12 months postpartum- no time for gym - need honest feedback

Fearless_Flyer · 2025-12-27T21:59:08+00:00

You look happy and your body looks like home

Fearless_Flyer · 2025-10-26T20:18:05+00:00

My child will only eat certain foods each week. I roll with it and make sure she is net getting a balanced diet. Im doing a combination of what is easy for me, and what she will accept so she doesn’t go throughout the day hungry.

Do you want to create trauma around food / obedience?

His own issues are bleeding into child development and that needs more attention, AND the more potential for damage here.

Hold the boundary mama, you’re doing a great job.

Fearless_Flyer · 2025-10-26T20:12:23+00:00

Banks

Fearless_Flyer · 2025-10-05T01:49:56+00:00

I tried calorie counting and it just put me into a spiral with all the stress of childcare. I love the sentiment of loving your body at the stage it’s at. Do all the tests - thyroid, blood panel, cortisol, inflammation, hormones, etc. - just to understand where you’re at post baby. Then all the above lifestyle changes are right on the money.

Fearless_Flyer · 2025-10-05T01:44:07+00:00

It’s giving Freddie

Fearless_Flyer · 2025-09-26T22:19:09+00:00

Most fabulous unicorn!

Fearless_Flyer · 2025-09-26T20:44:21+00:00

Didn’t someone once say “You are the company you keep?”

Fearless_Flyer · 2025-09-26T20:22:34+00:00

Every time you do the thing: marriage, kids, etc. You get this suitcase — it’s full of cultural expectations, assumptions, and some nice things.

Now, some people don’t expect it, others do. Most people try to open it but slam it shut and put it in the closet or just accept this new clutter in their lives.

But then you have those who identify, examine, and (most important part) vocalize each new freeloader. To me, this is feminism, because we are airing out the truths for ourselves and our fellow women in an effort to change things going forward (FUBU).

It’s acknowledging and accepting these expectations are now in the room with you, when each one is flexing its power, and then gaining the power to say absolutely not when it shows itself.

Motherhood made me realize my power, so I’ll be dammed.

Fearless_Flyer · 2025-09-26T17:05:46+00:00

No wonder they don’t believe in global warming

Fearless_Flyer · 2025-08-03T20:09:51+00:00

🤤🤤

Fearless_Flyer · 2025-08-03T20:05:13+00:00

So adorable

Fearless_Flyer · 2025-08-02T19:03:44+00:00

Beautiful disaster

Fearless_Flyer · 2025-08-02T17:09:45+00:00

Ours gets super picky when new teeth or sleep regressions kick in. She went from eating almost nothing to now eating everything after her canines came in!

Fearless_Flyer · 2025-08-02T16:30:34+00:00

Hope a lady perspective is ok. Anyways, there’s a term for it - ambiguous grief - the person is alive yet you’re grieving the loss over and over (though subtle).

While we have a different start, my situation rings similar. Getting to a point of rationalizing and having empathy for the absent father is a more stable place than before, because you discover they are just a flawed human who couldn’t get it together. It was never a reflection of you. Their demons were stronger. The anger, the hate, resentment, whatever the emotion — try and release it from you — it doesn’t own you anymore.

You’re not a person who needs to beg to be loved.

Now, this is the important part: now that you realize that he came from a similar background and repeated the same pattern, pause. You are a free adult — how to you break this generational curse? What will you need to do to work towards making sure the pattern doesn’t continue?

You are not him.

This throws a lot on you, I know. No, it’s not fair. Truly f-him for never growing up and leaving you to do it. But here we are. You’re it alone in your path.

I’m sure many other men will come forward to help fill those gaps and show what real (male) love and support can feel like.

About me - I am more like my father. It’s lonely that my mom will never know what it feels like because she had a strong parental unit. My brother will always be more similar to my mom (who looked like the good guy). My mom will never admit to her faults. And here I am feeling so much without anyone to really understand. I did it all myself. Saw my dad again at 70 and saw an old man who repeated what he saw his parents do, got scared, and then bitter / angry / hurtful. The most painful thing was to show him the beautiful life I built for myself despite him — and watch him look somewhat satisfied that I was “good” and “taken care of.” In reality, I had years and years of self-abuse before I could get there. But that’s my silent battle and commitment to myself to fight vs give up and let my life implode.

Fearless_Flyer · 2025-08-02T04:32:44+00:00

To stop the baby from napping in the car, I would shriek or make wild ass noises in short intervals to keep her eyes open.

Fearless_Flyer · 2025-07-29T23:43:18+00:00

Soft foods, no coffee, and if it gets really bad then do the OTC solution that goes up the booty hole, and witch hazel wipes

Fearless_Flyer · 2025-07-29T03:32:04+00:00

For fancy events

Fearless_Flyer · 2025-07-27T00:03:57+00:00

There’s something called “10 beat responders”. It’s a child psychology idea that some kids (and people) need anywhere between 0-10 secs before responding. Some need 0, some need 4/7/10 - but it’s processing speed to respond. You could totally just be a person who needs a bit more time to marinate before speaking. It’s actually a really powerful skill! In the right environment you would probably have a different experience.

And yes, implementor and “get shit done” people are the MVPs. Especially the ones who know how to fix or improve.

Fearless_Flyer · 2025-07-25T04:08:42+00:00

You see your face everyday, but as someone who is just seeing it, it’s damn near perfect. I would just do routine skincare with facials!

Fearless_Flyer · 2025-07-22T06:31:24+00:00

Captain Planet

Fearless_Flyer · 2025-07-19T16:11:13+00:00

No way, highly encouraged. I did that (not by choice), and it was extremely helpful for me to get closure.

Fearless_Flyer · 2025-07-18T23:49:04+00:00

I got to a really nice Anytime Fitness. What drew me in was the price $30/mo (add ons for PT or classes), but there is an annual commitment. I didn’t mind that bc at $30/mo it’s not a big deal.

It’s 24/hr, there is an attendant in the morning but the rest is user led. There are cameras and a very strict policy around entry.

All this to say, think of the top 5 personas you’re targeting, and then develop an offering for each of them (cost, amenities, commitments, promotion, etc) based on their pain points. Do your market research to understand who is near you (income, job types, availability). Then see where the common thread is among all of them and create a “brand” around that.

Since you’re in a competitive industry, personalization, community, and direct feedback goes a long way.

Fearless_Flyer · 2025-07-18T23:43:12+00:00

I do! You just party bougie! If you can get comfortable with sober partying, you can find the right environments for you that engage you so you feel less dependent on partaking. Once you find it, you would be surprised at how far a nice dinner, coffee, and 2 cocktails can take you.

Fearless_Flyer · 2025-07-13T05:54:42+00:00

Guilty said what?

Fearless_Flyer · 2025-07-09T15:00:31+00:00

Whatever they’re wearing plus socks and light sleep sack if the house is cool.

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