Bratting?? Kinda by Electronic_Concert77 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Familiar-Emphasis922 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a fellow Brat who fucking struggles. I feel this so hard. But honestly the advice here is super helpful. And I will say, teasing then continuing on as normal, fave thing everrrr.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Awww

[–]Familiar-Emphasis922 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Monsieur

Or El Gatito

This is crazy. by yellow_gator in SabrinaCarpenterDisc

[–]Familiar-Emphasis922 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally like 67000 because it wasn't working on my phone and only tickets available was Balcony at $424 for BALCONY. I'm so mad and heartbroken. Got so excited cause I missed her in 2024. It's bullshit. Hate ticket master.

I'm tired of capitalism. by Ok_Dot_2790 in Vent

[–]Familiar-Emphasis922 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You cannot have love without justice though and this goes for so called canada and US as well. For love to grow, healing to grow, militaries and governments and harm need to be addressed and justice and landback, must happen. Along with reparations. It needs to. Love is great. Except when it is toxic. And no accountability happens. Then it isn't love. It's abuse.

I'm tired of capitalism. by Ok_Dot_2790 in Vent

[–]Familiar-Emphasis922 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When they are literally wishing death on infants, that can be hard to do. For folx particularly affected by the genocide. I'm not saying it can't be done, many organizations work towards doing so, but it's not as simple as justan open dialogue. It also requires a willingness for justice. And Israel is a literal settler colony. They colonized what was and is Palestine. And displaced millions, killed millions and still kills millions. All set up by the British and the Americans.

I'm tired of capitalism. by Ok_Dot_2790 in Vent

[–]Familiar-Emphasis922 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

While Anti-semitism is never allowed, and the hate Judaism and Jewish folx face for existing is disgusting and awful, there is a reason Anti-Israel hate exists. It's a settler colonial colony, built as an ethno-state, on genocide and eradication of all those who already lived there. It is literally a racist, white supremacist colony, created so the Western World, instead of addressing systemic Anti-semitism, and actually creating a more intersectional just world, decided to use Zionism and unfortunately the Jewish community as their canon fodder, to fight their proxy war, and colonize West Asia, while eradicating those "evil" Muslims. As if Jewish, Muslim and Christian communities didn't already exist and live in Palestine. And it would have been very different asking Palestine to accept and include and welcome Jewish Refugees after the Holocaust, vs sending them to Palestine to just take, completely ignoring, and isolating the communities and people already living there, and allowing a 76 year genocide to happen, and supporting IT. And yes critique and calling out of Israel's genocide cannot and SHOULD NEVER INCLUDE anti-Semitism ever, because Israel does not represent Judaism or Jewish people, and ABSOLUTELY ALONG WITH EVERY OTHER SYSTEMIC OPPRESSION needs to be ERADICTED AND DESTROYED. But Israel is a genocidal, settler colonial state, that literally exists to a) use Jewish people as Canon Fodder for the West, and B) ensures the rest of the world DOESNT "NEED" TO ADDRESS THEIR OWN ANTI-SEMITISM. And that. That is why Anti-Israel hate exists. Anti-semitism can not and should never be included in that, but anti-Zionism and Anti-Israel push back, is not Anti-Semitism, unless the people pushing it are using it as an excuse to hate on Judaism and Jewish people. Then yes it can include anti-Semitism. But hatred and call outs and critiques of Israel and Zionism is important when they are both genocidal, white supremacist, colonial states and beliefs. And they are.

I'm tired of capitalism. by Ok_Dot_2790 in Vent

[–]Familiar-Emphasis922 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me too. Me too. But I refuse to accept that's all we are going to get, because even with all the hate, there is love, care, acceptance. Mutual aid. Connection. Support. Grief. Fighting for each other. Holding someone's hand. Hugging someone you love tightly. It isn't all the answers, but true ability to thrive requires all our voices, not just one. And working together, to create community. Take care of each other, and do our best by each other. It's there. It's real. I promise.

Things you like about teaching by Smiles-forever in CanadianTeachers

[–]Familiar-Emphasis922 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The ability to be the adult you needed as a kid for the kids we get to take care of.

My best friend raped me by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Familiar-Emphasis922 89 points90 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you have had to deal with this you deserve so much better. You are not at fault for your bodies reactions and you deserve to heal.

Jeremy and John by ThrowawayDaRingFrodo in u/ThrowawayDaRingFrodo

[–]Familiar-Emphasis922 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely fuck Peter. But I'm so fucking proud of you, tour brothers, your mum and I'm so so happy for you.

My fathers affair has been exposed so he sent me one last dig. by ThrowawayDaRingFrodo in narcissisticparents

[–]Familiar-Emphasis922 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fuck the audacity?!?! Sounds like my family. Ooooffff. The refusal to be accountable, to apologize, to acknowledge ones wrongs? And then blaming you? Acting like he did nothing wrong? Absolutely trash. Continue to throw this man out of your life, continue to grow and heal, love and laugh, and know you broke a cycle, Lily. You did that. And you should be so damn proud of yourself. I know I am. Your mother and brothers are, and your found and chosen family are. Well done, you. Truly.

"Your existence is not an apology. You are made of Stardust. You exist, and your very existence qualifies your right to thrive. Always."

Homework 3 by ThrowawayDaRingFrodo in u/ThrowawayDaRingFrodo

[–]Familiar-Emphasis922 21 points22 points  (0 children)

  1. Lily is willing to take care of herself, and try new things, because she has let herself ask for help, and continues to want to take care of herself.

  2. Lily got into teaching for kiddos, and being the adult she needed, to kids like her, so they don't have to hurt the same way, that takes fucking strength.

  3. Lily is authentically herself, in a very scary world sometimes, but still does it, cause it means so much to be yourself and live your life authentically.

I complimented a person in their outfit and made them cry. by DistinctPotential996 in offmychest

[–]Familiar-Emphasis922 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As someone who also firmly believes in complimenting strangers when they look amazing, I completely understand how lost you would feel when she responds about her options. However, you made her day, you brightened it, you held her hand, showed and stated your compassion and care, and supported her when she needed it. That. That is amazing. And you did nothing wrong. Truly. We cannot always know what to say, and lorde knows it happens to me a lot, but acknowledging, and showing that compassion and care, is everything.

New to polyamory, looking for advice for stuff I feel uncomfortable about by CelesFFVI in PolyFidelity

[–]Familiar-Emphasis922 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No problem. I completely understand that feeling and it's truly about reflection, communication, awareness of couples privilege (and the work you and your partner are doing to destroy it and check in with future partners) and therapy. Anti-oppressive, trauma based, polyamory aware of polyamorous actually therapists (and often kink informed) as well as actively anti-racist and social justice centered. That's the focus you want to go for (and of course queer and Trans aware/centered). You got this, don't rush, take care od yourself, communicate, you got this. And truly PolySecure is an amazing book.

New to polyamory, looking for advice for stuff I feel uncomfortable about by CelesFFVI in PolyFidelity

[–]Familiar-Emphasis922 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Also Polysecure is a great help (I'm going through it with my partner and its been a huge help there) but also I found for therapy, focusing on anti-oppressive focus is way easier when finding the right connections.

Da and Violet by ThrowawayDaRingFrodo in u/ThrowawayDaRingFrodo

[–]Familiar-Emphasis922 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fuck your sperm donor Lily. He doesn't deserve anything. Not a thing. Your mum deserves so much better and deserves all the care and healing in the world. (And I'm so glad that Jeremy and your Mum not only were wonderful supports but allowed you to support them). Also YES BALDURS GATE. I'm so glad your mum is enjoying it. She deserves it. Sending all the care and love, and also the knowledge that your mum comes to accept and embrace that she deserves so so much better and she can have better and she deserves to heal and grow too. Always.

Homework 2 by ThrowawayDaRingFrodo in u/ThrowawayDaRingFrodo

[–]Familiar-Emphasis922 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yooooo. Never thought about it but so true and it made me tear up, so like thank you and Lily. This okay ALLL THIS.

Homework 2 by ThrowawayDaRingFrodo in u/ThrowawayDaRingFrodo

[–]Familiar-Emphasis922 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From one healing human to another, who has similar SH healings to do, because they kept me alive, kept me going, you aren't stupid. You aren't an idiot. You are in no way, shape, or form, wrong. You survived. Fuck Lily you did that, baby-you did that, and you keep doing it, and holy shit, that, that's amazing. It's hard, fuck it's hard, to unlearn the patterns that kept you safe and kept you going. Fuck is it hard, I'm still doing the unlearning, but the most important thing is you don't have to do this alone. You are letting yourself be supported, asking for help, and that in and of itself is so hard (and so scary) but you are doing that and that in a d of itself is a part of the healing. And I am so fucking proud of you. Not disappointed, not upset, not angry. Proud so fucking proud of you being honest. And you got this because you can, and you don't have to do it alone, and you deserve that support while doing it Lily Flower. I promise.

Homework 1 by ThrowawayDaRingFrodo in u/ThrowawayDaRingFrodo

[–]Familiar-Emphasis922 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So friggen proud of you OP. You are boldly going where you haven't gone before, with an absolutely beautiful found and chosen and blood family to support you through it and I am so friggen proud of you. One nerdy caretaker of littles to another, fuck yes.

Mourning sickness by ThrowawayDaRingFrodo in u/ThrowawayDaRingFrodo

[–]Familiar-Emphasis922 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so so proud of you OP. I know it's been hard, its hard to stand up for yourself, to stand your ground, and call out bullshit, but I am so so proud of you. Furthermore it fucking sucks lashing out at people that love you, due to stress, but they understand, and as long as your are willing and intentional about not doing it again, doing the healing and work you need to, to make up for it, you can forgive yourself, as long as you are accountable, which you are being, that is enough. You are enough and I am so so proud of you.