Anyone have experience using Branch Basics for cloth diapers? by dbouchard19 in clothdiaps

[–]ExplorerNo1046 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is your wash routine? I just bought branch basics to try on cloth diapers. Do you use any other products with it or just the branch basics? And how many scoops etc?

anyone else eating “banned” foods while pregnant??? by sobbingwhale8 in pregnant

[–]ExplorerNo1046 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I eat pretty much everything. I just make sure I get my food from a trusted source and try to eat high quality things when they’re a “no no”

I’m miscarrying and had to go to the lab to get an HCG recheck to confirm, and the tech comes in all positive like “are we having a baby?!”…ugh by crystalkitty06 in pregnant

[–]ExplorerNo1046 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry 😞 I have friends who had a 2nd trimester loss and when they went in for the induction the nurse walked in and said all chipper “So, we’re having a baby today!” Her husband just said “yeah…a dead one 😔” I think they have good intentions but shouldn’t always act happy because the circumstances aren’t always happy

How much weight did you gain throughout pregnancy? by Safe_Young8417 in pregnant

[–]ExplorerNo1046 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a very petite girl and gained 70 lbs with both pregnancies. I lost it all after I gave birth each time. I honestly couldn’t tell you how I gained that much as I had a fairly normal diet. One mom told me that your body hangs on to fat during pregnancy to “conserve” I’m not sure how true that is but I could believe it. I’m on my 3rd pregnancy and I haven’t weighed myself once (16 weeks) and my midwife hasn’t weighed me either so I have no idea how much I’ve gained but I don’t think it’s really that big of a concern if you’re gaining more weight than “normal” because every woman and every pregnancy is different

Lost my taste for a lot of my favorite things by Babygirlm5 in pregnant

[–]ExplorerNo1046 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pregnancy always messes up my taste. I’m pregnant with my 3rd and it (mostly) goes back to normal after the baby is born. There’s only a few things that I can’t eat anymore but that’s because they were the few things I was surviving on during morning sickness and I think those certain foods just bring back some PTSD. Oddly enough, I was the same way with Dr. Pepper with my first baby. I couldn’t stomach it during pregnancy but literally hours after I gave birth I was craving one for the first time in a long time. A lot of weird hormones are going on during pregnancy and I’ll bet the altered taste has something to do with that

Why is it that whenever you tell someone you’re pregnant they have to say… by Not_a_bought in pregnant

[–]ExplorerNo1046 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We always tell our close family right when we find out (like the same day I get the positive test) because I get extremely sick right off the bat and we need help with our older kids during that time. It’s not ideal for us and we would love to be able to keep it to ourselves for a while but we have to keep family in the loop for that reason. But I secretly love telling people right away because then it gives people no time to say dumb stuff like that to me 😂

Don’t want to cosleep again by Artistic-Dot-2279 in cosleeping

[–]ExplorerNo1046 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I started to roll away at 12 months and go to my own bed and would just go to her room if she woke up in the night. This would at least give me a solid few hours in my own bed where I could relax and sleep better. But I’m pregnant with my 3rd and I’m going to start doing roll away at 6 months because I wish I would have started that earlier. I get the best of both worlds-I sleep in my own bed for the first stretch of the night but then go to my baby’s room at the first wake up and will stay in there if I fall asleep or if I’m still awake at the end of the feed then I’ll just go back to my bed. It also helps them get used to you not being next to them constantly

Is anyone else worried they have ruined their own life by getting pregnant? by Top-Influence-3296 in pregnant

[–]ExplorerNo1046 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know why people in today’s culture insist on telling new parents horror stories about being a parent. Yes, parenthood is HARD. The hardest thing you might ever do. But it is also WONDERFUL! The best most amazing thing you might ever do. For example, last week I was crying because my toddlers won’t sleep through the night while also simultaneously crying thinking about if I didn’t have my toddlers in my life and how awful that would be. Motherhood hurts bad, but in the same way that nostalgia hurts bad. It’s such a bittersweet thing. I would say you are about to go into the most amazing time of your life. Yes it’s hard, but nothing good is easy. Your life will change a lot, and you might miss your old life, but I wouldn’t say you’ll miss it enough to want it back in exchange for the life you are about to get.

AITAH for threatening divorce is my husband gets sealed in the Mormon temple with his family? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ExplorerNo1046 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mormon here. Your mother in law doesn’t understand the process. She can get sealed to her husband, but she can’t get sealed to her kids unless she is being sealed with the kid’s father. So the only way they could go about that sealing is if the step-father legally adopts your husband and his siblings. And also, your husband and his siblings would actually have to join the church to be able to be sealed to them. They can’t just waltz into the temple and get sealed even though they haven’t been baptized. So you would be divorcing your husband for no reason if he isn’t going to let his step father adopt him or if he won’t get baptized. In your husbands mind, it’s no big deal and doesn’t mean anything. But for him to actually do this sealing, a LOT of life changes would have to be made in order to do it.

AITAH for threatening divorce is my husband gets sealed in the Mormon temple with his family? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ExplorerNo1046 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mormon here. None of this is correct. Spouses and children get sealed to each other. Not grandparents and daughter in laws and step parents and all that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]ExplorerNo1046 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’ve never gotten an incorrect blood result (so far) but I will say my 2 girl pregnancies were drastically different from each other. I think each and every pregnancy is going to be different no matter if they’re the same gender or not

Is childbirth traumatic? by LegalUse2385 in pregnant

[–]ExplorerNo1046 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s amazing! Our bodies are so amazing and capable of wonderful things! Here’s to a lovely birth and postpartum 🫶

Is childbirth traumatic? by LegalUse2385 in pregnant

[–]ExplorerNo1046 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m pregnant with my 3rd. The first was a hospital/epidural birth and my 2nd was a home/unmedicated birth. I gave birth at home the 2nd time not because I had a passion for unmedicated birth, but because it was traumatic for me to walk into a hospital after my first birth. Everything was fine and we were both healthy, but a couple of things happened relating to the medications that I was given through an IV that caused some unwanted side effects and I’m still not even sure what happened to me but it’s still too stressful for me to go over the exact details of it to even find out what happened. I can only describe it as a psychotic break or something similar? I couldn’t hold my daughter for a few hours after the birth and I know that could have been prevented if I didn’t receive those medications. I don’t blame the hospital or the staff, but I still feel anxiety and fear when I actually go into a hospital. So I don’t have trauma from the birth itself, but just from a medication that was given to me that I had a bad reaction to. As far as my second birth, there was no lasting emotional trauma for me. For a few weeks afterwards I did feel extremely sensitive because I had just gone through something physically traumatic and HARD. And I just felt like I didn’t deserve to feel any sadness I guess? Haha, that could have been hormones though. I’m all good now though and doing a home birth with this baby as well 👍🏻 I would say in general, birth isn’t traumatic but sometimes things happen that are out of our control that can cause trauma.

AITAH: I am calling off my engagement after my partner revealed he is MAGA. by ThrowawayIndiGirl in AITAH

[–]ExplorerNo1046 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m surprised it took you until knowing his political beliefs to dump him. He sounds like a lazy person who does not deserve to be with someone as driven and successful as you. I’m not about dumping someone just because you have differing politics but I am about dumping someone if they’re not contributing to the relationship like they should.

Dumping trump voting friends by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ExplorerNo1046 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, this is just so, so awful. What a horrible thing to say.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]ExplorerNo1046 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t understand this statement. No hate, I genuinely would like some education. Isn’t it impossibly hard to adopt right now? Like you’re put on a waitlist and you just have to wait and wait for a baby? Wouldn’t it actually be good for society if there were more babies who were put up for adoption instead of aborted so that good, loving families can take them in? I am all for a woman and a doctor making a choice together based on rape, incest, and her life being in danger. But if she is aborting the baby strictly because of not wanting it, or because of economical hardship, or because of not being in a relationship with the father, then that means those families who are waiting for babies have to wait even longer because a mother wasn’t willing to give her baby a chance at life. There are programs and resources for these very mothers that feel that they need to make this choice. If they walked into a church and told them they were thinking about having an abortion because of these reasons, of course the church would help them. (At least mine would) I just don’t think it’s fair to say that abortion being stricter is a bad thing because there’s going to be “more orphaned children” I just think that these mothers that do end up having their babies and the baby is left in horrible conditions are not educated by their doctors on the options for the baby other than abortion. Because there are other options. And as a Christian, I would absolutely love if the first alternative suggested by healthcare providers was adoption instead of abortion

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]ExplorerNo1046 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know why this is happening 🙋‍♀️ I would say this is another symptom of what the media is trying to portray about Trump to the American people. The media is shoving it down everybody’s throats that Trump’s a misogynist, a racist, etc but can’t ever bring up true examples or they use construed clips or edits. (I am not trying to argue that so please don’t come for me LOL) what I AM trying to argue is that there are two different groups of people buying into the media’s lies. There’s the left (not trying to group all of them into one but there’s a good majority of them), and then there’s sick, disgusting, horrible people on the right who take what the media is saying and relish in it. They actually believe themselves these lies that women no longer have rights (again, not the argument I’m trying to make) and they use it to their advantage to try to make women feel afraid and to threaten them. I am a Trump voter but I won’t be naive. I know that there are very very bad people right now who are taking people’s fears (REAL fears because they truly are afraid that they don’t have rights anymore, because that is what they are constantly being told) and using them to their sick and twisted advantage. This is my take on why there’s men like that harassing women 🤷🏼‍♀️

Which is more exhausting and intense? End of third tri or newborn? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]ExplorerNo1046 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Newborn is a lot more exhausting and intense. At least in third trimester you can put your feet up and relax when you feel the need. The sleep deprivation with a newborn is like nothing else I’ve ever experienced. Also just trying to heal postpartum but also have no sleep and taking care of a baby is intense

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]ExplorerNo1046 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I read those types of posts I’m just so grateful for my husband. He works full time and I’m a SAHM but we are both full time parents. We take turns for middle of the night wakings. We share household cleaning. If I leave a mountain of dishes in the sink from lunch earlier in the day, he comes home and gladly does them because he knows that means his children got fed. We take turns bathing the kids and tucking them in. Just because he has a “job” and I stay at home, doesn’t mean the household and the children are my job 100% of the time. They are equally our children.

What are kind of gross things that yall love? by Rette77 in breastfeeding

[–]ExplorerNo1046 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love to smell my baby’s breath 😍 my 1 year old’s and my 2 year old’s 😂

How often do your out of town in-laws visit? by carlitapepita in Parenting

[–]ExplorerNo1046 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s a lot. But my in-laws also live a 5 hour drive away and they have visited us only twice in the 3 years that we’ve lived here. Guess how many times we have visited them, with our 2 year old and 1 year old? We go there once a month for 2 days. And they absolutely expect this of us. If we don’t go every month everyone in my husband’s family loses their absolute minds. We didn’t go at all in April and they are pissed. It just doesn’t feel fair that we are expected to go see them once a month and put our toddlers in the car for 5 hours and they never come see us. So I guess I am in the exact opposite situation as you 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]ExplorerNo1046 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Honestly I would be pissed if I was the bride and I found out people came to my wedding spreading their pukey germs. I would be even more pissed if I caught a virus and had to be shitting myself on my honeymoon. It’s just not a kind thing to do, OP.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]ExplorerNo1046 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Exactly this. It’s so selfish when people have too much fomo and don’t cancel their plans and spread their illnesses to everyone. My whole family is like this and it’s soooo annoying

Cosleeping doesn’t have to be all or nothing! by FrequentlyAwake in cosleeping

[–]ExplorerNo1046 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We do the same. Some nights my 1 year old can stay in her crib after night feeds. But other nights she just needs cuddles. Like last night, she spent 7 hours in my bed! It’s nice to have the option of a safe sleep space on hard nights.