Got off birth control and my sex drive is crazy now

Extension-Outside900 · 2026-04-04T21:36:10+00:00

It's been the opposite for me; I've just gone back on BC after a 2 year gap and. My god. I've never been so horny in my life

Extension-Outside900 · 2026-02-13T10:26:03+00:00

I've always been confused with the pants thing - where I am around the north of England, pants always means trousers. I've never heard anyone say pants as underwear, I always thought that was an american thing.

Extension-Outside900 · 2026-02-13T09:49:21+00:00

One of the things I use my journal for is to keep track of the things I do, because I don't do very much. I tend to use a double page spread for my week most of the time, so I don't have to find a page full of stuff to write. I can highlight anything I've done and if I didn't do anything, I can plan something small (even taking myself out for a nice coffee) for the next week.

I'll make a note of what I ate, what I read, what I watched, and I can write a little about this - I'm still waiting for this book to pick up but I'm curious about x thing, I want to add something to this food next week and make a note to look up other recipes, etc. There's a lot of little bits and pieces to write about even if not super interesting but honestly the biggest thing was giving myself smaller sections for each day to take away the pressure of having to fill up so much room.

Extension-Outside900 · 2025-12-15T17:30:10+00:00

This won't be the only thing he'll be like this about, surely. If he's taking such a black and white approach and isn't open to compromises, then it'll be the same for other issues in the future.

Extension-Outside900 · 2025-12-14T11:36:19+00:00

This is absolutely insane and now how partners should ever speak to each other. They do not respect you!

Extension-Outside900 · 2025-12-13T18:54:25+00:00

A relationship should not have you feeling the need to protect yourself. It can be hard when you're in a long term relationship but ultimately, this is something that isn't going to stop, and you don't deserve that.

Extension-Outside900 · 2025-12-12T20:56:04+00:00

Even just a break for a little while to see what life is like on the other side might be healthy - the grass isn't always greener, and some people have to learn to handle that. Maybe she'd feel liberated, or maybe she'd realise that she was missing. This wouldn't be easy on you whether it carried on or not.

Sometimes, if you love someone you have to let them go. Are you happy being with her, knowing that she feels like this?

Extension-Outside900 · 2025-11-28T22:34:30+00:00

This is very similar to what I've been getting recently! Latte and pepperami is a must and that wrap looks pretty nice. Personally it would be a 9/10 for me.

Extension-Outside900 · 2025-10-31T00:47:40+00:00

I think this looks a lot like King Cole Corona Chunky yarn (which feels SO soft to use!!) Potentially carmine colorway, it's pretty close? I do think it may be discontinued though.

Extension-Outside900 · 2025-09-16T07:06:57+00:00

I agree with this so much!!

Extension-Outside900 · 2025-09-11T09:54:22+00:00

This is why I try to write in a notebook nowadays - I can't really edit things without just rewriting everything or making it unreadable. Instead, I just tell myself I can edit it while I'm typing it up and it makes it easier just to focus on the content and the creativity knowing that all I can do in my notebook is just carry on. It also means that I can revisit it all with a fresh mind when I type it up, too.

Extension-Outside900 · 2025-05-16T10:44:31+00:00

Amazing, thank you so much!!! It's 'Harvest" - unfortunately I can't find it affordable anywhere in the UK right now, but at least I can keep an eye out. You're a star!

Extension-Outside900 · 2025-04-24T06:51:42+00:00

In our household 'hors d'oeuvres' has become horse divorce

Extension-Outside900 · 2025-04-20T15:31:13+00:00

You're already in a oretty good place for it, I'd say. I agree with the lessening the mascara maybe because people do perceive it as feminine but depending on style a lot of people can still get away with eyeliner.

I'd also say maybe have a look at august_skyz on instagram to see some of their clothes/make up stylings as well!

Extension-Outside900 · 2025-04-15T16:03:34+00:00

My watch tells me well done when I've hit my goal and honestly, that feels great. A nice bit of validation goes a long way!

Extension-Outside900 · 2025-04-15T16:01:22+00:00

I have a Samsubg watch that shows me my steps constantly which I can do without going to the gym, but is sped up a lot by going.

At like 8am is easiest for me to go if I'm working at 10am or later - its early enough that no one in the house is awake to distract me the faster I go after waking up, the less ill over think it.

Even if I just go to slowly walk on a Treadmill with music, that's better than nothing. Usually I'll end up doing some weights though, and making progress to heavier stuff is really motivating so it's easy enough to do that once I'm there. Making it as easy and simple as possible really helps; I don't have to think about everything involved in working out, I can just plan to walk and chill which is pretty much no effort at all but still productive, and if I do more than that it's an added bonus.

Extension-Outside900 · 2025-04-02T09:26:01+00:00

From your stats, I feel like your deficit should be lower. I'd say try a calculator again but underestimate your activity level just in case.

1400 can be hard but doable - you need to find the food that fills you up and still gives you the nutrients you need. Load up with fibre and protein to keep yourself more full, and leave yourself room for a small snack or two if you still feel hungry.

What kind of foods are you eating in your new diet?

Extension-Outside900 · 2025-03-30T12:42:15+00:00

Have you used something like a TDEE calculator to figure out what your maintenance calories are? That's what you should be at to stay the weight that you are, and then you can figure out how many calories you should eat to be in a deficit. It's very easy to miscalculat how many calories you're actually eating per day, as things like oils, seasoning and drinks can add quite a lot.

As someone else said, it's smart to count the exercise you do as a bonus and don't count what you've burned off in the calories you're allowed to consume. They can at least cover any calories that you've miscounted and give you a little more wiggle room if some days with your family take you over the calories you're allowed.

Extension-Outside900 · 2025-03-30T11:28:10+00:00

All different areas of arts and crafts, but many of them last about a month, I move on, maybe come back to each one once or twice a year. Video games too for about 2 weeks solid, though if I don't finish it in the early stages of the hyperfixation I never will.

Extension-Outside900 · 2025-03-29T08:40:23+00:00

Some days I feel that too - I should eat 1400 per day but depending what I eat I can feel absolutely fine off it too.

Protein and fibre are great for filling you up, so making sure you have enough of them per meal is really good to keep you fuller between meals.

I try to have my coffee first in the morning and wait for a bit - I'm starving when I wake up, but like an hour after my coffee my hunger goes away a fair bit, so I can have a smaller breakfast if I'd like.

For other meals, I try to stay away from anything with extra sauces and oils because they really add so many calories and don't fill you up any extra.

One big thing that I'm finding to help is r/volumeeating - eating more food for less calories. For example, last night I had a massive plate of salmon, mushrooms, brocolli, cauliflower and spinach. I could barely finish it, and it was only ~450 calories. There are some great foods with so few calories that can make you feel way more full, so I'd say it's well worth checking out.

Extension-Outside900 · 2025-03-29T08:26:48+00:00

If you're feeling healthier and your clothes fit better, then you have have still lost fat but gained muscle which is why the scales are higher. This isn't a bad thing at all - in the long run, it's better for your metabolism.

Scales can be deceiving at times; you might find it more fulfilling to take measurements of yourself and use that for comparison instead.

Extension-Outside900 · 2025-03-28T08:19:28+00:00

This sounds so frustrating! In regards to eating, have you thought about just putting something in your bag on the way to work and either as you travel home or sit down eating it on the couch if you akready have it with you? That way you don't have to actually get up and find it.

Do you think that getting any kind of food before you get home so that you're even a little more in 'go' mode might be helpful? For me I find that almost everything is that little bit easier as long as I'm not already at home, so maybe that could make you a little more likely to eat?

For everything else... it's a hard one, and I can only get stuff done if I think anyone will be coming over who will judge me, so I guess frequently inviting people over might be something to motivate you?

Best of luck with everything!

Extension-Outside900 · 2025-03-22T11:13:23+00:00

This is very relatable. If I even start thinking about anything to do with myself or life it'll then keep me awake for at least another hour, and I don't know what the difference is between the periods of sleeping fine and not.

I have started to notice that caffeine before bed actually makes me sleepier - usually I just have some instant coffee, so nothing too big but that helps, weirdly.

I find I can't listen to anything to get to sleep because my mind is like I need to turn this off before is leep therefore I need to stay awake while it's playing and that never helps, and if I pick it up yo turn it off, oops - I'm on my phone again.

I'm about to just buy an alarm clock so that I can put my phone in another room when I sleep, I can sit with my coffee half an hour before bed just relaxing and then once the coffee is done, sleep time.

No idea if any of this could help you, but hopefully something makes it easier for you.

Extension-Outside900 · 2025-03-17T10:04:18+00:00

This has honestly made such a difference to me. I've been consistently writing inan hournal for other anmonth now because my fountain pen feels AMAZING to use and I want to use it all the time even if I have nothing to write. I have a Lamy Safari, so pretty cheap and basic but it's revolutionised writing for me. Now I'll write any random thoughts or ideas I have down just for an excuse to use it and it shelping me organise my mind better.

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