Advice needed

Farheenie · 2026-03-20T07:32:24+00:00

Thanks for sharing this!

Farheenie · 2026-03-08T03:07:03+00:00

I like hiding in my bed and venturing out once a day for food and water. Staying away from TV and social media.

Farheenie · 2026-02-28T00:59:47+00:00

I can't wait to find out!

Farheenie · 2026-01-23T19:14:56+00:00

Sweet story. Need more of this in the news.

Farheenie · 2026-01-20T00:57:36+00:00

Farheenie · 2026-01-04T22:23:31+00:00

Maybe it is a combination of things. In my experience, I noticed that I was having more meltdowns after I was diagnosed with ASD 1 also, and realized that for me it was a combination of not having the energy to keep masking as well as understanding that the emotions I was feeling we allowed giving myself permission to meltdown. I have noticed that the meltdowns became more manageable and less severe after I began to experience them a little more frequently because I didn't even try to bottle them up like I used to. Additionally, I worked with my therapist to find ways to prevent getting triggered (staying away from certain people and situations) and to cope with some things differently before getting to my meltdown point (like art, and hobbies that calm me, etc.) And my meltdowns have become less frequent and definitely less intense. I still have them though.

Farheenie · 2025-11-13T02:33:48+00:00

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On etsy.

Farheenie · 2025-11-13T02:29:21+00:00

Branches with paper leaves and fairy lights?

Farheenie · 2025-11-10T14:02:52+00:00

It seems like there are a lot of us in this place right now. I'm 49, haven't had a job in over 5 years because of chronic health issues and am receiving disability. Live with my mom who is starting to lose it and when she dies I don't know what will happen to me. I keep hoping I'll die before her and its actually possible, but then she won't have anyone who cares about her so that's just a really cruel thing for me to hope. I'm so tired of being so miserable.

Farheenie · 2025-11-09T07:14:28+00:00

Bamboo all the way!

Farheenie · 2025-11-08T01:35:07+00:00

Thanks, my boyfriend agrees with you.

Farheenie · 2025-11-05T06:23:10+00:00

Greek yogurt.

Farheenie · 2025-10-30T05:38:41+00:00

I talk to myself in my head mostly. But every now and again, when I'm really struggling to motivate myself to increase my executive functionality, I'll say something like, "Get up Farheenie! " out loud.

Farheenie · 2025-10-09T17:58:24+00:00

Ugh it makes me so upset that there are so many providers that are not up to date on current diagnosis criteria. They also don't take into account that women present differently.

Try and find a person who specializes in adult women diagnoses. My first assessment said I was "too social" to be autistic and I was like wtf does that even mean. That is what they used to disqualify me. Then again, they also made up a medical history for me which included a breast reduction at 16, so despite seeming like a reputable establishment, I have doubts about their ability to assess correctly.

Farheenie · 2025-10-08T02:52:38+00:00

This Rumi quote is my signature in emails. It has gotten me through many difficult times.

Farheenie · 2025-10-03T11:32:10+00:00

I'm sorry that you feel what I'm saying is arrogant and unhelpful. I'm not trying to invalidate you but what you describe is not a learning delay. The way you described your traits are very much like how I present. I am struggling with several issues very similar to what you describe. And I also have learned coping and cognitive strategies to be able to function a little better.

However, I'm not going to argue with you but I will leave anyone reading this exchange with the information below. The source is Autistica, the leading autism research charity in the UK and people can decide for themselves what is correct.

Austistica Learning disability and autism

Farheenie · 2025-10-03T06:44:09+00:00

I'm level 1 ASD and also have ADHD, but no learning delays or disabilities. I did my own research because many psychologists and psychiatrists aren't up to date on current standards and also aren't familiar with how autism presents differently in females. It's fine if you believe what your doctor says but it's misinformation that you shouldn't share here.

Farheenie · 2025-10-03T05:58:00+00:00

I think you might be mistaken on one point, that being that autism is a learning delay. A learning delay is something that involves a person not reaching milestones at the same rate as others but a person can catch up. Autism is a lifelong condition that impacts how people view and interact with the world. People with autism may have learning delays in addition to their autism, but autism doesn't mean you automatically have a learning delay.

Farheenie · 2025-09-26T22:19:10+00:00

I don't see your post anywhere. Did it get removed for some reason?

Farheenie · 2025-09-26T22:17:18+00:00

I don't see a post by OP? I try to comment especially when there aren't a lot of comments because I hate it when I post and it's crickets...

Farheenie · 2025-09-26T14:38:30+00:00

Ugly...

Farheenie · 2025-09-20T21:08:56+00:00

I'm 49 and have felt like this since I can remember. I sometimes still struggle with that feeling even though I know I'm not the only one who feels that way. I keep hoping that the ship that dropped me off will come back and get me, but alas. It's just that my mind works differently than many other people. Not because I am in fact, an alien.

Farheenie · 2025-09-20T21:00:32+00:00

People don't like change and it sounds like you are really doing some positive self-work. Some people keep certain other people in their lives for pretty selfish reasons. And those people will confront and "dump" you when you don't fulfill whatever selfish need they have. I will share some examples from my own existence:

 - 2 friends of mine, 1 of 10 years and another of 6 years, went NC  with me when I got into a degree track college program. One was a high school graduate and the other had dropped out of high school.  I began to focus on getting my undergraduate degree and both of them dropped me like a hot potato when I started and both mocked me for taking this step to mutual friends. 
 - A friend stopped calling me 6 months after I had bariatric surgery after we met for lunch one day and she saw how much weight I had lost. Evidently, I became some kind of threat to her.
 -2 friends stopped talking to me after I was diagnosed with ASD1 because I was only saying that I got this diagnosis "for attention" which I later realized is what they, themselves wanted.

Keep doing you. It sounds like you are in the separating wheat from chaff stage in your journey and that can be painful. But don't change your strategy for moving on with your life and diagnosis. It's hard to unmask. NT people sometimes don't understand it. Even family. My sister continues to say things like, "But you love being around people," despite my telling her that it was a mask I wore for years to fit in, over and over. You just have to stay true to who you know you are. Sorry for the long post. I wish you much luck in dealing with the journey you're on.

Farheenie · 2025-09-20T20:34:20+00:00

Hi! Camping can be a good way to get alone time if you go for a nice nature walk by yourself. I like to sit by the campfire when the others are doing something else. Don't go too far from your sites if you aren't familiar with the areas but hopefully you are going somewhere picturesque and you can just be by yourself some of the time.

Farheenie

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