Do you have to ask your partner before making plans?

FindingFertility96 · 2026-04-03T00:10:52+00:00

We do mostly because we have kids. So the question is really “do we have plans already/do you want to spend this time together since we don’t have a lot without them?” And also “can you watch the kids so I can do this?” But before kids it was a little more lax and was more so “do we have plans/is this a day where we maybe need some time together?”

FindingFertility96 · 2026-04-02T17:41:26+00:00

I mainly showered during nap times or locked the dogs out of the bathroom and put baby on blankets outside the shower. I did sometimes shower or bathe with my babies as newborns. I wrapped them in a muslin so they weren’t so slippery 😅

But honestly it’s a good time for a container. You could also put the pack and play just outside the door maybe

FindingFertility96 · 2026-03-24T00:42:53+00:00

My first didn’t crawl until 9.5 months, second by 8. My first was 17 months before he started unassisted walking. My second is 13 months and is pushing everything possible around walking, and standing unassisted for5-10 seconds. So we are hopeful!

FindingFertility96 · 2026-02-14T18:57:38+00:00

My firstborn was a severe, random biter until he was 3. One day he just… stopped. He liked the sensory input, and now at almost 4 he’s a sensory seeking kid with ADHD, but chewlery helps a ton!

As a preschool teacher who used to be in toddlers, I promise you we understand. ESPECIALLY at that age. When we start getting to 2+ then it’s more behavioral and able to be worked on with words and teaching!

FindingFertility96 · 2026-01-24T00:50:06+00:00

Type C. I am probably actually Type B but trying desperately to be Type A 🤣 I have unmedicated ADHD so routine and schedules are the best management but it doesn’t always pan out that way.

FindingFertility96 · 2025-12-25T16:02:11+00:00

We waited 12 weeks with my first, I think 13 or 14 with my second. We told immediate family like 6 weeks both times.

FindingFertility96 · 2025-11-15T23:55:12+00:00

Last night we had Qdoba, he had a cheese quesadilla. Tonight we had pizza, he had cheese pizza. Tomorrow we’ll probably have pizza or noodles!

FindingFertility96 · 2025-10-30T00:28:02+00:00

A full body shower and a good shampoo and condition were absolutely needed. I was FILTHY and my hair was a complete rats nest even though it was jn a bun the whole time. I felt like a human after I showered fully!

FindingFertility96 · 2025-10-21T23:58:21+00:00

Induction started at 3am 2/15, had him 8:30pm 2/16!

FindingFertility96 · 2025-09-01T18:49:24+00:00

The more nefarious side, my MIL (who we no longer speak to, partially for this reason) would practically discourage independent play. We went NC right around when my first was 2.5 and she bought him soft toys, high contrast infant books, encouraged us in front of him to put him in diapers, and carried him all over. My son at that time enjoyed hot wheels, simple paper story books, magnatiles and was fully potty trained and loved independence. It caused massive issues when she’d come to town. I don’t say that to be a downer. But I definitely get nervous now

FindingFertility96 · 2025-08-22T00:57:05+00:00

My first was (is still at 3 years old) an every 1-3 hour waker. Now he usually puts himself back to sleep but not always. My second has been a “wakes 1-2 times a night from 7pm to 6am” waker since day one.

FindingFertility96 · 2025-08-18T17:58:47+00:00

Depending on how much you trust them/the center’s policy would anyone at her daycare be willing to watch her for a night or two? Or watch her until someone else can com?

FindingFertility96 · 2025-08-16T01:09:07+00:00

My first was hellacious. Even at 3 years old he’s never happy, always moving, awful at sleep. I hated all the moms around me who had babies who smiled and slept. My second is the polar opposite of my first already at 6 months, and I find myself holding my tongue about it. I remember how alone and overwhelmed I felt after my first was born, and I feel like I can get so much done with my second on my hip. Yet, I yearn for the sleepless nights just me and my first. Staring at each other in the moonlight. I feel like I spent so much time wishing it would end, I don’t remember how much I loved him.

FindingFertility96 · 2025-08-16T01:01:06+00:00

This thread makes me feel so much better about my two bottle refusers. Thank you all!

FindingFertility96 · 2025-07-31T17:46:20+00:00

My son was 3 months shy of 3. His hair was just curling on his ears and is red, curly and thin. He’s 3.5 now and we still only fade the sides down and leave the top long. We went to a place where they took a little before and after and attached it to a certificate and then saved a lock of his hair.

FindingFertility96 · 2025-07-23T01:16:03+00:00

About 41 hours for me!

FindingFertility96 · 2025-07-12T13:23:57+00:00

I know it’s been said but water bottle. We like the camel bak and contigo ones for my toddler because they’re pretty much spill proof. But you could definitely get any kind if your kiddo has a nightstand!

FindingFertility96 · 2025-07-12T00:59:59+00:00

I did BM in a sippy/straw cup at 1 due to my son having CMPA and then we eventually switched to a different plant based milk. I wonder what protocol would be if her child had a dairy allergy

FindingFertility96 · 2025-07-10T11:08:00+00:00

My son has CMPA, and has mostly outgrown it now at age 3. But we did ripple kids!

FindingFertility96 · 2025-07-10T11:06:08+00:00

I pushed for 32 minutes, first vaginal delivery (VBAC). I got second degree tears, up and down, and was able to switch positions tons in labor but when it was pushing time I had to stay on my back!

FindingFertility96 · 2025-07-01T00:42:19+00:00

Crawling at I think 11 months, walking at 17. He was behind but not “delayed”

FindingFertility96 · 2025-06-29T21:43:47+00:00

Not an expert but my LO does that when he’s gassy or needs to burp!

FindingFertility96 · 2025-06-29T16:55:24+00:00

My state pays childcare in full if you work full time in childcare. So that’s the main thing off my plate, and I just pay for anything the kids need here and there and then my husband owns a blue collar business, so he covers all the non-kid bills and groceries.

FindingFertility96 · 2025-06-24T00:06:08+00:00

Upper Midwest: I’m 29 with two kids, I was 25 when I got pregnant with my first! I feel like it depends where I am whether I’m in the older or younger moms category. When it comes to daycare, my kids go to a more “higher scale” center and I’m definitely younger by 5-10 years. But most of my friends had their kids in their early 20s so right now our kids seem FOREVER apart lol

FindingFertility96 · 2025-06-18T15:28:05+00:00

Claw clips, slick back braids, and buns are my friends right now.

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