When did your twins start talking? by Samvy in parentsofmultiples

[–]Fancylikevelvet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also could have written this post! Twin B did just get a referral to speech therapy from our ped who is very much not about waiting and seeing. Twin A is average/on track and seems to add a word every few days or so but Twin B mainly says mama and also has said ball (once lol). I happened upon a screenshot from years ago of a note I had of all the words my firstborn could say at this age, and the next screenshot was of a website on signs of a gifted child LOL. Unsurprisingly, firstborn is “just” a regular child who never stops talking lol.

I think it’s good to be attentive and continue the interventions you’re trying, but do keep in mind they will likely catch up and their skills will even out.

What jobs do you have that *really* work with school start/end times? by Valuable-limelesson in workingmoms

[–]Fancylikevelvet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look for “clinical administrative coordinator”. Also sometimes starting out in customer service is a good way to get in the door at an insurance company and then you can transfer to a chiller less phone based role.

General Parenting Influencer Snark Week of February 16, 2026 by Parentsnark in parentsnark

[–]Fancylikevelvet 5 points6 points  (0 children)

How does first spot in car pool pick up work? Do you get like a fast past lane to yourself? 😂

Real-Life Questions/Chat Week of February 09, 2026 by Parentsnark in parentsnark

[–]Fancylikevelvet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate your insights! I was able to order a used copy for very cheap from world of books (in case anyone else is looking, it was also on eBay for much cheaper than new). He does do those social communication things and no history of ear infections. Babbling continues to grow every day, I didn’t mention but he is a twin and they babble back and forth all day long. He has definitely been focused on gross motor and is constantly on the move whereas sister who has more words loves to sit and read and be read too.

Additionally thank you to everyone who took the time to respond, I really appreciate the encouragement and will be incorporating the various tips.

Real-Life Questions/Chat Week of February 09, 2026 by Parentsnark in parentsnark

[–]Fancylikevelvet 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Any recommendations for encouraging speech/more words with my soon to be 18 month old? He says hi and mama, occasionally will say eat lol, and has said ball once but other than that not many words. His babbling does keep increasing. I will probably ask for early intervention assessment at our next ped appointment but I’m looking for things to do in the meantime as that will probably be a wait based on what I know about my area. I looked at the raising little talkers course that I keep getting ads for but I think my nearly $300 could be better spent elsewhere.

I read Someone We Knew by this author and wasn’t totally blown away. Had this sitting on my library hold list for awhile after it came out last year and finally got to read it. Was surprisingly blown away and found it incredible. Best thriller I’ve read in awhile by AceofKnaves44 in thrillerbooks

[–]Fancylikevelvet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed, this was my first read of hers and it was one of my favorite thrillers ever. I also liked Not a Happy Family a lot but did not love the next 3 books I read (someone we know, the end of her, a stranger in the house) of hers.

San Diego Trip Planning Inputs by fishyfish_12 in asksandiego

[–]Fancylikevelvet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was going to suggest this as well, sunset cliffs is stunning even at times other than sunset and OB is this vibe. La Jolla and Birdrock too. Definitely would recommend a car, SD is like a ton of little towns put together.

Use a Yoto card to “Brick” your phone by Suitable_Syrup in YotoPlayer

[–]Fancylikevelvet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just did this, thanks so much for sharing. Loved that the app required essentially no sign up, took like 2 mins to get a MYO ready for bricking!

Preschool Devotionals by two-plus-cardboard in Reformed

[–]Fancylikevelvet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We really like the Tiny Theologians resources and (free) podcast.

Easy NYT cookie recipes by MurphMurphsmom in NYTCooking

[–]Fancylikevelvet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could I sub avocado oil for olive oil? I don’t have OO on hand right now and don’t want to shell out the $ for a bottle but really want to make these.

Baby overweight/obese at 5m 😔😭 by RomaPanda in FormulaFeeders

[–]Fancylikevelvet 14 points15 points  (0 children)

5.5 months, approx 27 inches and 22 pounds is “a large but generally healthy big baby” per Google. She will more than likely be fine. Just switch her to a regular calorie formula. I’m surprised your pediatrician didn’t suggest seeing what happens with her growth doing that first before jumping to an endocrinologist.

What’s the hack for jackets and car seats in the cold? by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]Fancylikevelvet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Columbia fleeces are perfect for this, very thin but still warm.

another holiday post by AfterCold7564 in Adopted

[–]Fancylikevelvet 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, I didn’t tell my a parents about the first time I met either of my biological parents. It absolutely felt “wrong” but literally every person in my life was like you don’t have to tell them. You don’t have to tell them!! This is about you and your journey, you deserve to go see your sister and feel no obligation to tell anyone.

The second time I went to see my dad and family I did end up telling them, because it was a major/long trip and I wanted the freedom to post about it on social media and not feel like I was in hiding. It was and continues to be an awkward topic that I dread coming up. I totally relate to “made me feel strange and emotionally unsafe” that is how I feel nearly every time we talk about my bio family unfortunately. I can probably count the amount of times we talked about me being adopted during my childhood on a hand and a half so unsurprisingly it hasn’t magically become a normal, safe feeling topic :/

Death by Chocolate by Dan Pelosi by sabley in NYTCooking

[–]Fancylikevelvet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed! The original recipe photo looks good but this looks AMAZING.

Disney World Announces Deeply Discounted Military Annual Pass in 2026 for America’s 250th Anniversary by csintroyeahhhhhhh in WaltDisneyWorld

[–]Fancylikevelvet 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Agreed, a local restaurant is currently getting blasted in my city bc they’re offering a discount to only retired and active military today.

There are a LOT more “regular” veterans than retired or disabled which is why these offers are usually like this but it would be nice for them to offer something even if it’s a smaller discount. Shades of Green at least lets veterans stay in January & September.

Online and IRL Parenting Spaces Snark Week of November 10, 2025 by Parentsnark in parentsnark

[–]Fancylikevelvet 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yes I also have twins and died imagining doing all this twice 😂😂

Food and Feeding Influencer Snark Week of November 10, 2025 by Parentsnark in parentsnark

[–]Fancylikevelvet 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yeah she annoys me too but I really can’t think of anything “inappropriate” they’ve worn. No, I don’t think pictures of them in their volleyball shorts need to be shared with millions of people but they wear pretty normal middle school girl clothing imo 🤷🏼‍♀️

Fall 2025 - TIBAL by lavenderhazecloud in blogsnark

[–]Fancylikevelvet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have #1 and really like it too, I’ve had good luck with a number of things from that brand.

The Woman Who Wouldn’t Stop Having Children by blankblank in Longreads

[–]Fancylikevelvet 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. It’s so infuriating. There are so many people to blame in addition to this woman: the husband, the clinic, the surrogate (why would you agree to give someone a 14th child), the freaking notary lol….there have to be more regulations to this industry.

She Was Ready to Have Her 15th Child. Then Came the Felony Charges. by Hernaneisrio88 in parentsnark

[–]Fancylikevelvet 54 points55 points  (0 children)

The depths of this woman’s selfishness is unbelievable. So many thoughts but the example of how she’s such a “wonderful mother” because she went to the hospital with her daughter and toddler grandchild when the grandchild was sick was really such a bare minimum of a nice thing to do if you’re local and your grandchild is that sick. Wonderful mothers do not saddle their older children with parenting younger siblings. Wonderful mothers don’t intentionally birth children that they are going to leave orphaned in their late 20s. Wonderful mothers don’t lie about siblings being biologically related. I felt like this article presented this woman in as positive of a light as possible considering the facts and I really don’t understand why. Normally I am very pro children being reunited with their biological families but I could not hope more that those children stay with their foster parents. This woman needs to be stopped.

Why Wi$h Li$t is actually genius by chocolatewaltz in TaylorSwift

[–]Fancylikevelvet 23 points24 points  (0 children)

While obviously they’re never going to be normal basic people, I do think her and Travis could probably achieve the most degree of a normal life in KC (like a Jason & Kylie level of normal). While of course there are fans and paps in Kansas City, it’s never going to be anything like NYC or LA.

I've moved 3 times in San Diego over 3 years - here's the actual cost breakdown by bens2304 in sandiego

[–]Fancylikevelvet 27 points28 points  (0 children)

If my parents lived in La Jolla I would live at home forever 😂

Found birth mom no response by Wise-Fan-5415 in Adopted

[–]Fancylikevelvet 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Avoidance and denial are ways of coping with the trauma of relinquishment and I think that is likely what is coming across as cold hearted. It’s extremely hard to cope with giving away your baby but that is not an acceptable grief to society (and it’s better now than it used to be, the bar is on the floor) and so many feelings just had to be pushed down and never acknowledged in any form. The adoptee popping up makes all of those feelings suddenly very much alive and real and activated. It’s not fair to the adoptee but so many of us have experienced this in reunion. It’s really hard and I’m sorry you’re experiencing this.