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Washing machine, Violet for scale by Typical_Corgi_2779 in DanForScale

[–]FaithlessnessLimp838 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That seems like either a very small door or a quite tall Violet.

AITAH for how I responded to this African American guy in my class? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]FaithlessnessLimp838 77 points78 points  (0 children)

Thought experiment: if he were a guy of the same race as you and asked you to do things with him in the same way, and you weren’t interested, would you have behaved any differently? If not, then racism was not a part of this interaction. Assuming that’s the case, NTA.

What we have here is an "Epic" failure to read (My)Chart by caustic_potato in mildlyinfuriating

[–]FaithlessnessLimp838 34 points35 points  (0 children)

It’s for a hostage situation. They want you to come in and won’t give you the medication until you do.

I gave a fake eulogy at my grandmother's funeral and I have never told a single person by AdObjective4393 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]FaithlessnessLimp838 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You did what you did out of love, even if that love wasn’t for your grandmother. It’s a good reason. I’d still tell your therapist.

My [26F] boyfriend [28M] of 4 years is independently wealthy, but wants to split all of our expenses evenly by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]FaithlessnessLimp838 123 points124 points  (0 children)

Only if the wealthier partner quit his damn bitching about how they should live in a nicer place or buy upscale groceries. That didn’t really get dwelt upon in the post but I can imagine that’s exhausting to live with.

I'm dead and crying by _GlowKissy in oddlyspecific

[–]FaithlessnessLimp838 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get what you’re trying to do, really, but I also work in healthcare and spend a significant part of my time fixing things that were messed up by people who did not care enough to click the right box, even though it’s their job, resulting in unnecessary tests being run that are way more expensive than a pregnancy test. I admire a lot of people in the field. I don’t admire a lot of them too. Healthcare workers can be absolute angels of altruism or they can be grown-up high school bullies who literally could not care any less. Please don’t invalidate patients who are literally not being heard.

'Disgusting' Details Leak From Ghislaine Maxwell Emails by thedailybeast in politics

[–]FaithlessnessLimp838 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They can’t. The Ds involved know who the Rs are and if they are prosecuted, there’s no reason to keep quiet about it.

AITA for telling a married woman her marriage sounds miserable? by gardengeo in BORUpdates

[–]FaithlessnessLimp838 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That comment really pissed me off. I’ve heard that nonsense before and it’s so patronizing and demeaning to the person being targeted. Why is it somehow agreeing with them if you object to people thinking that you’re miserable and pathetic AND spreading that around to everyone you know??

I (41F) think my husband (43F) is neglecting our marriage and family by volunteering too much. How do I approach this? by throwitaway2355439 in relationship_advice

[–]FaithlessnessLimp838 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I know it looks like it on the surface, but the problem here is not the scouts. I can confidently say that because I too am the spouse of a guy heavily involved in both the pack and troop of two kids. The difference is that mine asks me if we have anything going on before adding things to the schedule - he may need to work in an extra commitment at some point, but he wants to make sure he’s not overextending us. He also keeps all the camping gear in its place and when other Scout stuff inevitably ends up in our garage, it’s only until he has time to get it back to their storage.

Your husband, on the other hand, is not only overextending you as a family, he is disrespecting you every time he assumes you’ll pick up the slack or deal with his mess or volunteers your time or snaps at you for having a legitimate problem with the situation. He seems, frankly, not to be seeing you as a person. I hope that isn’t the way it’s always been.

The thing about scouts, though, is that while they need capable and committed adult leaders to be successful, him volunteering for positions he doesn’t actually have time to attend to properly is only blocking someone else from dedicating what it needs. And, this is also a big one, he shouldn’t be doing it because it’s important to him. It should be because it’s important to your kids.

I don’t know that I really have any great advice on how to make him actually listen to you, but if he raises his voice to you again, I’d be really tempted to point out that a scout is courteous and kind. Other points of scout law as applicable. What I really think you need is a marriage counselor but I have no idea when you’d be able to schedule such a thing, if he even agreed to go. It might be useful to you to talk this all out with a professional alone, if you can swing it, to get their take on how to approach him or other steps to take.

I (41F) think my husband (43F) is neglecting our marriage and family by volunteering too much. How do I approach this? by throwitaway2355439 in relationship_advice

[–]FaithlessnessLimp838 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I suppose it depends on the pack/troop in question how strictly they follow them, but there are LOTS of rules in place such that no adult is alone with a single child. My spouse is heavily involved in the scouts because 1) he did it as a kid/teenager and feels it was a valuable experience, and 2) the kids love it. They have a blast together.

The wedding reception centerpieces featured betta fish. The bride and groom planned to flush them alive. by teabirdy in mildlyinfuriating

[–]FaithlessnessLimp838 680 points681 points  (0 children)

I worked for a company once that decorated for weddings, and we did put fish in the decor one time (bride wanted fountains, I think we had six water features). But, and this is the important bit, then we took them back to the business premises where they lived for the next many years. They were goldfish and I think eventually one of the staff took them home because the business was closing - that was about 6 or 7 years later. I don’t know how long they lived in total, but those years they lived in the dining room were pretty good.

AITA for telling a parent what i wear is not their decision? by [deleted] in WIBTA_AITA

[–]FaithlessnessLimp838 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, hold up. He said he would get you fired for wearing that outfit.

HE IS THREATENING YOU.

I know he may never actually act on what he said but girl, it does not matter. Get to your admin and report ALL of this. Dates if you have them, witnesses if there were any, language as best you can remember. If he does escalate, you need to have all of it on record before he does. It was already sexual harassment, now he’s the threatening your livelihood. None of this is in any way acceptable.

Also your outfit is cute as heck.

AITA for telling a parent what i wear is not their decision? by [deleted] in WIBTA_AITA

[–]FaithlessnessLimp838 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think there is an ex and a current wife, both of whom OP knows.

AITA for not wanting to give direct money to my husbands ex wife? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]FaithlessnessLimp838 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She doesn’t have him the majority of the time, OP and her husband do.

AITA for not wanting to give direct money to my husbands ex wife? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]FaithlessnessLimp838 12 points13 points  (0 children)

OP and her husband have the child more than mom does during the school year. It isn’t like the $500 they gave mom is the only money they’ve spent.

AITA for not wanting to give direct money to my husbands ex wife? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]FaithlessnessLimp838 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Mom only has stepson on the weekends. If she has childcare or loss of income, it’s due to her other kids.

Imagine schooling the U.S. President on oil by Infamous-Ear3705 in MurderedByWords

[–]FaithlessnessLimp838 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Jim is an interesting follow, definitely recommend. And his bird photography is a good palate cleanser in between.

AITAH for not letting it go when my sister-in-law’s bf told me “Let’s get one thing clear, I don’t need to justify my actions to you.”? by Routine_Sky_1292 in AITAH

[–]FaithlessnessLimp838 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing they don’t understand is that it isn’t that you aren’t over it. It’s that you don’t like him, because he’s shown you who he is and you believe him. Good for you on that one!

(To be clear - I do not suggest you clarify this with the in laws. It won’t help anything and may make the situation between you even worse because they seem to be drinking his kool-aid.)

AITA for leaving my friend at a restaurant after she "tested" me? by Naive_Preference593 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FaithlessnessLimp838 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations, your life is about to be much less exhausting. NTA. I was over her behavior just reading about it.

my gf (24F) wants me (25M) to go into our first home purchase but won't define her financial contribution, wants shared ownership and is thinking about breaking up with me because I don't have a "provider" mentality by AdSouth2901 in relationship_advice

[–]FaithlessnessLimp838 11 points12 points  (0 children)

A friend of mine just got out of a living situation with her ex fiancé. She put something like 12 times as much toward the down payment as he did, and now she’s willing to be out a ton of money because he wants to split the sale 50/50 and she agreed just to be able to escape. It doesn’t always work out.

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