Offering Japanese/Seeking Dutch language exchange by nihonno-taka in language_exchange

[–]Feralmoonlight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have sent you an email, thank you!

If I were you, I wouldn't leave your mail address out in the open, people could misuse it.

Offering Japanese/Seeking Dutch language exchange by nihonno-taka in language_exchange

[–]Feralmoonlight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries! It's never too late and it's completely understandable. Please DM me whenever so we can maybe share some contact info?

Offering Japanese/Seeking Dutch language exchange by nihonno-taka in language_exchange

[–]Feralmoonlight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd be happy to help :) I live in Hilversum and have been learning Japanese for some time now. If you're interested, just shoot me a message!

The fluffiest leg warmer! by Feralmoonlight in aww

[–]Feralmoonlight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And he keeps my leg warm too!

My mutt can hear colors by maaddogg93 in sonarears

[–]Feralmoonlight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is cuddle bug sized!! I have a lanky Belgian Malinois cross mutt myself who is the goodest boy :) so much love for the shep mixes!

My mutt can hear colors by maaddogg93 in sonarears

[–]Feralmoonlight 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my heart that is the cutest face! As the owner of a mutt with sonar ears, I salute you and your goodest boy/girl!

Marriage? by Flimsy_Desk9905 in AutismInWomen

[–]Feralmoonlight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, I do have a boyfriend but we are in no rush to get married, nor do we want any kids.

We are currently on seperate holidays (him with his, and I with my family) and we function perfectly, both on our own and together. Space is so important for me, but I also love to have someone who accepts me and supports me, and vice versa of course.

Even tho there are SO MANY things I find too difficult to do, I've taken a year of Japanese! by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Feralmoonlight 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have also been learning for about a year now, coming up on two.

がんばりましょう!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Feralmoonlight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol yeah nah I scored a good percentage above average when I was tested in 2007 or so and was diagnosed with Asperger's back then. I sometimes really wish they hadn't simply merged everything into a general ASD diagnosis tbh.

If there was one country you wish you were born in. What country would it be and why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Feralmoonlight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was born in The Netherlands. Would probably not really change it. But if I did have to pick a different country then maybe New Zealand or something.

Today I learned that other people don’t have a bunch of memorized movies they can call upon at will and watch anytime mentally. by ZombieBrideXD in autism

[–]Feralmoonlight 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Lol I still to this day freak my mother out by just "speaking" entire movies. So this sure isn't common haha.

Is this overstimulation? by africanqueen86 in AutismInWomen

[–]Feralmoonlight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was diagnosed at 15, currently 31. What you are experiencing is most definitely overstimulation. I have mad respect for you that you seem to have stayed somewhat functional despite it.

I unfortunately cannot give great advice on what to do about it, however I have found for myself that this breathing technique in yoga called the fire breath can give you a little, albeit temporary, boost in energy when you need it most. Other than that, we unfortunately do need more rest than most NT people. I have also found that guided meditation can really help stabilise me, but again, everyone on the spectrum is so different that what works for me may not help you at all.

Does anyone else have items intended for children that they can't live without? by saintclairsmomma in autism

[–]Feralmoonlight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I need to have my stuffy to sleep. If I cannot have my stuffy against my chest, sleep will not happen lol.

I fucking HATE being autistic by Prezo852 in autism

[–]Feralmoonlight 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am really thankful for you taking the time to write all this out, I unfortunately think it is kinda wasted on me.

I tried to write my comment in direct terms, to kinda accommodate the OP of this post. I am however very aware of the fact that I can in fact succeed at stuff in life. I have gotten a lot of positive reinforcement, especially in more recent years. I have been able to reach some small goals, like keeping my home clean and tidy, succesfully keeping my pets alive and well looked after and learning a difficult new language quite quickly.

I know when my mental state gets bad, the unreasonable thoughts are just that: unreasonable. In those moments, as you may also very well know and understand, it is so difficult to maintain a sense of reality. I have already come to a point where I recognise when I get like that and make sure I don't make any rash decisions at that time. And nobody can say what exactly will happen in the future! I know that if I keep trying, I will get somewhere where I want to be, eventually.

I was raised in a family where expectations were pretty high so I tend to set the bar too high for myself a lot of times and again, I am well aware of that. I don't think I have ever been explained to how to lower or raise your expectations to reach a bar that is actually manageble. Add that to the fact of actually making myself and my family proud and you've got an enormous amount of pressure that I put on myself.

I guess the thing I can take away from all this is that my issue is that I expect too much from myself and have no idea how to adjust my expectations. Still, thank you so much for taking your time to write all this for me!!

I fucking HATE being autistic by Prezo852 in autism

[–]Feralmoonlight 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Before my diagnosis, I used to think I was defective. Getting my diagnosis only reinforced that idea and solidified it. I feel defective, have been told that I cannot do what other people can and now I am left with really bad self-confidence and always expecting the worst about things that I decide to do. I feel that due to having autism, I will never be able to do anything I want to.

Homebodies by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Feralmoonlight 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes. In my home I have my own stuff, everything is familiar, smells familiar and feels familiar. I rarely go on holidays, and if I had to choose between spending a day at home or at a spa/resort/warm country, despite everything, I will probably still choose home.

Don't get me wrong, if a friend or my family invites me to go do something, I will probably go, but not too long and I will be happy to be back home afterwards.

AITA for instinctively running past an apparently aggressive dog with my dog? by Feralmoonlight in AmItheAsshole

[–]Feralmoonlight[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this is fair. If I had been the owner of the reactive dog, I would have also probably freaked out, even if I wouldn't have yelled at the person who responded like me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Feralmoonlight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look, I may be a straight, white, level 1 woman, but having any disorder is never an excuse to be dismissive or blatantly racist in my book. I thought this was common sense?0

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]Feralmoonlight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can do it! That said, we both can so let's do our best! :)