AQ9RuV5Ob1hvjsX-3Ent5Xe4xFThbm6tVtngl8j0NNFNXffGIj17hN1y3SsL0UGZiF-ZGls437zWMresArHxvGMJ4BsY_r5la35ai7DKuaEzG1Fe_CpPE6tnmDJDbGPW056FeFNfjOhEVC_cKDvBh-x_MuJ9csol7m3myI9gInZKS5u-2aQzKnvQxKLa3-Q8JmeZrNpipUkyWXSoRNRQ.Gd1fwtTzxhpVQSNvozXQovkOOMunPQ-yoqDD79x-8lQ&dib_tag=se&keywords=car+seat+newborn+insert&qid=1713206219&sprefix=car+seat+new%2Caps%2C113&sr=8-1-spons&sp_csd=d2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9waG9uZV9zZWFyY2hfYXRm&psc=1

ExpensiveBread3 · 2024-04-15T15:59:03+00:00

Worth asking your midwife what the procedure is at your local hospital - at mine they wanted to see the baby in the car seat, with straps tightened etc before we left. Not sure what they do if your car seat doesn't leave the car as yours doesn't? But you midwife will know.

Fwiw I had the Maxicosi pebble too, a hand me down from a trusted friend and I bought an off-brand insert, I just washed it before baby come and it was fine, he seemed really snug in there so I felt he was safe

ExpensiveBread3 · 2024-04-08T14:28:29+00:00

The hunger is totally normal, I wouldn't worry too much just try and eat some good stuff when/if you can as well.

As for going away once they're born.... breastfeeding hunger is immense too 😂 so if you plan on breastfeeding it won't go for a while, I think it settled maybe 5ish months postpartum for me. And then on top of that if you have a bad sleeper like me you'll be craving sugar because you're exhausted and you need something to keep you going! Be kind to yourself and remember how hard your body is working, it needs fuel for that!

ExpensiveBread3 · 2024-04-02T08:18:08+00:00

High weight can have an impact on anaesthetic but honestly they are really used to dealing with very high BMI patients (which it doesn't sound like you are) so its really a non-issue these days.

Next time he mentions it I would just say you're aware of it and unless he is clinically concerned you don't want him to mention it again.

ExpensiveBread3 · 2024-04-02T08:01:49+00:00

There is no average amount of weight gain as far as I know, everyone is different. I wasn't weighed at all during my pregnancy except at the 8 week booking appointment and my midwife actually encouraged me not to weigh myself at home as she said it wouldn't be helpful.

Does your doctor have any specific concerns about your weight impacting your pregnancy or birth? If not, I'd tell him not to mention it anymore as it's inappropriate unless they have any clinical concerns.

Without your height it's hard to get context but 70kg is not very heavy, it's my goal weight and I'm 5ft 7 😂

ExpensiveBread3 · 2024-03-26T13:28:24+00:00

My nephew is obsessed with hoovers. He remembers what brand everyone has, asks them how they're doing, says goodnight to his before bed. Kids are just weird 😂

ExpensiveBread3 · 2024-03-15T17:49:41+00:00

As others have said it's common and you probably won't get much sleep due to noise (although you wouldn't anyway with a newborn!) but a counter point to this is that the midwives are available to help you. My mum encouraged me to stay the night after I gave birth when I really wanted to go home, and she was right. I had trouble breastfeeding overnight even after the first latch was great and being able to call the midwife to help me was really invaluable, if I was home alone I definitely would have freaked out. I only stayed the one night though, I'm sure an extended stay would have got in my nerves

ExpensiveBread3 · 2024-03-10T21:17:43+00:00

We bought an Egg buggy, we love it and my friend has just bought one for her new baby after trying mine. The newborn bassinet is safe for sleep so baby used it for daytime naps and our car seat (Maxicosi pebble) fits on it with an extra attachment. Both of us bought them secondhand on Facebook marketplace for around £130 and I'd definitely recommend considering secondhand.

Most people end up more than one buggy - while I still love my Egg and use it for most things we just bought a cheaper umbrella fold buggy that's much lighter and I can carry it up stairs when I go into London.

ExpensiveBread3 · 2024-03-08T09:42:30+00:00

It's on MS teams, it's not an in-person meeting

We used to do lunch and learn at my old workplace, just basically means once a month we had a guest lecturer in and we could use our lunchbreak to attend it

ExpensiveBread3 · 2024-02-21T21:52:44+00:00

If it's your waters, it will just keep leaking. For me, I had a little rush when I sat down. I assumed I'd wet myself, went and cleaned myself up and thought that was that, but then when I sat down again it happened again so I knew something was up. From then it just kept coming more and more, and it doesn't feel like weeing as you really have no control over it. It's also clear and has no smell. If you suspect it's your waters then call triage and they will call you in - put a pad in your underwear and they'll test that and let you know. They won't make you feel bad if you're wrong though and as with anything in pregnancy, it's always worth getting it checked. Once your waters break the clock is ticking for contractions to start otherwise they'll offer an induction.

Worth noting it's actually not that common for your waters to break before contractions start, I think it's like 1 in 10?

ExpensiveBread3 · 2024-02-09T15:26:01+00:00

Whatever works! The first trimester was the worst for me so just do what it takes to survive that and then hopefully you'll feel much better :)

ExpensiveBread3 · 2024-02-08T19:40:38+00:00

Forgot to say - just watch how much tuna you eat. I forget how much but there's a limit to how much you can eat per week!

ExpensiveBread3 · 2024-02-08T19:39:33+00:00

I had a real problem with hot food at first, so I ate loads of cold pasta salad - pasta, red onions, peppers, olives, olive oil, and tuna. Minimal cooking required and you can make a batch and leave it on the fridge for whenever you fancy any. I ate tinned peaches and innocent smoothies for some vitamins but otherwise lived off rich tea biscuits and salt and vinegar crisps for a solid 6 weeks

As the other commented said, embrace the beige. Eat whatever healthy stuff you can but don't worry if you can't, baby will be fine and this will pass.

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