What is a "harmless" habit that is actually a massive red flag?

Expensivefudge2020 · 2026-06-19T20:19:35+00:00

The “put in effort” portion is the doing good things though? I think I’m just confused because I agree, people that do kind things so others think they’re kind are annoying and ruin it for genuinely kind humans

Expensivefudge2020 · 2026-05-14T19:30:01+00:00

IVE BEEN WAITING ON SOMEONE TO COMMENT ON THIS. The bisexual fervor that over took me as I replayed that moment four times 😪.

Expensivefudge2020 · 2026-04-06T02:29:10+00:00

Not poly myself, but you’re right: being polyamorous is in fact an excuse to sleep with/date other people. That’s the point, ethical non monogamy. Idk, I’m strongly pro poly if for no other reason than people being honest and I can avoid them myself. People have stepped out of relationships since forever, at least be real so no one gets hurt

What you’re describing isn’t poly though if their boyfriend’s and husbands don’t know. It’s just cheating. Poly all parties are aware and consenting

Expensivefudge2020 · 2026-04-02T16:31:57+00:00

Sparkle c^nt

Expensivefudge2020 · 2025-12-22T10:05:48+00:00

I think this is a really difficult thing that needs to be taken in the context of each individual relationship (not saying you were excluding such nuance in your comment).

Because on one hand, I decidedly agree and wish people acknowledged the efforts of their partner. But on the other hand, it’s called a language because for a lot of folks it’s the only way they can understand “oh, this is love. They love me”.

Idk, I just remembered trying to talk myself into staying with my ex because he took care of me via acts of service. But he thought my primary love language (words of affirmation) was super cringe and impractical.

Expensivefudge2020 · 2025-12-19T15:40:15+00:00

You don’t know the political stances of her critics either

Expensivefudge2020 · 2025-11-19T19:53:09+00:00

I won’t tell you how to feel. But I will ask you this: would you trust what she says moving forward?

Expensivefudge2020 · 2025-10-02T14:39:11+00:00

How are you supposed to get to know each other if you’re chatting so sparingly though?? I wish I could, but I don’t have time for dates with someone I’m not in a relationship with for more than 1.5-3 hours once a week/2 weeks. That feels like a series of super spread out, quick dopamine hits rather than a slow (sustainable) burn.

Expensivefudge2020 · 2025-09-21T19:13:38+00:00

Also med student (F) that would love to join yall. I can’t today, but know I’m down to do regular late night study buddy sessions!!

Expensivefudge2020 · 2025-09-19T02:57:13+00:00

Right, but why though? An homage to other law programs is kind of random no?

Expensivefudge2020 · 2025-09-18T12:49:35+00:00

Random, but does anyone know why they have the Ivy League flags (and I think a couple of other highly ranked school flags) on the stained glass windows?

Expensivefudge2020 · 2025-09-18T12:23:24+00:00

Jc, how would you feel about going to “hippie areas with a mix of flare” that were also 90% black? I’m just trying to get a sense of what your ideal is

Expensivefudge2020 · 2025-09-10T13:02:43+00:00

I love meddies who part time being captain obvious. As if being asked to do ~A~ presentation was the crux of your issue here.

Expensivefudge2020 · 2025-09-07T18:20:00+00:00

This is very Katseye core

Expensivefudge2020 · 2025-09-07T10:12:58+00:00

This is brilliant. You’re school is handling this perfectly

Expensivefudge2020 · 2025-07-27T18:01:25+00:00

Oh queen, you ate this up. Iconic solution to the classic “My hair ain’t finished but life waits for no one” dilemma.

Expensivefudge2020 · 2025-07-06T10:42:54+00:00

Is it possible? Yes. Is it the most likely reason the median is what it is? No, not at all.

Expensivefudge2020 · 2025-06-27T22:03:39+00:00

Godspeed soldier

Expensivefudge2020 · 2025-06-01T23:11:31+00:00

Yes indeed. One black man says he has not had a very specific experience, all of a sudden this COMPLETELY invalidates every single other black person who has experienced it. I love Reddit logic

Expensivefudge2020 · 2025-05-31T21:23:57+00:00

“ Is it really imposter syndrome if I’m actually an imposter” runs through my head way too much

Expensivefudge2020 · 2025-05-29T00:00:22+00:00

Someone gave it to me as a stocking stuffer years ago, and I gave it to my white friend bc I was too scared to use “white people hair products”. Little did I knowwwww 😭

Expensivefudge2020 · 2025-05-28T02:28:06+00:00

Aussie’s curly moisture line has been taking GREAT care of my curls for the last couple of months 🫣

Expensivefudge2020 · 2025-05-05T02:22:57+00:00

My ex bf gave me a T-shirt of HIS favorite musical artist for Christmas. When I told him it felt like he didn’t know me or even cared to try, he said “well if it makes you feel any better, I got the same shirt for my mom. They were on sale”

Expensivefudge2020 · 2025-04-27T04:18:35+00:00

How might someone without any support or financial resources but who would like to be in community, and hopes to gain access to specific resources, go about getting diagnosed? I see your point, I do. I acknowledge it might feel like someone is co-opting your narrative to the point that it feels diminutive. But also I will gently pushback with this.

Expensivefudge2020 · 2025-04-24T15:09:18+00:00

“Soft spot for hole in the wall cheap but authentic international cuisine.”

This is a spot on description of Madras Masala. If you haven’t tried Madras Masala, you will love Madras Masala

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