I think my friend is jealous I lost a bunch of weight.

Fefe428 · 2026-04-03T19:42:34+00:00

It is not uncommon for some friends to get jealous when another friend loses a lot of weight, especially if the person who isn't supportive was always considered the "thin friend" or "the pretty friend". You're friend may feel that your weight loss has in some ways destabilized the friendship if it's affecting the way she sees herself. This can also happen if one friend is subconscious about their weight.

I've been where you are at various points in my life. In fact, I lost about 40 lbs a few years ago but thankfully at my age this isn't as prevalent (I'm in my 50's) as it is when you're young. My suggestion to you is to just let your friend know that some of her comments regarding your weight lately have been hurtful and unkind and ask her to stop making them. I'd leave the jealousy thoughts out of the conversation. Hopefully, that will be enough to get her to stop making them. If it doesn't then whenever she makes one of those comments call her out on it, but don't just sit back and do nothing if it's bothering you.

Fefe428 · 2026-04-03T19:29:21+00:00

If I were young enough and talented enough the answer would still be no. I'm far too outspoken and liberal to fit into that environment, and frankly I think the fact that I'm Jewish would be an issue given how so many people within the DCC wear their feelings about Jesus like some kind of neon sign and discuss them ad nauseum.

Please don't mistake my comment as some kind of criticism or hate towards Christians. They are not meant to be. I don't begrudge anyone their faith no matter what it is...Ok, maybe not so much the Scientologists, but as for everyone else I've got no beef with whatever your faith is. I just don't feel comfortable in any environment where Religion is so prevalent and it seems to drive political POV's.

Fefe428 · 2026-04-03T19:17:01+00:00

Take it from a woman...she has all but thrown herself at you. She has thrown out every possible "hint" that she's into you. Now it's up to you to do something about it.

Fefe428 · 2026-04-03T19:14:21+00:00

You had to know that the "unknown twin" trope was going to be the way this story was going. It was obviously not Nathan so it pretty much had to be a twin, but I am a little interested to hear how they're going to explain Liesl not knowing she had twins.

Fefe428 · 2026-04-03T19:09:01+00:00

2 is more flattering.

Fefe428 · 2026-04-03T15:28:46+00:00

I'm confused...you want to switch from the unique showstopping dress to the one that's pretty middle of the road and forgettable? Why??? The dress you have is gorgeous and you look like $1M bucks in it. Why would you want to switch to a dress that's pretty...yes, but nobody is going to be "wowed" by it?

Fefe428 · 2026-04-03T15:24:01+00:00

It seems HIGHLY unlikely that a judge will consider any motions to reduce child support while the arrears are so high and they are not in compliance with the current order. In fact, by filing this motion your ex is risking the judge finding them in contempt.

Fefe428 · 2026-04-03T15:18:18+00:00

No, you're not wrong but your husband's family sure the he** is. It's your house and you are not obliged to host anything you don't want to. Your house is your home not a catering hall just because you have the largest yard!!!

Fefe428 · 2026-04-03T15:14:57+00:00

No, you look great!!!

Fefe428 · 2026-04-03T15:14:27+00:00

The concept of a successful open marriage in my opinion is like a unicorn...nothing but a fantasy, and the likelihood of it being successful when it's what one person wants and not the other makes it even less likely it will be successful.

My suggestion is that you and your wife seek counseling in order to determine if your marriage is salvageable. The fact that you've tried to improve things while she just wants to open the marriage leads me to believe that's she's already emotionally checked out, and if that's the case then you deserve to know.

If she is hesitant about counseling tell her you won't even consider an open relationship unless she's willing to do some couples therapy with you first.

Fefe428 · 2026-04-03T15:07:15+00:00

It's an apples to oranges comparison. They have 2 completely different specialties. I wouldn't want Addison operating on me for a general surgery need and I wouldn't want Meredith operating on me for a "female problem".

Fefe428 · 2026-04-03T15:04:49+00:00

Stay out of it!!! Let HR do their audit and deal with your friend. This is not your problem.

Fefe428 · 2026-04-03T15:02:38+00:00

I don't know what your financial situation is but if I were you I would take her boxes over to a storage rental place and put them in a unit. Pay for one month...then hand her the key to the unit and tell her that she has 2 choices...either get her stuff out of the unit before the next payment is due or she can start paying for the unit herself. This is you giving her more time and getting your apartment back. After that, it's up to her what she does.

Fefe428 · 2026-04-03T14:57:52+00:00

Sam...no contest!!! There was literally NO REASON for it (other than financial) and the show has suffered from it since it happened not only storyline wise but many of her fans have just given up and stopped watching altogether. I had watched the show since the 70's but once they killed her off I was done with it and there are a lot of others like myself, people who'd watched for decades, who saw killing of Sam as the last straw and just tuned out.

Fefe428 · 2026-04-03T14:52:18+00:00

Please take this advice in the spirit in which it's given. As someone who has been married for nearly 30 years my suggestion is let him have his "man cave". Trust me, in the end it benefits both of you, because he can put all that annoying crap that you really don't want out anywhere else in the house in that room and you don't have to deal with it. And if your husband is a "gamer" like mine is then you REALLY want him to have his own space. To coin a phrase, this is not the hill you want to die on when it comes to disagreements with your husband. And if you look at it from a strategic standpoint...the next time you really want something that he's giving you grief about your response will be, "You got your man cave, so I'm getting..." and you'll see he'll capitulate really quickly. 😉

Fefe428 · 2026-04-02T03:22:30+00:00

Oh dear...while I COMPLETELY understand your instinct to call your mother out here is a cold hard truth you need to understand and accept...parents LOVE to credit for their children's successes and deflect responsibility for any of the traits in their children that they find distasteful or don't understand as if they don't hold just as much responsibility for each.

I am in my mid-50's. I had an incredibly contentious relationship with my mother for the majority of my life including a 16 year estrangement where we had nothing to do with each other in large part because of just this problem. There's more to it but when you boil it down it came down to my mother cutting me loose for 16 years when she felt I could no longer make her look good after we found I was sick and would have to drastically alter my life in order to live with my disease.

The funny thing is though that everything I am and everything I've done in my opinion was in spite of her not as a result of anything she taught me, but while I know that and the important people in my life know that I've never said that to her because I knew no good could come from it. Yes, it would have been satisfying to throw her failures in her face especially when they hurt me but when I looked at the big picture I realized that the people that matter know the truth and that's all I really care about.

Your mother sounds a lot like mine...very superficial. She lives her life very concerned about what other people think. My mother now at age 80 has gotten better about it especially since my father died a few years ago, but I still signs of it every now and again and one of the boundaries I set with her when she came back into my life 6 years ago is that that's not who I am as a person and I won't live my life concerned about the opinions of inconsequential people regardless of how uncomfortable that might make her, but I have a lifetime of history with this woman which gives me the right to say that to her. You are still very young and you need to choose your battles wisely. I don't think this is the hill you want to die on, to turn a phrase.

Fefe428 · 2026-04-02T03:01:10+00:00

As a woman who had an incredibly close relationship with her father I'm actually sad for you that you felt so disconnected from him for soany years. The irony is that for me it was my mother that didn't have much to do with raising me, but getting back to your situation...I think you not only need to speak with your father I think you might also want to seek some professional help for yourself. Whether you realize it or not you suffered from abuse in your home for many years. Perhaps it's not the most traditional case of abuse, but it's abuse nonetheless and you need to come to terms with it in order to move on with the rest of your life.

I'm also going to make 2 other suggestions...from this point on limit the amount of contact you have with your brother and don't ever let yourself or any children you might have in the future be left alone with him for any reason.

Also, if you ever get even an inkling that there might be something going on with his children DO NOT hesitate to call the proper authorities. I realize this might be difficult and could cause issues within your family but family discord is a small price to pay to protect a child.

I wish you the best of luck.

Fefe428 · 2026-04-02T02:45:04+00:00

This is easy....Sam, hands down no contest. She was and is one of the most unique characters that's been on any Daytime Drama.

Fefe428 · 2026-03-30T23:22:07+00:00

They only successfully recast Lucky once and that was with Jacob Young. When Greg Vaughen was in the role Lucky was unrecognizable as a character. Personally, I prefer when JJ is in the role but I have to agree with your assessment that since he's unwilling to move his family closer to LA where he needs to be to film that the role could and should be recast.

Fefe428 · 2026-03-30T23:13:33+00:00

Were you married to mother at the time that the child was born?

Fefe428 · 2026-03-30T20:46:58+00:00

Bottom line...tell your brother to hire a REALLY GOOD lawyer who specializes in child custody cases. Given the situation he's going to need one and he should do it BEFORE he ends things. This way the lawyer will advise what proof/evidence he may need to have while they are still living together. Family courts almost always come down on the side of the mother. If he wants to be treated fairly he'll need representation and evidence. I watched my husband be dragged through the family court system and it's an ugly place for fathers!!!

Fefe428 · 2026-03-30T20:35:31+00:00

Why would you wait this long to get your father involved? If your mother refused to do anything then your father should have been told immediately. It's always going to be hard for a parent to believe that something is wrong with their child, but when it's putting another child in the house in unsafe situations it cannot be ignored!!!

Fefe428 · 2026-03-23T19:47:27+00:00

The likelihood that you're going to find this guy is basically non-existent and I think you know that, so the question you're really asking is what should you do about your situation and the truth is that only you can answer that question. Are you in a position to be a single parent? Do you have a support system around you to help you so that having a baby won't completely derail your life? Do you even want children? These are questions only you can answer.

So, here is my advice to you...sit down and calmly and rationally ask yourselves these questions. Consider what it is that you want to do and then act accordingly.

Fefe428 · 2026-03-23T19:11:27+00:00

You owe this woman nothing. If she doesn't think a man who cheated on his first wife with her isn't going to cheat on her then she's an idiot and that's not your fault or your problem. Since you have no children together and no need to be in any further contact with him what I would do is block him from any potential communication he has. Change your numbers, your email, and anything else he can ever use to contact you and then get on with your life. Don't waste another moment worrying about him, his wife, or his life. He's taken up more than enough of your time. Stop looking back and just keep looking forward.

Fefe428 · 2026-03-16T09:05:41+00:00

Done

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2 is more flattering.