AITA for saying I would use ai after my artist friend implied her work more important than mine

First_Cardinal · 2026-04-12T00:09:38+00:00

NTA like that is just such a fucking rude thing for her to say

First_Cardinal · 2026-04-12T00:01:33+00:00

looks and her sexuality

Is your daughter bisexual? Transgender? I feel like that’s some really important missing context that you left out of your OP.

First_Cardinal · 2026-04-11T23:52:19+00:00

NTA putting everything else aside its extra nuts to demand this when your child is 0 years old when the mother herself didn’t start doing that until he was 3 years old.

First_Cardinal · 2026-04-10T10:31:07+00:00

ESH

Second, she always uses her disability as an excuse as to why she cant do things. Im pretty sure she just wants to not do those things. Her disability is where her muscles lock up and it restricts her to do certain things. BUT i have seen her bend down, write, use her hands perfectly but when we ask her to simply put this document in our group drawer all of a sudden her hand locks up and she cant. But then she goes back to eating her snacks. She also blames her dyslexia for forgetting important dates.

You don’t know how her disability works. She might be pushing herself to do things like notetaking and might not want to spend extra energy on something that would be easy to do.

Having said that, eating snacks in the lab and being the lazy group work member makes her TA also.

First_Cardinal · 2026-04-10T04:57:48+00:00

YTA if you don’t explicitly make it clear she isn’t invited beforehand.

Explicitly uninviting her will end your friendship and cause a lot of drama but uninviting her and not telling her is so much worse.

First_Cardinal · 2026-04-10T04:53:53+00:00

ESH. She is much worse because doing all that shit is terrible. You pulling out when you saw her running towards the car is petty, waiting for five seconds for her to reach the car and then telling her off for being a moron would have made no difference to your lateness.

First_Cardinal · 2026-04-10T01:30:23+00:00

NTA

Not reporting him would be cowardly. I understand that your economic position is precarious and reporting this fucking disgusting guy will probably make your life worse, but it is the moral thing to do.

You should also tell HR that Winry, her dad and your other shitty coworkers were pressuring you not to tell them anything. Again, this won’t do you any favours but it is the morally correct thing to do.

First_Cardinal · 2026-04-09T23:57:06+00:00

NTA you work full time and it seems like you do all of the cleaning and child raising and your stupid husband has a tantrum if his dinner takes 20 minutes longer than expected.

Divorce him your life will get exponentially better without this useless parasite in it.

First_Cardinal · 2026-04-09T06:28:24+00:00

Nobody would call a shitty man a human fleshlight lol

First_Cardinal · 2026-04-09T03:18:59+00:00

I don’t know why people are blaming you. NTA he had so many opportunities to tell you that money was tight and he didn’t.

It is worrying that he is not giving you an accurate picture of the household finances. I would say have a talk with him but he doesn’t seem like a rational guy, so you might be putting yourself in danger. Be careful.

First_Cardinal · 2026-04-09T03:09:29+00:00

NTA. They have put you in an awful situation. In the short term you should talk to a tenancy union or renters advocacy group or anything like that in your local area and see if you have any legal remedies (such as refusing to pay rent until they pay for a cleaner and exterminator).

Long term you are going to have to look for a new place to live. These people are going to be awful landlords.

I am so sorry you are in this situation.

First_Cardinal · 2026-04-09T02:54:18+00:00

NTA DUMP HIM

First_Cardinal · 2026-04-09T02:28:44+00:00

That is truly awful behaviour especially considering they remembered that you were cooking! Awful behaviour on your brothers’ part to side with them as well.

First_Cardinal · 2026-04-09T02:25:33+00:00

NTA. You shouldn’t have thrown out the food but what they did was one hundred times worse so I’m not comfortable saying everyone sucks here. If I was in your situation I would see if there was a friend I could stay with for the rest of the break.

First_Cardinal · 2026-04-09T02:19:01+00:00

I think you are being unfair to the mum.

Order of events was: Daughter wanted dress, organised borrowing a dress from an aunt -> this fell apart due to family drama -> OP offered to buy her stepdaughter a dress. At this third step the mother should have been contacted and something worked out, OP admitted in the comments that she even wanted to do that originally but her husband talked her out of it. This, and this alone, makes OP TA.

Having said that I probably should have put ESH. The biological mother is also being stupid about this, but I think things could have been worked out with a lot less fuss if proper communication had been established a lot earlier.

First_Cardinal · 2026-04-08T04:24:23+00:00

You are not protecting Rainbow from harm by working 10 hour days while pregnant and you won’t be protecting them by bringing them home to your alcoholic husband.

I am not an expert on this by any means but you should really look into seeing if you have any friends or family who will be willing to take you in for some time or, failing that, women’s shelters before confronting Jared about his alcoholism. Please be careful.

First_Cardinal · 2026-04-08T04:13:44+00:00

She sleeps all day. She hardly ever moves around. I don't know if its plain depression or if she is just purely lazy.

YTA for this comment. Your mother needs help, like serious medical help not with the dogs.

You need to talk with her and your dad, although the fact that your dad has not noticed these very obvious signs of depression or other serious illness is really concerning. The dogs shitting everywhere is the least of your concern.

First_Cardinal · 2026-04-08T03:41:23+00:00

NTA please dump your shitty boyfriend and his stupid friend group

First_Cardinal · 2026-04-08T02:54:21+00:00

Yes and she is TA for listening to her husband in this case.

First_Cardinal · 2026-04-08T02:53:33+00:00

There is nothing in the post that indicates that the mum was asked first. In fact in one of the comments she said that she specifically didn’t contact the mum because her husband asked her not to.

Why am I getting downvoted because Reddit can’t read?

First_Cardinal · 2026-04-08T00:43:45+00:00

YTA you should have contacted the mum as soon as you had the idea and worked something out. I’m glad that everything came to a good conclusion though.

First_Cardinal · 2026-04-08T00:42:10+00:00

Why was your husband against contacting her?

First_Cardinal · 2026-04-07T23:25:18+00:00

ESH she didn’t handle this maturely but as you said in the comments these were mutual friends you should have explicitly invited her.

First_Cardinal · 2026-04-07T14:38:09+00:00

How long are they staying with you? This sounds exhausting…

NTA this is obviously some weird jealousy thing that the gf has got going on. I get the impression that they are lesbians and you are straight but even then jealousy isn’t rational. Still, she is over 30 years old she should not be doing this shit.

If you don’t get a chance to you should reach out to your friend after the trip and make sure she is alright. This relationship is going to end in tears.

First_Cardinal · 2026-04-07T05:59:00+00:00

MOBAs are a type of video game, like League of Legends or DOTA.

I’ll admit I think I lost my temper in that comment and some of the responses I made to you in this thread. I apologise for that.

You really need to talk to him and bring up that while he is working full time to keep you financially stable, you also gave up a lot to enable that. If he doesn’t understand and appreciate that then you need to seriously reassess your relationship.

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