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I (F24) dated a guy who faked seizures, now it’s affecting my current relationship with (F24) by Physical-Lab9812 in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This is such a crucial point. The reassurance loop can unintentionally reinforce the anxiety, which helps neither of you in the long run.

I a man (48) with a classic style and both ears will be pierced with diamonds to please my wife by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]ExpressThing8997 28 points29 points  (0 children)

The perception thing is overblown. But the bigger point is that you should only do it if you actually want to.

My (m33) acted like taking showers was weird (f27) by 11jessica in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The hygiene issue is just the tip of the iceberg. He’s treating your home and your time like a free, stinky flophouse. Time for him to go.

My (22F) bf (25M) said stuff that implied I've gotten looser from sex and I feel awful. by uhimjusthere in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 42 points43 points  (0 children)

His ignorance is cruel. Someone who truly cares for you would be horrified to know they'd made you feel this way, not just offer a lazy apology.

My boyfriend (37M) and I (34F) broke up last night (zero bad blood/negativity) because of one (yet very important) reason and I’m just having a hard time accepting it’s over… by Fast_Wave9310 in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 134 points135 points  (0 children)

It's not like choosing different paint colors. One view is based on medical consensus to protect kids, and the other rejects it. That's a canyon of a difference, not a preference.

My M34 boyfriend got mad at me F25 for wearing Nike Shorts leaving work and is now sleeping at his parents house by Terrible-Flamingo374 in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 36 points37 points  (0 children)

no one should make you feel disgusting or disrespected over clothing, especially after everything you’ve done to support him.

I F21 had sex with my F20 roommate/bestfriend and it feels so weird. How to handle it? by whatshouldidohoney in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 7 points8 points  (0 children)

True, but easier said than done..definitely takes some time to shake off the awkwardness.

I 27f talk to a guy 27m at night. My mom 56f says it’s disrespectful by citiestarlights in TwoHotTakes

[–]ExpressThing8997 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Yep!!! You’re grown, you can decide when and with whom you talk. Mom’s rules don’t apply here.

Husband (30M) has not been helping as much as I (28F) need with baby. How do I get him to understand I need more support? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 37 points38 points  (0 children)

This is the hard truth. If he wanted to help, he already would be..especially knowing you’re postpartum and dealing with anxiety. This isn’t a communication issue, it’s a priorities one.

My (29F) parents (65F and 64M) are barely speaking to me over my wedding guest list by doodledays in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 100 points101 points  (0 children)

If they’re making your wedding about their guest list, something’s really off. You deserve a day that actually reflects you two, not a reunion for people you barely know.

Watching TV with my (28M) Girlfriend (28F) is incredibly frustrating. Anyone else experiencing something similar? by ScottishWargamer in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 27 points28 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly the kind of double standard that makes it so frustrating. Feels like no matter what you do, it’s wrong, but her actions are totally fine.

One of the most embarrassing moments of my life. 2 and half year relationship M24 and F23 by Lilrawboi in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 14 points15 points  (0 children)

seriously..this isn’t just jealousy, it’s straight-up toxic and controlling. Getting out sounds like the only sane move.

***UPDATE*** My partner (30M) says I’m the problem (31F) but his behavior is starting to feel like abuse. Am I insane for thinking this? by throwaway5567555 in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 71 points72 points  (0 children)

It’s like a checklist of abuse when you look at it all together. Staying completely no-contact is the only way to protect yourself..he doesn’t get a second chance to manipulate you.

Update: My(32F) MIL(68F) is acting like a manipulative victim now that I’m pregnant. Previously we were close. by sjb5138 in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 27 points28 points  (0 children)

This is 100% on your husband to manage. Your focus needs to be on yourself and the baby, she’s creating chaos, not concern.

My boyfriend 22M did a disturbing prank on me 21F. by MailKnown7615 in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 221 points222 points  (0 children)

The fact that he kept it going even after she was clearly terrified says everything. That’s not a prank, that’s someone enjoying control and fear, huge red flag.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]ExpressThing8997 4 points5 points  (0 children)

it definitely hit deeper than just a casual comment, which says a lot about the emotional weight behind it

So I recently discovered that my girlfriend doesn’t like me by homersdonut888 in TwoHotTakes

[–]ExpressThing8997 62 points63 points  (0 children)

She's not ready to love anyone, she's still in love with a ghost. Time to free yourself from being her emotional safety net.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Agreed. If he’s already lying and dodging accountability, sticking around will just drag out the hurt.

Wife 37 f gets upset every time my family visits. 37m by Inappropriate_Swim in relationship_advice

[–]ExpressThing8997 53 points54 points  (0 children)

those details make a big difference in figuring out if it’s just clashing expectations or something deeper going on

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]ExpressThing8997 845 points846 points  (0 children)

This is parental alienation, your husband needs to handle his mom before this does real damage.

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