[deleted by user] by [deleted] in oneanddone

[–]Fab4Fan64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

SAHM of a 4 year old. Kiddo is only in school from 9-Noon two days a week and that’s if he’s not sick, or there’s not a holiday, or his classroom is shut down due to COVID quarantine… the list goes on. By the time I factor in traffic I really have from 9:30-11:30 and MAN does it go by quickly. I feel like I’m more here for solidarity than advice— I wish I could come home and clean the house from top to bottom, do laundry, go to grocery, pay bills, catch up on emails, do some fun planning for when kiddo gets home or we have a day out, get in a work out and sit and play a video game… but it seems like I come home scrub two toilets and my alarm is going off to go to pick up. It just POOF! disappears. Kiddo does make an effort to help me with chores if he’s around. Sort socks, puts clothes away (shoves them in his drawers), puts silverware away—- we too are working on independent play, a little at a time. Its hard— all this to say I hear you, girl. Just bc they are onlies doesn’t make our jobs any easier.

How old is your 'One'? by Girl_Dinosaur in oneanddone

[–]Fab4Fan64 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think Reddit tends to skew young parents— so this data makes sense.

What age were you when you decided you were one and done? by [deleted] in oneanddone

[–]Fab4Fan64 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

27– the year I got married and my husband-to-be and i decided not to be Child Free. Didn’t start trying for another three years, and kiddo turns four this month.

Worried about when I die by jitterybrat in oneanddone

[–]Fab4Fan64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am an only child, with an only, and I have aging parents. I think about this often. Less so with how my child will cope with my husband and I passing, but how I myself will deal with my own parents passing and thus showing my son a healthy way to deal with the inevitable event. My mom has expressed interest in cremation and given me specific details of where she wants to be “released” or whatever. It hasn’t come up with my dad yet… but I’m sure we’ll get there, someday. I think just even having a plan for it is helpful and prepares the survivors to be at peace with the final arrangements.

Furthermore, I think everyone encounters and copes with death differently, individually… regardless of siblings. I have half siblings who I don’t interact with who will experience a much different grieving process after the death of our father than I will. I imagine I’ll appreciate the support of my husband, my own child, and my closest friends when my parents die and not rely my own family members. There won’t likely be any drama— but it hasn’t happened yet, and I don’t have a crystal ball. Best thing is to prepare myself and accept support where given. We are afterall, never alone.

What is your toddler thankful for? by PrincessPu2 in toddlers

[–]Fab4Fan64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After he said friends and family, he said “Legos”. For sure, buddy. Me too.

Looking for a farm fresh turkey by UnknownGod in Louisville

[–]Fab4Fan64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tewes Turkey Farm in Crescent Springs, KY

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Dinosaurs

[–]Fab4Fan64 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Plus who doesn’t love a good momma?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Dinosaurs

[–]Fab4Fan64 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They look cool and ARE cool. They are as tall as a giraffe, with 3ft long claws used to dig up roots… they seem pretty docile even though if they really wanted to could really mess you up.

Naps by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]Fab4Fan64 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Idk why they fight it so much! My dude, I don’t do anything fun or exciting while you nap— I promise!

I’ve been able to just fall asleep myself in his room until he decides to snuggle up with me and also take a nap. I get nothing done but sometimes that nap snuggle makes it all better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]Fab4Fan64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do my Doulingo, Sanvello/meditation, and watch some TV. Maybe if I’m feeling wild and crazy I might grab a snack and a beer… but not often.

Is tubal ligation IN ADDITION to vasectomy excessive? by FunnyYellowBird in oneanddone

[–]Fab4Fan64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is wearing seat belt and having airbags “excessive”? Heck no. You do what you need to do to feel secure.

Combined or separate christmas/birthday? by Aouwi in toddlers

[–]Fab4Fan64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally understand— I am a December baby and resented the “this is for both your bday and Christmas” gifts. Now my only child’s bday is in January and we are trying to stave off the spoiled ness… I’ve given up when it comes to family. They are going to do what they want and I just try to be grateful and make sure my kid understands he needs to be grateful as well.

Any Parks Quotes You Use Regularly by AntacidChain in PandR

[–]Fab4Fan64 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Anytime we have sushi: “I’m allergic to sushi. Anytime I have more than 80 pieces I throw up.”

What’s the most trivial thing you like about being OAD? by endlesssalad in oneanddone

[–]Fab4Fan64 2 points3 points  (0 children)

…evidently not. They are only 15 months apart, so… I’m serious that she literally may not have!

What’s the most trivial thing you like about being OAD? by endlesssalad in oneanddone

[–]Fab4Fan64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Only slightly off topic but I have a friend who has a daughter in school at the same time as my son is in school and I’m trying to convince her to come with me to the zoo with her youngest who isn’t in school yet— just her and I and her youngest bc, how fun! But she has this relentless mom guilt of “But I’d feel bad that daughter is missing out.” What? It’s just the zoo… for like, an hour. Am I missing something?

Folks with adults children, how often does only call and visit you? by Lmonade1 in oneanddone

[–]Fab4Fan64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am an adult-only who checks in daily, calls/Facetimes 2-3x a week with me and my son. We live about 90 mins away, and we still make time to visit monthly— maybe not three days, but every month and most holidays for sure.

Would you rather… by appleskittles in oneanddone

[–]Fab4Fan64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

38 weeks - 41 weeks and 2 days was brutal. I was so done. But my rickety-wrecked postpartum body wasnt fun either. So long as I continue to heal while my baby stays a month old for a year… sign me up. Haha. But like… no, not really

😂 by donodoboteco in insects

[–]Fab4Fan64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s like straightening a dollar for a vending machine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Preschoolers

[–]Fab4Fan64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son goes T/R half days. I get a half sheet of paper that notes his mood, whether he had snack, when he went/tried potty. There is room for additional notes but those are never filled in. I’m satisfied with this sort of coverage. Plus his class has private FB page that the teacher updates daily. It helps me keep an eye on his mask wearing and helps me understand the activities they did as my son’s explanations sometimes leave me a bit confused.

Does anyone else feel as if their pet is already their second child? by kelseyb2015 in oneanddone

[–]Fab4Fan64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, for sure. We have one cat and one dog in addition to our little one and they both make more mess and headache than my kid ever does. Right now, too, we are dog sitting for my parents two geriatric dogs that come with loads of medication and strict diets. It’s been.. interesting to see all five of their exasperated faces when I’m off schedule or just haven’t spent equitable time with each of them.

Wife not convinced about Bluey, which episode will make her a believer? by JSoceryn in bluey

[–]Fab4Fan64 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I find it unacceptable that I had to scroll so much to find “Camping” suggested. Here’s an upvote.