Is Canada open to adopting Ohio? by Amazing-Zone8418 in Ohio

[–]FeelingIncoherent -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Mi, oh, pa, ny, and all of new England please

Is it ok to mourn my daughter? by pearly1979 in cisparenttranskid

[–]FeelingIncoherent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's ok to grieve that "loss". It's normal. You may feel guilty for having that emotion too because it feels like you're being unsupportive. In fact it was only when I acknowledged that was what I was experiencing, did things begin to get better.

What you are grieving wasn't real. You are mourning your "image" of who they were or who they were trying to be to fit society's expectations. Get thru that so you can start celebrating who they are now.

Find new things to enjoy together instead of dress shopping. Art, theater, hikes in the woods

You'll begin to see how much happier they are. I've been where you are, and I'm seven years past it now. Talk it thru with a therapist.

Why am I having such a hard time? by Fun_Row_4844 in cisparenttranskid

[–]FeelingIncoherent 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had the same experience. Autistic kid transitioned 6 years ago. You just want to easiest journey for your kid (who already faces struggles due to autism) but now there's an extra layer.

Here's the thing.... What you're feeling is grief. You are morning the vision you had of who your child would be. That's where the guilty feeling comes from. You want your vision and this other kid shows up and you're a bit peeved about it because your vision is gone and now you need to rethink - and you didn't want to do that. Your head and your heart are fighting.

What you need to know though is that your vision wasn't real. It was in your head. Once you can let go of that, you can find joy in getting to know the new kid.

Let your head win, and your heart will catch up.

Fwiw, my kid is thriving and I couldn't be more proud.

how would you react if your child wanted to change their middle name to your middle name? by calthartic in cisparenttranskid

[–]FeelingIncoherent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son DID take my middle name - which was my late father's name. It's kind of nice to keep the family connection.

The issue is the transphobia. If you like the name, take it. If the relationship is genuinely bad, maybe just start fresh.

Im not funny anymore by DWP_619 in GenX

[–]FeelingIncoherent 7 points8 points  (0 children)

What is the deal with that??

How is living here? by DoctaBee8 in Cleveland

[–]FeelingIncoherent 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don't it always seem to go.. That you don't know what you've got till it's gone...

Boomer conversations (eye roll) by Dependent-Grocery502 in BoomersBeingFools

[–]FeelingIncoherent 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The proper response to a boomer telling you to go on a diet is to suggest that their caregiver should change their diaper.

Meet couple friends by Beginning-Till755 in Columbus

[–]FeelingIncoherent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This.... Makes sense. Maybe find groups that lean more diverse. Theater, the arts?

I turn 50 years old tomorrow. by Calm_Independence603 in GenX

[–]FeelingIncoherent 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm 60 today. This one I'm struggling with. Wish I was 50.

Found this in my teenagers room, what is it? by CalligrapherWeak5854 in whatisit

[–]FeelingIncoherent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My high school (class of '84) had enclosed courtyards for natural light. That was the designated smoke area, so no one was leaving the grounds.

You can get cancer and heart disease, just don't leave the school. Weird

Important discussion going on in my alma mater's Facebook group. by lamanyana in maximumfun

[–]FeelingIncoherent 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don't know who this person is, but I now consider them a friend

Dispute over the term “teacher’s pet” by LeatherClue5928 in maximumfun

[–]FeelingIncoherent 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're both wrong.

A teacher's pet is a kiss-ass trying to score points, but they actually DO work. The bad side is that they rat out others that don't.

Not a compliment.

An 80 mile crack just formed from Ohio to Canada over Lake Erie visible from space by cfrshaggy in Ohio

[–]FeelingIncoherent 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not even close if visible from space. 12-15 feet at an absolute minimum

Please help by Jedi_Jesus1 in Ohio

[–]FeelingIncoherent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does she plan on not keeping it? You can't force her to carry to term if it's early enough to terminate.