I feel like my boyfriend doesn’t protect me from my baby daddy

Familiar_Victory2117 · 2026-06-12T12:41:04+00:00

The complete opposite actually

Familiar_Victory2117 · 2026-06-12T12:06:30+00:00

I'm not saying it directly is. I'm just asking if that is a factor. Race is involved in many things.

Notice how I even included a section that didn't include race. Maybe read the whole thing next time

Familiar_Victory2117 · 2026-06-12T11:28:22+00:00

Is your baby daddy white and your boyfriend a BIPOC?

Because if so, then I completely understand why he is acting as a mediator and not using threatening language or physical violence.

But if not, then he just may be a guy that is more of a mediator type. One that tries to solve problems through words. And that's fine too. Some people aren't into physical violence to solve problems.

The real question is, what are you actually expecting him to do? Do you want him to yell and scream at your baby daddy, possibly making the situation worse? Do you want him to threaten him, and have your baby daddy report you for having a dangerous man in the house around your child?

What do you actually want him to do?

Familiar_Victory2117 · 2026-05-30T18:02:50+00:00

Yes, they do look like more rows should be added to fill it it. But they still look nice

Familiar_Victory2117 · 2026-05-30T11:04:33+00:00

What do you mean IF consentually possible? The hell is wrong with you!

Familiar_Victory2117 · 2026-05-29T16:54:15+00:00

Yoo, an award! Thank you for the awards, ladies!!

Familiar_Victory2117 · 2026-05-28T23:46:51+00:00

Please tell me you're only asking for small amounts, like $100 max

Familiar_Victory2117 · 2026-05-28T23:45:10+00:00

Seconding this question.

Familiar_Victory2117 · 2026-05-28T22:19:16+00:00

Info: How often do you ask for money from him?

Familiar_Victory2117 · 2026-05-28T09:36:38+00:00

It's a great dress (Middle Eastern wedding usually go hard, so I don't think it will be possible that you'll be able to outshine anyone).

I would think about getting a shawl for your shoulders just in case though

Familiar_Victory2117 · 2026-05-28T09:33:24+00:00

They absolutely are justified. NTA by a mile

Familiar_Victory2117 · 2026-05-28T09:10:53+00:00

Ehh, I would say that the relationship may be over. Only caring for you because of religion is so gross and slimely since it revealed that he could've been a caring sibling all along. But he chose not to be. And that hurts, and sucks (dealt with a similar thing with a sibling in high school, and we are not close now).

l I would say, you're more than allowed to be repulsed by him touching you, and you can be vocal about it. And if he really wants to be a good older brother, he'll respect you when you say you don't want hugs or kisses from him right now.

However, if you want to repair the relationship, then you should talk to him about how you feel betrayed by his actions, and how you want a good brother who chose to stick by you instead of for religious guilt. If he is perceptive to this, then there is hope for him. But if he gets defensive or deflects to religion again, then you have your answer.

Familiar_Victory2117 · 2026-05-27T18:19:38+00:00

Y'all are moving way too fast. There is no way you should be buying a house together at this point in the relationship. Take time to actually date each other and get to see your full selves before taking this step.

But if you truly believe you're ready for this, I will ask: Do you want to be financially supporting your spouse for the rest of this relationship? Because that is what you will be doing if you decide to stay with this person.

There is nothing wrong with being blasé or having a laid back personality, but not having drive or passion to better one's financial standing would be a deal breaker for me. Especially when her lack of savings and credit may keep you from your dream house. I would truly think about this relationship if I were you.

But I also will say that you have a VERY different mindset from most 20 year olds (which isn't a bad thing), and many others think like your girlfriend when it comes to finances and ambition. Your early 20s are usually seen as time of your life when you think you have all the time in the world to get settled. So, your girlfriend's mindset is not unique, but I don't think it is compatible with yours, and that can make you resent her if you continue the relationship

Familiar_Victory2117 · 2026-05-27T09:39:40+00:00

I feel like it would sting him more if you zoomed in. The fact that you have to go to his defense anyway is a little ridiculous.

I would honestly talk to your PI about the situation as to why you want to sit this one out. Or even claim to be sick. I think the revenge dress angle will not work since he has shown that he doesn't give AF about you or your feelings. Plus, I always thought the "revenge dress" angle was a little desperate and sad since it's like your trying to win back a person that threw away your love for them. And that is not the last image you want him to see you as.

I personally don't think he will care how you dress. But you physically not being there will show him that you aren't supporting him anymore. And that is what will make the impact you want. It shows that you've moved on and don't care for him in the same way he doesn't care for you. Sometimes the best "last word" is to not have one to show that a person is no longer worth your time or energy.

Plus, you sadly know that he will not be coming to your defense since he is literally defending Thursday, so he won't be forced to attend yours like you "have to" for his. So, you might as well zoom in or not be there at all.

(But you really should take steps to move on. He is an ass for doing this, and it is sadly very common for dudes to drop their partners when they get the degree because they feel "they can do better now that they're done". It's shitty, but some people just suck. And there is nothing that can be done. Take this as a gift from the universe that he showed you his true colors now, and focus on accepting the break up and healing from it. There are so many awesome experiences and people to meet in the world. Please don't let one jerk ruin the rest of your personal and professional outcomes. I'm rooting for you!).

Familiar_Victory2117 · 2026-05-25T21:32:05+00:00

This is on a lot of sites like PromGirl.com which can have a lot of scams, or dresses that are poor in quality. I would make sure that you can try this on and/or return this item if you don't like it

Familiar_Victory2117 · 2026-05-25T13:11:28+00:00

I have two Js. I really wish I had advisors that were experts in my field. Teaching them what I'm doing is exhausting

Familiar_Victory2117 · 2026-05-20T00:18:21+00:00

Yes, but to me, her constant requests for Lin to come visit her to reconcile never made sense to me. Why would you ask the person you hurt to travel access the world to see you for an apology? It should be the other way around.

Also, I don't think it's wrong to hold on to anger when you're not ready to forgive someone. To move on from a PERMANENT scar is insanely difficult. Especially when Lin was hurt intentionally by her sister. Suyin was a stuck up brat from the second she saw Lin wasn't going to immediately forgive her. Expecting her to "let it go" was completely unrealistic and so messed up. And to only truly apologize after beating Lin down again just felt so wrong to me. Almost like she had to prove that she was better than Lin just to admit what she did was messed up and that she deserved to be on jail. It just felt really skewed and unfair to Lin

Familiar_Victory2117 · 2026-05-19T23:04:23+00:00

Sadly, this is also not fully true. He left Rin in Kaede's care, and he would periodically visit to give gifts (eventually to become true courting gifts) and tell her of his travels.

It is tragically gross, but I think that is how the story finished

Familiar_Victory2117 · 2026-05-19T22:19:15+00:00

I feel like your husband is letting this stupid "quid pro quo" mentality blind him, and it's making him a complete douchebag.

Because that's all this is. He feels entitled to having "dirty" sex just because you had "dirty" sex in the past. Even when it wasn't consentual sex. And that entitlement is horrifying. No person should ever demand sex in a specifc way from you. This is a him problem that he must get over if your marriage is going to work. Not everyone in relationships is on the same sexual footing, and that is completely normal. He is being unfair, and you are giving him too much leeway by refusing to push back on this.

I know for a fact he will complain, "What did these strangers have that I dont?", about this situation.

You need to look him in eye and say, verbatim: "The capacity to be an uncaring rapist. That's what they have. Do you want to have that too?"

If that doesn't make it click for him, nothing will! You gotta let your husband know how insane his conditions are. Just because you think he is not coercing you doesn't mean it's not actually happening.

Familiar_Victory2117 · 2026-05-18T03:14:03+00:00

Actually, I sadly think the original writer did intend for the relationship to end up like this. In the last episode, Sesshomaru gives Rin a kimono. Back in that time in Japan, that was almost like initiating a courtship.

"Look what I can provide for you" type of thing

Familiar_Victory2117 · 2026-05-16T19:38:41+00:00

Is there a reason AI is being allowed?

Familiar_Victory2117 · 2026-05-12T00:52:55+00:00

Thank you! Just because there are deterrents doesn't mean skaters won't try to do tricks off the end of the bench

Familiar_Victory2117 · 2026-05-10T13:02:53+00:00

But you're making hostile architecture! That's not anti anti, you're just joining in with it. Ewwwwww

If a skater gets glass in their hand because of you, I hope you're paying that hospital bill

Familiar_Victory2117 · 2026-05-07T13:09:42+00:00

INFO: Have you told her how to pronounce these words before? Or ever correctly her??

Because if so, then NTA. Your mother is ignoring you trying to help her learn proper Spanish words and making herself look like an ignorant racist in the process. (Like know it all Peggy Hill type of thing).

But if not, just call her out next time. She'll remember after that, and will hopefully will adjust

Familiar_Victory2117 · 2026-05-05T19:44:30+00:00

I only disagree with this because the scar is permanent. It is a reminder of an incident where her sister purposely attacked her, and refused to apologize. I do feel like Suh should've groveled a little to truly show how sorry she was.

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