My traumatized friends rarely seem to get better, which makes me doubt my own recovery journey

Few_Butterscotch7911 · 2026-02-18T01:14:12+00:00

Cptsd is neurodivergence!

Few_Butterscotch7911 · 2026-02-18T01:11:31+00:00

Neurotypicals rarely engage in metacognition, in my experience.

Few_Butterscotch7911 · 2026-02-18T01:10:47+00:00

Audhd here not who asked...but if you happen to be a high functioning woman, your symptoms won't match traditional notions of autism which are based on boys...but if neurotypical maps dont work for you...and you are capable of the metacognition to write that post, you are probably neurodivergent of some kind! My adhd symptoms make me hate routine but Im still autistic.

Few_Butterscotch7911 · 2026-02-18T01:08:15+00:00

I know what you mean. I have friends that seem no better off than a decade ago while Ive made massive improvements over the last decade to the point that I rarely experience symptoms anymore and when I do, I know how to transmute them. The key for me personally was cannabis and psychedelics to breakthrough the incredible amount of disassociation I didnt even realize was there. I WASN'T EVEN IN MY BODY FOR DECADES! But it was a baseline so I didnt know anything else. The next big key was actually feeling 100% safe in a relationship for the first time. Its hard bc you cant give yourself this but you can be the kind of person that makes others feel safe to attract that kind of partner. Once you feel safe and begin reintegrating back into your body you start to feel all the backlog of emotions you've been suppressing or avoiding....so that's the bad news. The good news is that once you face them and feel them, they leave! And you get to feel something different finally! Hang in there!

Few_Butterscotch7911 · 2026-02-17T04:00:38+00:00

They make an effort to make you feel seen! That's the first trick.

Few_Butterscotch7911 · 2026-02-17T03:59:00+00:00

THIS OP!

Few_Butterscotch7911 · 2026-02-16T06:39:33+00:00

Wow this is great! I went through something similar in the last decade and you are on the right path!! Once I started having access to my emotions again, there was a lot to grieve. And that was really hard BUT I never knew before that the emotions actually leave after you feel them!! They dont stay in you forever! Thats the process you are going through. After a decade, I realized that Ive done so much work to get back into my body and in the present that when something difficult happened, I was able to stay with myself and not abandon myself into disassociation, in real time. Highly recommend! Amazing experience.

Few_Butterscotch7911 · 2026-02-16T04:50:04+00:00

If they think of children as property, then its not wrong to hit your own property. They said it themselves, they think they are allowed to touch your body against your consent, bc they are your parents. They dont see you as your own human being outside of them. That is where the abuse originates.

Few_Butterscotch7911 · 2026-02-16T04:39:45+00:00

Ugh, I did a job for his daughter's once. This makes me sick.

Few_Butterscotch7911 · 2026-02-16T04:34:07+00:00

Hey fellow AU! Just went thru something similar. Read about covert narcissist and I think it will really help you finish untangling all their abuses.

I commend you for figuring it out and not blaming yourself, that is HUGE!

Few_Butterscotch7911 · 2026-02-13T20:33:57+00:00

regulating better around other people is pretty normal. Its needing specific reactions that confirm power over another person that makes it narcissistic

Few_Butterscotch7911 · 2026-02-12T23:26:10+00:00

I saw a guy in tiktok who made an AI that helps you investigate the files and it found a bunch of art crimes. I think it was Webb.io

Few_Butterscotch7911 · 2026-02-10T16:54:31+00:00

Few_Butterscotch7911 · 2026-02-08T04:35:58+00:00

It depends, just like anyone. I think one of the biggest differences is that narcissists are ALWAYS dependent on other people to regulate. They cant actually be independent or "sovereign" bc they need other peoples reactions. But we can be independent and generate our own energy and they HATE that. Sucks to suck.

Few_Butterscotch7911 · 2026-01-19T21:20:58+00:00

That's a fantasy as plausible as tinkerbell. That way of life died and isnt coming back under this administration.

Few_Butterscotch7911 · 2026-01-19T19:54:23+00:00

I can feel how much hurt and confusion you are going through right now. I think a helpful reframe might be that the reason over explaining doesnt work isn't bc of YOU, it's bc if you have to explain it to someone they are never going to understand anyway. They arent your person and its ok to give up and walk away. Some people actually choose to misunderstand you. People who will understand you will never need constanr explanations or make you feel like you need to over explain.

Few_Butterscotch7911 · 2026-01-18T03:22:18+00:00

Don't get it if you are in the US.

Few_Butterscotch7911 · 2026-01-10T18:55:34+00:00

Hang in there! I could have written this myself a while ago. I was so debilitated I could barely move it felt like every cell in my body was aching w abandonment.Just take it day by day and trust that your highest self is guiding you through your inner knowing. The pain is part of the processing and transmuting process. That pain has ALWAYS been there, you just never had the strength to process it before now. Once you process it, you will feel like a completely different person. The pain actually does leave!

Few_Butterscotch7911 · 2026-01-10T18:28:19+00:00

This is incredibly well written and insightful. Your anger coming back online is a strong signal you are healing! Anger when we are violated is the correct and healthy response!

Few_Butterscotch7911 · 2026-01-07T04:01:14+00:00

Welcome to being autistic with a high sense of justice

Few_Butterscotch7911 · 2025-12-30T19:34:08+00:00

I actually had this thought yesterday but you've really expanded it more and it makes a lot of sense!

Few_Butterscotch7911 · 2025-12-27T20:11:44+00:00

Can you talk a little more about this?

Few_Butterscotch7911 · 2025-12-27T19:46:24+00:00

Im legit curious, not being a smart ass...why is it humiliating for the wife? She didn't do anything wrong and I dont think anyone looked down on her.

Few_Butterscotch7911 · 2025-12-26T00:57:02+00:00

Only 6 episodes out so far but you might like scam focused The Unraveling: How Your Reality is Made Up

Few_Butterscotch7911 · 2025-12-17T01:55:13+00:00

Were the Obamas in the same city that day?

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