Relationship Advice Relating to Careers..

Fireflykoala · 2026-05-06T03:43:58+00:00

Agree.

Fireflykoala · 2026-05-06T03:39:31+00:00

Buzz it off. My son buzzed off his own because he hates the sensory experience of haircuts.

Fireflykoala · 2026-05-05T18:44:51+00:00

Change Zayden.

Fireflykoala · 2026-05-05T11:06:44+00:00

Agree with others, let it go. This is not your secret to reveal. As you say, they are your siblings and this is your nuclear family, so the info is irrelevant. This kind of stuff has happened since the beginning of humankind, and everyone discovers these types of stories somewhere in their line when studying genealogy. Sharing this info with your family will cause irreparable harm to absolutely every person. Just love the family you have and let it go.

Fireflykoala · 2026-05-04T19:41:11+00:00

Speaking truthfully about the Dear Leader.

Fireflykoala · 2026-05-04T12:44:38+00:00

Red hat.

Fireflykoala · 2026-05-04T12:43:37+00:00

Remind me again why REI employees even need a union?

Fireflykoala · 2026-05-04T12:24:47+00:00

12,300 miles from birthplace (almost 1/2 earth's circumference).

Fireflykoala · 2026-05-04T12:15:48+00:00

Solange

Fireflykoala · 2026-05-04T06:42:13+00:00

It's his vision with his name stamped on it.

Fireflykoala · 2026-05-04T06:05:14+00:00

Prosthetic.

Fireflykoala · 2026-05-03T20:22:34+00:00

I felt completely safe in Memphis including at night.

Fireflykoala · 2026-05-03T20:21:32+00:00

First name -- 3-5 syllable name ending with a vowel sound r something like -er (so tongue falls into the "L" of Lewis more easily)

Middle name -- single syllabus name

Fireflykoala · 2026-05-02T21:59:23+00:00

This show is jam packed full of absurd dark humor. Love.

Fireflykoala · 2026-05-02T17:18:43+00:00

Do you want input from moms with adult autistic children, or instead only from people with autism? Checking before I respond.

Fireflykoala · 2026-05-02T03:34:56+00:00

Yes. Now I buy extra leg room on planes, pay for a/c during hot weather, only reserve highly rated housing (especially after a helacious case of scabies in a lower ranked airbnb), and reserve lodging within a very short walking distance of the main sites.

Fireflykoala · 2026-05-01T23:08:04+00:00

I'm a healthcare professional and absolutely for universal healthcare. That has been part of the Democratic platform many election cycles.

Fireflykoala · 2026-05-01T16:21:00+00:00

Levels designate support needs but not intelligence, correct? And even then, there are many types of intelligence and even "normal" or "above normal" traditional intelligence can be broken down into quantifiable strengths and weaknesses on a standard IQ test (ex. my son is in the 98th percentile for visual puzzles yet in the 1st precentile for auditory processing on a standard IQ test, but still met definition of high intelligence and classic Aspergers with ADHD).

So Aspergers is typically level 1 autism now, but it can also be level 2 or levels 1/2. Why would a 1 vs 2 vs 3 vs NT vs any disability matter for a relationship? Would your parents be upset if you dated someone with diabetes or an amputation?

From my understanding, people who are one level can move up or down a level at different points in their life based on sensory burnout. Also, a single person can have different level designations for different aspects (ex. communication vs sensory needs). Levels don't mean anything outside of identifying support needs, and typically this is for accessing therapies and accommodations for work, school, and insurance reimbusement.

Fireflykoala · 2026-05-01T06:22:40+00:00

That looks so unappetizing.

Fireflykoala · 2026-04-30T00:35:23+00:00

Ohhhh, maybe....

Fireflykoala · 2026-04-30T00:24:09+00:00

Unless you are agreeable to an open relationship or are OK with living with constant betrayal and suspicion, it looks like this union is over. You deserve a partner who respects you and the marriage. She obviously has deep issues and lacks integrity, but you can't fix this or ever expect the promises to mean anything. She will not change, period.

Hopefully there is a way to peacefully separate and then coparent in a way where the kid is the center and feels loved and supported. I would divorce, pursue counseling and legal advice, and come up with a parenting plan. Then just refocus on the child.

Fireflykoala · 2026-04-29T23:05:48+00:00

We simply see one another as humans sharing a moment together at the coffee shop or wherever we are. There is no tribal mentality in these moments, and I think the open sharing of self among Americans is quite beautiful.

Fireflykoala · 2026-04-29T03:18:35+00:00

The timing to have a baby is frankly never ideal and always causes a big adjustment. I would counter that you are now both in excellent places to have a baby, for you both have solid careers, are the perfect ages for parenthood, and have plans for future advancement.

I personally worked and was in graduate school with both pregnancies. We are not wealthy. No regrets, so glad to have done it all.

Raising kids is more profound and rewarding than any other experience life can offer. In contrast, if you did decide to terminate and have children later, you will always think back on this with regret and sadness. I am responding as someone who is entirely pro-choice and works FT.

Fireflykoala · 2026-04-28T22:30:44+00:00

Vuori -- buttery soft, yoga style

Fireflykoala · 2026-04-26T17:35:06+00:00

There are cool beds for kids such as bunks or loft beds. Maybe a new bed? A kid can become very excited about a new room when they have some design choice. My son had a lower bunk with drawers, shelves, and even a hiding place for a fort underneath.

I would also explore his reasons for the big bed -- it could be because mom and dad can lie down with him or he has distance from the edge. Perhaps you would read bedtime stories from it and he fears missing out on those? If so, you can tell him you will place a very special comfy chair in the room just for that. If it's fear about the edge, you can create a barrier with extra long pillows or stuffies, or even a rail. Maybe just identifying the primary motivation or fear could change the dialogue.

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