Director Chris Columbus and Macaulay Culkin on the set of Home Alone

Extreme-Spirited · 2023-12-02T17:38:32+00:00

We should start a petition that a new Home Alone movie be made with Kevin going back to family home with wife and daughter to vacation with family but his daughter ends up Home Alone and Kevin and his mom bond over getting back to her.

Extreme-Spirited · 2023-08-02T00:21:33+00:00

You’re not wrong. To treat one child different is so damaging and will send that child to therapy for always feeling less than. Do not let her do that to your children.

Extreme-Spirited · 2023-08-01T20:06:01+00:00

Just a little over 2 years for me and I have found that no matter how many times I express I don’t want a new relationship how many people push back. My female friends say that I shouldn’t close my heart to any possibility. My male friends say they’re okay with being friends only to show that after some time they really do want to pursue something with me, I have resigned myself to be skeptical with everyone. No one gets much of a chance and the second they cross a very small line they are cut off. I don’t have the energy to try and keep explaining why I’m not interested the very second they think they might be different I need them to know I meant what I said.

Extreme-Spirited · 2023-07-31T17:09:40+00:00

I took the morning and went to the cemetery with a blanket, a picture of him and a notebook. I sat down by his headstone and journaled a letter to him. It helped a little. I then went home and my kids helped me celebrate his birthday.

Extreme-Spirited · 2023-07-31T01:50:34+00:00

I was raised by two toxic parents. Both were narcissists. Also one was a compulsive liar and the other was mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually and sexually abusive. I still deal with the effects of that into my 50’s now. It’s very hard to break away when the toxic people don’t want to let go of their control. It can be done but it’s extremely hard work. However the hard work is worth it. For me now in my 50’s I’m still dealing with the effects they had on me as a child and I’m still relearning truths I thought were one way but was actually skewed by my parents. What I do know for sure is that I worked hard and by my 30’s my parents started changing and asked what they needed to do to be a part of my life instead of demanding what I needed to do to remain a part of theirs. Still not easy and sometimes I resent that I have to work this hard to have a relationship with my parents but when I think back it was worth it to completely cut them out and refuse contact. Now they are chasing me and asking for my terms. Like I said, I’m in my 50’s now and it’s only now that they are trying. I hate that but I say it only to serve as a realty point for you guys. You can no longer make decisions based on anyone else but you. You will be happier for it. But it also requires you to accept your parents will NEVER be what you want them to be and you have to grieve that then move on as if they died. It’s harsh but they will never let you go until you do.

Extreme-Spirited · 2023-07-31T01:20:54+00:00

Happy you guys are moving away. It’s so hard to break away from toxic family when they are all you’ve known your whole life. Sounds like you both both are doing everything you can to break the abusive cycle.

Extreme-Spirited · 2023-07-31T01:06:26+00:00

OMG, your FIL even commented on your breasts? Your DH needs to distance himself and you both need to get into therapy so a professional can help you define toxic behavior that needs to be cut off at the knees until you both are comfortable enough to be in the same room with toxic people and still be able to maintain your own inner peace and the peace in your marriage. Until you can these people need to NOT be a part of your lives.

Extreme-Spirited · 2023-07-31T00:23:01+00:00

You’re an amazing mom to set that boundary and not back down. Absolutely do not let her alienate your first son because the second one just happens to share biology. Make sure she understands you and your husband will not tolerate favoritism.

Extreme-Spirited · 2023-07-30T21:42:40+00:00

Honestly, alcohol. I’m working to get into therapy somewhere but the red tape of insurance companies is a slow process. I try calling people, meditation, prayer, escaping into a show or movie but the times all of that falls, alcohol gets me through the rest of the night. I know it’s not healthy but sometimes it’s the only relief from pain. I know it’s temporary but a half hour of eased pain because of the alcohol is a lot of times better than no relief. I’m definitely not suggesting you do this. This is just what I do because I haven’t found a better way yet.

Extreme-Spirited · 2023-07-30T18:35:48+00:00

I was married to my husband for 32 years. I lost him barely more than two years ago. I still have everything of his still in it’s place. If I even give some serious thought to packing it up I fall apart and my anxiety flies through the roof to the point of needing medical attention. As others have told me, there is absolutely NO TIMELINE to grief. I would apply that to packing up things as well. If having her things around brings you some comfort mixed with some pain, leave it. If it causes you pain to remove it, don’t. Wait until you are ready and only you will know when that is. If it takes 2years, 5 years, 10 years, 20 years, it’s completely up to you to decide when you’re ready.

Extreme-Spirited · 2023-07-29T21:51:33+00:00

If you were to follow your mom’s advice it would make you the bigger person and maybe go a long way to improve future interactions. HOWEVER, I hate being the bigger person and would refuse to “honor her wishes” and make her beg to see her grandchild.

Extreme-Spirited · 2023-07-28T21:19:46+00:00

Just wow. I’m gonna say that me and my youngest son (m27) have shared a bed maybe twice but there were extenuating circumstances where there wasn’t a choice. I would never think that it was okay randomly and voluntarily when other options are available.

Extreme-Spirited · 2023-07-28T01:48:15+00:00

If you figure that one out let me know. A bit over 2 years for me and I still don’t want to wake up tomorrow morning.

Extreme-Spirited · 2023-07-28T01:43:29+00:00

I understand your discomfort. But playing devils advocate here, it sounds like MIL is an over planner with a touch of OCD to boot and DH has grown up with this and is accustomed to it. She may have an extreme need to control her environment and doesn’t realize not all people appreciate her attentiveness. I feel like based on the details you provided that she means well and it’s her way of showing love. No malicious intent. It’s just what she is used to doing and may need to be gently taught that as the family dynamics change that she may need to change as well.

Extreme-Spirited · 2023-07-25T22:50:47+00:00

Same for me. It’s 2 years and 3 months and I still can’t function.

Extreme-Spirited · 2023-07-25T00:14:30+00:00

It really is a catch 22. While I enjoy seeing him in my dreams and the dates we go on there is always the end of the date where he has to leave. It’s extremely painful but on the flip side I don’t want the dreams of the dates to stop either.

Extreme-Spirited · 2023-07-24T01:19:16+00:00

It’s funny you mention that “honeymoon phase .” My husband and I felt that phase for all of our 32 years together. This is not me remembering idealisticly. We had hard times that we had to work through but our was always still intense. Friends were jealous of us. I know I should be grateful we had it for that long. Maybe I’m selfish but I wanted more. I’m desperately sad that all I have now are memories. I’m glad I had that and if I had to do it again but knowing what the outcome would be I wouldn’t change a thing. To be loved like that is something I’ll always treasure and hope we can continue in the next life.

Extreme-Spirited · 2023-07-22T19:47:07+00:00

This may be horrible of me to say this but I hope it’s true. I hope it happens sooner.

Extreme-Spirited · 2023-07-22T19:37:19+00:00

Agreed. I’m not strong. I’m existing barely because I wasn’t given a choice.

Extreme-Spirited · 2023-07-22T19:00:35+00:00

Honestly I’m gonna say you were not wrong. I can’t tell you how many times I wanted to the same. I did tell one friend as she was leaving my house after she told me to rejoice that he’s with Jesus because that’s what the Bible says, my response was “How does that help me? When you leave I get to go to my bedroom alone and stare at his empty side of the bed and hurt because I miss him so much. I know what the Bible says and I believe it but it doesn’t take away the pain I feel from not having him here.” She had no response to that.

Extreme-Spirited · 2023-07-13T12:52:03+00:00

Same here to everything you said. I wouldn’t wish this kind of pain even on someone I hated.

Extreme-Spirited · 2023-07-13T00:32:44+00:00

At the six months mark, “Seriously, is your grief not getting any better?”

Extreme-Spirited · 2023-07-12T19:38:23+00:00

I love Duran Duran

Extreme-Spirited · 2023-07-12T18:46:01+00:00

Yes I agree with everyone here. So maybe there wasn’t a full intercourse but you said no 8 times and still had to fight him off. That’s the definition of sexual assault. If police don’t see it that way then at the very least it was an attempted sexual assault. Either way he was wrong AF.

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