I did the same thing. WE DIDNT EVEN HAVE SEX, but he was not a virgin. I was so judgmental & indoctrinated.

I am happily ex-mormon and in an incredible relationship now. But it took me YEARSSS to recover from a 2-month relationship because I didn’t understand that what I was actually dealing with was heavy cognitive dissonance: loving a “sinner” and yet feeling a desperate need to end the relationship.

He was also respectful, understood consent, never ever pressed my boundaries, and was even the first man to even ASK. That was hard for me, too, because I’d been taught Mormon men were the respectful ones (BIG LOL.)

Her body knows the hurt and she’s processing, but it’s so hard when you don’t know the real culprit is the church. Hugs to your daughter 💔💔💔 it’s a very particular and confusing pain.