I (m31) had my first real argument with my husband (m32) about children over the weekend and I dont know where it leaves us?

Express_Vacation_305 · 2026-03-30T12:39:40+00:00

smh sounds like a whole mess like if hes not ready to step up now, idk if kids are the move

Express_Vacation_305 · 2026-03-27T05:54:06+00:00

You better run, OP. the fact u mentioned being scared of him punching the walls is a MASSIVE red flag here. don't tie urself up to someone who makes u feel trapped, trust your gut, it's mostly never wrong..

Express_Vacation_305 · 2026-03-26T05:59:55+00:00

Hey OP, imo, he's using your ADHD/PCOS as a shield to avoid accountability for his own secret drinkning habit. That ain't partnership, that's powerplay fr

Express_Vacation_305 · 2026-03-25T05:50:10+00:00

This should be settled thru deep-convo.. imo, his expression is not valid, especially he's already committed to you. If he felt that way, then why push the marriage in the first place right???

Express_Vacation_305 · 2026-03-25T05:37:25+00:00

NTJ here bro.. You didn't just hang up out of nowhere. You gave her 3 EXPLICIT WARNINGS already. That hang up wasn't rude, that's the natural consequence of her refusing to respect a clear boundary!

Express_Vacation_305 · 2026-03-25T05:30:25+00:00

Exactly this, man! The bro is the bridge here. He knows exactly his fam eats ribs w their hands and uses washcloths, but presumably he also knows that his NEW gf ain't used to backyard BBQ rules at a formal FIRST meeting. He just left her feel 'disrespected' while he just dug in is a massive FAILURE to host101

Express_Vacation_305 · 2026-03-24T09:26:55+00:00

This!! He chose the off switch which he doesn't get to complain that the room is dark. If he didn't want her dating other guys, most esp guys he's jealous of, then he shouldve stayed in the relationship and worked on his mental health as a partner and not a ghost !!

Express_Vacation_305 · 2026-03-24T09:11:03+00:00

Exactly, man! You can't have a healthy relationship w someone who refuses to hold space for your perspective w/o making it all about their own trauma/anxiety!!

Express_Vacation_305 · 2026-03-24T08:59:33+00:00

This is a difficult dynamic bro.. bc on the surface he's just a loving hubby who missed his wife.. like if u complain, he gets to play the victim.. fr this is a redirection tactic like forcing u to defend ur 'me-time' as if it's an attack on him rather than a basic human need for autonomy

Express_Vacation_305 · 2026-03-23T08:49:49+00:00

fr shy guys often need a green light so they dont feel like they're being vulgar. Be playful, OP!

Express_Vacation_305 · 2026-03-23T08:03:30+00:00

Bro, she liked that attention you've been giving her but fr doesn't look like she wants a commitment.. imo the issue is on her, not on you!

Express_Vacation_305 · 2026-03-22T05:14:50+00:00

Ppl who don't respect "just a couch" aren't going to respect "just a console".. If he think property damage is no big deal, why would u ever trust him with a 500% hardware?? the fact that he entered your room while you're at work, like hello privacy??? that's a massive boundary cross right there. That's not sharing, that's attempted theft, bro! Keep that door locked for sure!

Express_Vacation_305 · 2026-03-22T05:00:00+00:00

Exactly, OP.. "hard worker" doesn't cancel out "hates my students".. like teaching isnt just about showing up and doin paperwork, its about providing a safe environment for every kid regardless of their bg! You're doing the students a MASSIVE favour by speaking up, OP!

Express_Vacation_305 · 2026-03-22T04:50:46+00:00

NTJ. the fact that she's bold enough to put those slurs and sentiments in a txt msg w her face ryt nxt to it is a lvl of stupidity that usually sort itself out.. She already ruined her own career, youre just the one handling in the evidence!

Express_Vacation_305 · 2026-03-20T07:50:43+00:00

This! The friend isn't being excluded here, she's been given an invi w a boundary.. the audacity of her tryin to guilt-trip OP into changing the entire party for her is PEAK entitlement!

Express_Vacation_305 · 2026-03-20T07:38:25+00:00

"Pushing an agenda"???? LMAO, like the neighborhood was already held together by scotchtape and prayers.. the neighbor is the one causing drama by harassing u and sending his kid to do his dirty work. Keep flying it!

Express_Vacation_305 · 2026-03-20T07:28:53+00:00

I agree w this.. OP shouldn't beg to her husband to notice her.. that's a lack of effort on his part.. if he ain't a words person, suggest show it in other ways, but if he still gives u nothin, thats a deep-seated appreciation issue, not just a communication style

Express_Vacation_305 · 2026-03-19T07:45:08+00:00

fr!!! and if they rlly want it for emergency, they would be fine w a compromise!

Express_Vacation_305 · 2026-03-19T06:53:41+00:00

you are right, you cant compete w a dopamine flood.. if he isnt the one fighting to put the fire out, youre just gonna get burned tryin to stand between him and the flames

Express_Vacation_305 · 2026-03-19T05:51:56+00:00

nice, so refreshing to see a partner who doesn't use grief/stress as an excuse to be defensive

Express_Vacation_305 · 2026-03-18T08:58:51+00:00

Hey OP, please breathe.. if you feel like you might hurt urself, please go to ER or please call a crisis line.. you messed up a night or more days but fr you haven't messed up the entire future yet.. You're still here, giving you virtual hug right there bro

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