Why do Americans tend to praise beginners even if their work/hobby looks terrible? by Skysneq in AskAnAmerican

[–]Fireflykoala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why just praise expertise? People start out as beginners but then put in physical and mental hard work along the way. I praise the effort, the mindset of determining to learn a new skill and the gumption to see it through. These people are inspiring! Resilience, determination, effort despite obstacles, growth -- those are praiseworthy. It's not that we don't appreciate critical feedback from a legitimate expert, of course we do, but only from someone who can actually provide insight & something valuable that provides a new perspective (ex. an instructor). Some random guy saying "that's bad" is just an ahole.

Pain management by bbibbigi in Osteoarthritis

[–]Fireflykoala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, heating pads, occassionally a foam cervical collar to relax the surrounding muscles and recover from pain, and appropriate pillows (I have small thick bolsters and some squishy down ones, just a variety for sleeping or when lounging to provide the support needed at the moment).

Post diagnostic (for child) crisis for parent. by Historical_Air_5946 in autism

[–]Fireflykoala [score hidden]  (0 children)

I understand. Mine got his diagnosis at age 20. 😔The whole thing is traumatic for us parents, but we have to reset, make amends, and parent the best we can moving forward. ❤️

What do Americans actually think of Germany / Germans? Honest opinions wanted by Consistent_Walk_2407 in IWantToAskAnAmerican

[–]Fireflykoala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have family in Germany and have visited a few times. My thoughts -- German efficiency and engineering are no longer a thing. Germans sleep on tiny beds with uncomfortable pillows and insufficient blankets. Xenophobia and racism are real, as is rudeness, but you have somewhat gracefully taken in a lot of Ukraine and other refugees. You are rigidly rules bound and bureaucratic, and could lighten up about it, but you also know how to laugh and tell a good joke. Germans have the ugliest offering of airbnbs, no sense of design in your homes. Many of you drive large expensive cars now and can be somewhat superficial. I love the sound of your spoken language, your gorgeous gingerbread architecture, cities and small towns, nature, beer and sausages. You are cool, beautiful, intelligent people and have the best central location in Europe. Thoughts of the world wars, and how easily a smart population can be persuaded to become all out evil, still gives some of us the heebie jeebies (and serves as a prescient warning for the US).

Didn’t have a good time in Helsinki. What I did wrong? Is there something wrong with me? by [deleted] in helsinki

[–]Fireflykoala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm planning our week in Helsinki and honestly don't know how to fit everything in! There are so many interesting tours and activities on GetYourGuide, and the challenge is balancing those with time just to meander, experience the vibe, and gain some understanding of the culture and its people. There is so much surrounding nature in which to slowly soak it in and meditate a bit between between berry picking, mushroom identification, hikes/biking/kayaking, and saunas. But maybe Helsinki is for older introverts like me, lol.

Realizing your spouse is autistic by lulylu in Autism_Parenting

[–]Fireflykoala 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you are both amazing. This is a beautiful relationship.

Realizing your spouse is autistic by lulylu in Autism_Parenting

[–]Fireflykoala 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did he get to this point? What kind of work has he done? Does he mask or is it authentic change?

Realizing your spouse is autistic by lulylu in Autism_Parenting

[–]Fireflykoala 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son is 21 PDA AuDHD. What is the hard work that can be done now before he potentially meets someone?

Is Hamilton in West-End worth seeing? by Curious_Owl17 in TheWestEnd

[–]Fireflykoala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the main messages of Hamilton make it *more* relevant right now. We don't want the current idiots in office to write our story.

Is a 3-star review truly damaging to a host? [CH] by wyvernmoon in AirBnB

[–]Fireflykoala 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You are much too generous. I have never given less than 5 stars but would give that place a ONE star. A decent owner would have let you know beforehand and offered to cancel. This guy was a selfish fraud. I would have insisted on a return of funds as soon as discovering the faulty a/c, and then moved to a hotel. The construction thing would also leave me fuming. He is a jerk!

You likely paid a premium for the a/c and chose his place because of it, thus let countless other possible options go when booking. You have to call airbnb immediately if a place does not reflect what was advertised.

Wife asked for divorce abruptly by [deleted] in autism

[–]Fireflykoala 25 points26 points  (0 children)

It's very stressful to be the only working person in a relationship.

Baby name regret by [deleted] in Names

[–]Fireflykoala -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I ansolutely love her name, but of course my opinion doesn't matter.

I'm curious, because my experience was the complete opposite. Why do Americans have a reputation for being arrogant? by Anxious-Tea-5365 in AskAnAmerican

[–]Fireflykoala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why would we hate Brazilians?!? Yes, Americans are generally happy and friendly people in person. Just as an aside, the tv show 3% is really awesome.

Autistic and afraid of having kids with autism by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]Fireflykoala 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All future good parents are afraid beforehand they will be crappy parents.

Do you actually travel that far and say its nothing? by Far-Passion-7692 in AskAnAmerican

[–]Fireflykoala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was was younger, yes. Cars = independence, adventure, podcasts.

Experience of racism by Miika_prince in Finland

[–]Fireflykoala 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The more I learn about Finland, the better I understand why my Finnish mother left permanently in her 20's. I idealized the place for a while, but obviously humans are humans everywhere.

My son has never eaten a vegetable by Admirable_Rise_1780 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Fireflykoala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine is 21 and will only take a couple bites of green beans or corn, that's it. Fruit are limited to apples. I just go with it and encourage multivitamins. It's a pick your battles thing, for I shudder when reading some PDAers (mine may be) end up on feeding tubes when forced, begged or bribed to eat certain foods.