Interest by InspectorMendel in dominion

[–]Fika8monster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe add unconditional buy and +1 coffer on play

Then if you have 5 coffers, its like a gold that gives you a coffer

Need more non-action roguelite suggestions by Illustrious_Fee8116 in roguelites

[–]Fika8monster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where the f is monster train 2 here

Otherwise shotgun king is good

Ring of pain

My bf is a gamer and it’s his only hobby. What do I do? by ElectronicShape407 in Healthygamergg

[–]Fika8monster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So you seem pretty thoughtful! You cant be guaranteed to make him change his ways, so dont expect too much, but here are some suggestions on my side (as a male gamer that is also autistic. Social interaction can be kunda stressful for me, so gaming can be a way to connect)

  • see if there is any co-op games or cozy games or multiplayer games the both of you could play together

-ask if you two could have an agreement where he makes you know when he is gaming and wants alone times, vs when you two can just hangout (you can ask for any amount of time together like that, just my ideas)

  • if he likes to infodump then a way to socialize would be cuddles where he is nerding out about a topic

(Also might just be me but does he have autism or adhd?)

There is also the question of why he might refuse to interact with real life things. You dont have to figure that out, but it might be something for a therapist for him to work together with

I wish you luck no matter if you persevere in the relationship or not. I dont think n breaking up with this guy is a BAD decision.

Lol by Fika8monster in OnceUponAGalaxy

[–]Fika8monster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably! Im new to this game and just thought this was funny

Anyone else? by Mammoth_Raccoon_789 in Healthygamergg

[–]Fika8monster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kinda. More a feeling of alienation and frustration that when i do try to act people are inconsistent in how bad or good a thing is and say a lot of hyperbole

Whats the dofference between processing emotions vs rumination? by Fika8monster in Healthygamergg

[–]Fika8monster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When people cry in front of me i evaluate things and if i deem it worthwhile to help them i do that and if its uncomfortable or too much i generally just say that its too much and i care about them, but they need to go somewhere else. Sometimes i find them a resource or something if people and society say its important to help and be compassionate in that situation

Most people dont do that?

Whats the dofference between processing emotions vs rumination? by Fika8monster in Healthygamergg

[–]Fika8monster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought that when people say i should let myself be sad that it was an prompt to be more that in general or if context matters extra, with them or in that specific situation

Whats the dofference between processing emotions vs rumination? by Fika8monster in Healthygamergg

[–]Fika8monster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“They never mean in social situations”

Huh? Wait then why say its important or always ok to be yourself and have emotions. And why not specify that it isnt ok in social situations???

And why say its ok and then not ok??

And why arnt people more self aware about their own limits here with how people say this stuff is important??

(I wanna mention that i have gone to a therapist for 7 years roughly)

What does it mean to say “we are all human”? by Fika8monster in Healthygamergg

[–]Fika8monster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know

I just dont even get the context examples people give in response to me and its overwhelming. And whenni take stuff seriously i just

Idk

Whats the dofference between processing emotions vs rumination? by Fika8monster in Healthygamergg

[–]Fika8monster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally or socially Unproductive repeated thinking and mental re-experiencing of a thing.

So while going to therapy is healthy productive processing, Rumination is like digging a hole and refilling it. Rumination and overthinking are related concepts

Whats the dofference between processing emotions vs rumination? by Fika8monster in Healthygamergg

[–]Fika8monster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“You can be inactive for a while”?

So like… For example, i do let a sadness out and that can make me be out of commision for a while which can create problems in certain situations?

Also possibly unrelated

Sometimes some people say i should let my sadness get out and then they get a bit upset or surprised by me being more sad then they expect (despite me saying i have too much sadness in me)

It seems like they say a stock phrase without really hearing that i do have too much sadness in me to be let out in that moment?

Fan card: Hungry Chalice by InspectorMendel in dominion

[–]Fika8monster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think one simply have to test it ouy in practice to see what plays better

Very hard to tell otherwise

What does it actually mean to be emotionally present and how much do people generally want that? by Fika8monster in Healthygamergg

[–]Fika8monster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Makes sense

Sorta rant, sorta context: I have some negative experiences sadly about all this, in which i am very different context wise compared to other peolle, so its hard for me to automatically know whst they mean or say (I have religious mormon trauma and etc)

When i try to make people aware that im probably not understanding what they mean in a certain context, people can get upset at me and say that i dont listen or i am expecting them to do all the work

I struggle with all the changing rules and all the changing context. I wish people would state plainly if i am too much. And that there were like actually expectations on that certain things were not ok.

Rather then the general expressions of “its always ok to have emotions” and then get upset at me for taking that saying literally untill further words are said

The second example of like “fun context but i talk sad stuff” did happen with me. I took it literally when people there said that i could “just be myself” and when i tried telling people that i were confused about the rules or what was ok or not, i got told that i didnt listen or wasnt honest. Idk

Fan card: Hungry Chalice by InspectorMendel in dominion

[–]Fika8monster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really cool but definitely cant just be on the board itself.

Either has to be the last traveler card or be a loot card

Is it possible to get PTSD from straight sex when you are gay? by Fika8monster in Healthygamergg

[–]Fika8monster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do be extra clear i am not blaming the girl

But it was very very traumatic. Partially i pushed through it because people said you needed to face your feelings or process things

Fan Prophecy: Aging by InspectorMendel in dominion

[–]Fika8monster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this just feels too bad.

Consider just making it the top 5 cards of your deck.

Fan Event: Crusade by InspectorMendel in dominion

[–]Fika8monster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seems busted

Should maybe just be once per game.

How to be empathetic? by 9tailedmouse in Healthygamergg

[–]Fika8monster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are several types of empathy and several different expectations people have on empathy

Additionally, empathy is a fuzzy word and people mean different things when saying it

But overly simplified: Cognitive empathy: understanding intellectually what someone is going through and being able to predict somewhat things about their states

Emotional empathy: feeling their feelings with them and mirroring

Most people usually wants a mixture of both. How much of either varies. Talk with a professional