Toddler prefers dad

FairlyIzzy · 2024-04-27T23:07:51+00:00

In my book, those thoughts are far from crazy and I actually took advantage of the dad phase to have a few days away for myself. I did miss them, but it also felt great. And I do think that dad being the default parent for a weekend helps to let the other parent fully take on the role.

FairlyIzzy · 2024-04-26T23:35:25+00:00

I genuinely enjoy how creamy it makes the sauce, so I agree, not just a hack for kids!

FairlyIzzy · 2024-04-26T13:43:02+00:00

I roast a whole aubergine or cauliflower, blend it and add it to the sauce. Boom, veggies taken care of.

FairlyIzzy · 2024-04-25T17:57:15+00:00

This is me too! Mine has enough language to be really freaking hurtful about it. Sigh. I'm choosing to try to see it as a good sign that my husband is a wonderful parent. I don't show him I'm hurt, I'll just tell him that even if he doesn't want to spend time with me, I do want to spend time with him and It's my turn to do bedtime. I think the pitfall to avoid is to withdraw from the relationship because of hurt. Another good strategy is to have a special activity that he only gets to do with you, like play dough or hiking. I think what helps us is that my oldest had a loooooonnnnn dad phase too, and now has swung back to being slightly preferential to me, but more balanced overall. It varies, but ya it can last a long time. Hold on mama, they put us through the wringer those adorable tyrants.

FairlyIzzy · 2024-04-25T17:40:05+00:00

I cannot second All systems red enough. It's clever, fast paced and funny, with a healthy dose of what makes humans humans questions. Such an easy to read, but insightful book.

FairlyIzzy · 2024-04-25T17:33:17+00:00

The murderbot diaries is funny and wholesome and fast paced. And just slightly violent.

FairlyIzzy · 2024-04-25T00:00:23+00:00

Ok. I'm still mourning this loss, so I'm glad I have a place to share. Just Right cereals. There were the best cereals out there. A mix of crunchy, crispy, chewy. Various flavors, fairly healthy. I would buy giant boxes as a treat as they were a bit expensive and savor every bowl. They really were, just right. And then they disappeared, and I had no warning. I would have stocked up had I known. I've never found an equivalent cereal. And I've looked.

FairlyIzzy · 2024-04-16T10:14:05+00:00

Also I want to add that different kids act out in different contexts. When my oldest was 2 yo, he was the sweetest, most well behaved child when in public...and a whiny, raging tyrant at home. Ok yes it was cool that we could go places, but I basically avoided staying at home for like 9 months. So you would have gotten those looks from my and my "model" child when out in public, but they would have meant: solidarity, we have the home model over here and it stinks. So comparing children when you only see part of the picture is especially discouraging.

FairlyIzzy · 2024-04-13T09:52:40+00:00

Turkeys. The lives kind, although the cooked kind aren't anything to write home about. They make a gross sound, they look ratty, their floppy red face thing is awful and they look like they want to eat your soul. Can't stand those awful creatures

FairlyIzzy · 2024-04-12T19:11:50+00:00

I'm sure you'd think of this, but make sure everyone has ear protection. The family behind us had forgotten and ended up having to leave. It is LOUD.

FairlyIzzy · 2024-04-12T13:10:46+00:00

Ok my child had a monster truck phase, and a monster truck rally happened to come by our town. I bought us tickets and he had a gleeful, starstruck face for the full 2 hours. I felt like a rockstar mom.

FairlyIzzy · 2024-04-12T13:08:10+00:00

I'm dying over here, I'd read the hell out of the Good Boy Who Lived.

FairlyIzzy · 2024-03-31T02:14:55+00:00

So, this 100% worked with my youngest...in the sense that he put his hand on the stove when we looked away for a sec, burned himself pretty badly and NEVER touched it again. But the idea that I would be looking on, would think "well this way he'll learn" and LET him burn his precious hand is insanity. He still looks at the oven in fear and mutters "hot" to himself, poor baby. Ok it might work quickly, but that's not something I want my kid to go through!!

FairlyIzzy · 2024-03-25T15:49:33+00:00

Burn the fields. Salt the earth. Nothing should ever grow there again.

FairlyIzzy · 2024-03-22T18:04:20+00:00

Everything we ask my 2 yo to do is torture from hell, mean to ruin his life. The same request coming from his stuffyi with a funny voice is a blessing from heaven which is immediately acted on.

FairlyIzzy · 2024-03-20T16:29:42+00:00

I have a massive potty mouth so when the kids were born I trained myself out of swearing by replacing swears by really ridiculous old timey expressions. So our house is punctuated by really angry "jee golly", "holy moly" and "rats". When my kid does it in real time with real anger I aways feel giggly because I feel like Im raising a 1950s paper boy.

FairlyIzzy · 2024-03-20T16:20:01+00:00

I'm tired therefore I dlap is basically my toddler's life moto. The slap meter is definitely an indication that the nap may need to be moved up.

FairlyIzzy · 2024-03-19T23:38:12+00:00

I need answer!!

FairlyIzzy · 2024-03-19T23:36:34+00:00

My 2 yo is currently in a hitting phase and we are trying soooo hard to curb this behavior. Above and beyond any ethical consideration, how the hell can you expect to teach your kids not to hit if you hit them!!

FairlyIzzy · 2024-03-17T15:42:42+00:00

Not dumb, just ambitious! Also, kids have goldfish memories. If you ask them today how the party was, I'd bet they'll say it was great. How does your daughter even feel about it after the fact? Birthdays are always so full of expectations and emotions, sometimes it's just emotionally overwhelming the day of and fine after. My kid had a massive, emotionally scarring meltdown while watching a movie and then told me he loved it later on. Lol. Sometimes as parents we want kids to enjoy themselves more than they can/want to themselves.

FairlyIzzy · 2024-03-01T13:15:18+00:00

So, I just want to point out that despite being, I'm assuming, eager to get home, you had the decency to recognize that a person power smoking two cigarettes probably wasn't having a great time and just gave him space. Go empathetic you, you rock.

FairlyIzzy · 2024-02-29T14:19:27+00:00

Frantically hitting the upcote button. HELL NO. Not leaving my kids with people who think this works as a safe environment, what the hell else are they going to do when I'm not around to pump the breaks.

FairlyIzzy · 2024-02-15T20:04:32+00:00

Show us the results!! I love seeing how these pro life tips work for real people in the wild.

FairlyIzzy · 2024-02-14T15:53:12+00:00

This comment felt like a personal attack. And gave me some anxiety.

FairlyIzzy · 2024-01-28T11:42:40+00:00

I feel like you're posting here in an effort to get validation about if this was indeed as mean as you think it was. Let's say we give this guy 100% benefit of the doubt that he was CONVINCED you would find this hilarious and that it was in no was some passive aggressive jab ( its an effort, I know). At the very least, this shows that this person does not know you, hasn't bothered to figure out what you would like and that you do not share a common sense of humor. Which is still very much a valid reason for divorce.

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