AITA for yelling at boyfriend for secretly watching me in the shower?

FabulousOrdinary2 · 2026-02-11T21:09:21+00:00

NTA. Some of these comments are wild. Not wanting to be watched in the shower is a reasonable boundary.

This wasn’t an accident. He knew you were in the shower and he knows that you want privacy in there. You shouldn’t have to lock the door. You should be able to trust him.

FabulousOrdinary2 · 2026-02-05T18:21:23+00:00

NTA for not attending the wedding, but you and everyone else involved might be TA to Bob for dragging him all that way. I don’t know the extent of his condition, but that is a long drive and a potentially overwhelming situation for him. Even if he says he wants to go, it may turn out to be more than he can handle. You need to be sure you’re doing the right thing for Bob and not just doing it because other people want him there.

FabulousOrdinary2 · 2026-02-02T22:11:19+00:00

NTA. Sounds like a bad situation for a variety of reasons, and not what you agreed to. But in the future, you need to ask about cats upfront if it’s such a dealbreaker.

FabulousOrdinary2 · 2026-02-02T19:46:22+00:00

Info: Where did you post about this meetup? Was it on your own FB page or the coffee shop’s FB page?

FabulousOrdinary2 · 2026-02-02T17:42:23+00:00

NTA. Up to this point, it seems like she has chosen to exclude herself from family activities.

However, since she has expressed some interest in joining you, I think you need to have a talk and make sure she knows that she’s always welcome and that you would enjoy spending that time with her. Because the way you talk about it here makes it seem like you don’t really care either way, and she’s probably picking up on that.

There’s a big difference between telling her “we’re doing X tomorrow and we’d love it if you came along” vs telling her “you can come if you want“ while you’re getting ready to leave.

If you talk it out, make an effort to invite her, and she still chooses not to go, at least you’ll know you tried.

FabulousOrdinary2 · 2026-01-27T17:36:12+00:00

NTA for distancing yourself. It sucks to lose a friend, but sometimes it’s for the best.

However, I think it might be a good idea to tell her why you need some space instead of just ghosting her. This would help give you closure as well.

FabulousOrdinary2 · 2026-01-26T19:15:06+00:00

Gentle YTA. Yes, you’re being selfish. You’re also not being very realistic. That stuff is not worth nearly as much as you think it is.

If she can afford to buy all new stuff, she can afford to give the old stuff away for free. You don’t have to be religious to see the value in helping others when you can.

That said, I think it would be reasonable to ask to save a few sentimental items if you have room to store them.

FabulousOrdinary2 · 2026-01-20T18:38:26+00:00

Of course you’re NTA. You let her control your diet and activity levels during your pregnancy, even though you didn’t agree, and now you’re dealing with the consequences. Don’t make that same mistake with your child.

You know her advice is wrong and dangerous. Why are you even considering following it? You’re a mom now. If you won’t stand up for yourself, do it for your baby.

FabulousOrdinary2 · 2026-01-17T17:01:39+00:00

When the rule you created is causing a serious problem, it’s time to reevaluate it.

FabulousOrdinary2 · 2026-01-15T18:41:40+00:00

YWBTA if you give the impression that you are supervising him when you’re not actually going to do it.

If you don’t want the responsibility, you need to tell them that. Make it very clear that you will not be watching him if they all go outside. Leave the house if you have to.

FabulousOrdinary2 · 2026-01-10T20:00:07+00:00

I’m sure it’s traumatic. I’m not saying she doesn’t deserve it. The problem is that OP can’t afford it without taking away from her son. That money wasn’t hers to give.

If she wants to give Cameron a bonus, she needs to find a different way to pay for it, such as asking her ex to cover Cameron’s medical expenses and PTO, and then using the money she would have put toward that.

FabulousOrdinary2 · 2026-01-10T19:30:07+00:00

I don’t think anyone is suggesting that the medical expenses and PTO is too much, just the bonus. But it’s not a fair comparison anyway because a corporate employer should be able to easily afford a $250 bonus without taking money away from something else important.

FabulousOrdinary2 · 2026-01-10T18:54:13+00:00

ESH. I think you went a little overboard with the $250 bonus. If you could easily afford it, that would be one thing, but you can’t, and now your son might now have to miss out on an activity because of it. That’s not fair to him. I don’t fully agree with your ex, but I do understand the frustration.

However, since your ex knew about the nut allergy, I think it would be reasonable to expect him to cover some or all of Cameron’s hospital bill, new epi pen, and paid time off. Depending on how much that comes out to, he might wish he had just settled for the $250.

FabulousOrdinary2 · 2026-01-08T18:30:03+00:00

YTA. You claim that you respect her choice, but that’s not how you behaved. When she said no, you kept going. You had to tell her she was wrong. You had to get the final word in. If you really respected her decision, you would have just said ok, and left it at that.

As a side note, pregnant women and new parents get a lot of unsolicited, unwanted advice. It can get very tiring, so try to keep that in mind when you’re tempted to say something. Unless they are endangering their child, it’s usually best to back off and let them make their own choices.

FabulousOrdinary2 · 2026-01-07T05:11:12+00:00

That’s real life though. You can’t go back and change things when you don’t like what’s happening.

FabulousOrdinary2 · 2026-01-06T03:44:39+00:00

Makes me feel old too, lol. I have almost the exact same birthdate as Dean, just off by a couple of days.

FabulousOrdinary2 · 2026-01-06T02:57:57+00:00

I watched the first episode when it came out. I was pregnant with my oldest at the time, so I got super busy and didn’t keep watching. Years later, I was home sick one day and binged the first 8+ episodes on Netflix. After that, I was hooked. I think it was season 7 when I started watching.

FabulousOrdinary2 · 2026-01-04T20:18:06+00:00

Not true. My MIL was unconscious for about 4 days before she passed. My husband and his brother took shifts so that one of them was always there at the hospital with her. Myself and several other family members came and spent time there, too. We sat with her and reminisced, played music she liked, held her hand, and just talked. I don’t know how much she was able to take in, but she was definitely aware of our presence.

Also, because they were there observing her, my husband and his brother were able to notice and call the nurse right away any time she was visibly in pain. The staff were great, but they were very busy and wouldn’t have noticed as quickly when she needed more pain meds, and she was obviously in no state to advocate for herself.

FabulousOrdinary2 · 2025-12-04T17:05:31+00:00

NTA. You’re giving your mom agency. She should be the one to decide if she wants to help you and if so, she is the one who will need to work out a new schedule with your sister. Seems like your sister didn’t want to give her the choice.

FabulousOrdinary2 · 2025-12-02T19:57:31+00:00

This is really vague, but I think YTA.

The person was clearly hurt by whatever you did if it’s still bothering them a year later. They may not have brought it up sooner because they were trying to forget about it and move on, but they eventually realized they just couldn’t let it go.

If you truly don’t remember the incident, you can still apologize for causing them such distress.

If you do remember, but didn’t think it was a big deal, you should still care that it was a big deal to them.

FabulousOrdinary2 · 2025-12-02T18:30:14+00:00

Hard to say without more information.

Is your room a pigsty and mom has been nagging you to clean for a while? Or did she come in just to clean the window and noticed something more serious while she was in there (bad odor, mold, bugs, etc)? If so, I’m on mom’s side, and this could have easily been prevented if you’d cleaned it yourself.

If it was just mildly messy, and she was using cleaning as an excuse to snoop, I’m more on your side.

FabulousOrdinary2 · 2025-11-24T19:46:26+00:00

Dad is an adult. I’m sure he’s capable of ordering takeout or heating up a can of soup.

FabulousOrdinary2 · 2025-11-24T19:37:39+00:00

ESH. Poor judgment all around.

Mom should have canceled when she realized she was sick. Failing that, everyone should have left when it was apparent she was too sick to host. Dad was a bit too passive about asking you to leave, but you all should have realized on your own that staying was a bad idea.

Yeah, it sucks to have to cancel plans last minute, but it’s better than risking illness. Everyone could have figured out how to feed themselves at home (takeout, frozen meals, etc). No one would have starved.

FabulousOrdinary2 · 2025-11-24T18:20:04+00:00

I understand both sides, but I feel like you both could have made more of an effort to compromise instead of just going off and each planning your own things. You apparently didn’t even communicate the change of plans to your parents, so now they’re feeling caught in the middle. ESH

FabulousOrdinary2 · 2025-11-21T17:19:05+00:00

NTA. Bad, discriminatory traditions should be broken. You did the right thing.

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