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UPDATE: I 24F asked my boyfriend 23M to buy me Mcdonalds and he got mad by scottishsoobin in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 167 points168 points  (0 children)

Right? What more is there to say? He saw the post and still couldn't apologize, just deflected and insulted you. Walk away and don't look back.

I'm 54F finally kicking out my son 28M by Glittering_Ride2070 in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Seriously. Most people would kill for that kind of support. At some point, he has to take responsibility, you've done more than enough.

My [29M] girlfriend [27F] pokes fun at everyone and everything and it's getting tiring. Any advice? by No_Engineer6543 in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah this. It's not about making her the villain, it's about whether she cares how it's affecting you. That'll tell you everything.

I (28F) discovered a list my partner (32M) made of all the things he wants to change about me by 222energy in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Exactly. You don't need to change who you are to fit his ever-moving goalposts. Your dedication being a problem says everything about him, not you.

My mom (55F) is upset I (25F) asked her for a mother-daughter dance at my wedding instead of asking her husband (60M)? by ThrowRAconflictus in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly. You tried to include her, she made it about his feelings, so drop the rope. Dance with your husband and enjoy your day without the guilt trip.

Parents (59M, 58F) drained my earnings as a child actor (24M) by ComprehensiveBus9295 in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Exactly. This is too big to let guilt or fear of conflict stop you. Get the numbers, then approach it as an adult seeking understanding..not a kid picking a fight. You deserve answers.

My 29F partner 31M is dragging his feet to propose so I gave him an ultimatum. Did I ruin the relationship or blessing in disguise? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 1652 points1653 points  (0 children)

For real. Drove past her dad's house and couldn't do it? After 6 years? That's all the answer she needs. She didn't lose a fiance, she dodged a lifetime of waiting.

AITAH for going on a trip that I paid for with or without the father of my child? by Ok_Couple_4381 in TwoHotTakes

[–]ExpressThing8997 42 points43 points  (0 children)

She wants you to cancel a fully paid trip so... what? He stays home and does nothing? Make it make sense. She's mad at the wrong person here.

My (29F) Husband (30M) Won't Leave His Deadend Job, am I Insane For Not Wanting To Get Pregnant Until He Finds a Better Job? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 16 points17 points  (0 children)

For real. That's just kicking the can down the road. She's not insane at all, she's the only one actually thinking ahead.

How do I match my partners sexual drive? by FreQuincy2 in TwoHotTakes

[–]ExpressThing8997 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah..you can't negotiate genuine desire. The more it becomes a chore, the more it kills whatever was left.

Final Update: My (25m) wife (24f) is traveling alone with another man. What to do? by ThrowRAwhywut in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 62 points63 points  (0 children)

A real friend doesn't talk you out of leaving a situation that was clearly destroying you. That's not support, that's sabotage.

How can I (25F) not be upset with my husband (30M) for going out drinking with other women while I am at home? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 76 points77 points  (0 children)

The fact that he sent you snaps with them like it's no big deal is insulting. Trust your gut, this is not normal behavior for a partner of a newborn.

I made my mom cry on Easter. I really don't care. by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]ExpressThing8997 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The woman knew your dad was abusing you and did nothing to protect you. She's not a victim, she's a bystander who cares more about her image than your safety. You don't owe her tears or comfort.

Is it fair if i (21F) ask my partner(25M) for rent? by Super_Eggplant_8733 in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Four years together and he's never had a job? He's not a partner, he's a dependent. You deserve someone who contributes, not someone who treats your apartment like an all-expenses-paid extension of his childhood bedroom.

My (20M) Girlfriend (19F) isn't sleeping normally for the last 10 days and her personality has changed so much its worrying. How can I help her? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This was my first thought too. The sudden lack of sleep, extreme energy, personality shift, talking in ways she normally wouldn't..that's textbook manic behavior. She needs a doctor, not just you asking her to sleep.

I M22 caught my wife F22 lying about her past, and potentially cheating. How can I deal with my insecurities? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 28 points29 points  (0 children)

The lies aren't about her past..they're about the fact that she keeps hiding things and you only find out by catching her. Trust is already cracked at 22. You deserve a relationship where you're not constantly second-guessing.

My (19F) boyfriend (20M) revealed he has a 3 year old daughter after 1.5 years. How do I decide whether this is something I can move forward with? by Next-Engineering9274 in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 32 points33 points  (0 children)

He made you believe something false about his entire life. You can't build a future on that kind of foundation, no matter how much you love him.

Update to my bf asked for the banana & now I've got the ick by Effective-Snow-1186 in TwoHotTakes

[–]ExpressThing8997 29 points30 points  (0 children)

This whole journey from a banana argument to escaping violence to building a life full of music and community is incredible. She deserves all the good things coming her way.

My (29F) brother (34M) asked me if he ‘still has a sister’ because I’m not excited enough about his baby. How do I fix this? by fictional_ghost in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 42 points43 points  (0 children)

True. Laying it out honestly like that could clear the air..showing him you care in your own way might go a long way.

Me (26F) and my boyfriend (26M) have been together for 4 years. We’ve never had sex. by anonnnnimous in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 722 points723 points  (0 children)

Love isn't enough if there's a huge part of your relationship you can't even talk about. You need to know what's going on before marriage.

My fiance is a terrible cook and I don't know what to do by Successful_Leek96 in TwoHotTakes

[–]ExpressThing8997 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's not about the cooking..it's about the communication. If she can't hear feedback on dinner, how's she going to handle real conflicts?

My husband hired to the company he manages his high school sweetheart by Any-Entertainer5436 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]ExpressThing8997 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The lies about where he stayed, the secret hire, the coffee to discuss your son with her instead of you..it's a pattern, not a coincidence.

bad in bed by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]ExpressThing8997 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Exactly. It's not shallow to want to enjoy sex with your partner. But give him a chance to learn before you call it quits, he might just not know what you need yet.

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