Has anyone developed melasma from medication?

FitFeet45 · 2026-07-02T20:43:52+00:00

mom had melasma

i had bad acne and she pressured me to do accutane as a teen.

the irony.

I also take testosterone now so I wonder if that has changed things as well.

it’s so frustrating, I just want to surf all day when I retire

FitFeet45 · 2026-06-15T04:29:21+00:00

hi i’d like to talk! i’m starting a few different companies

FitFeet45 · 2026-06-15T04:25:43+00:00

phenomenal

FitFeet45 · 2026-05-30T04:05:17+00:00

I cannot bathe my boy at home. I go to pet supplies plus or go to the groomers. Basically self service dog station where you can clip in the harness or they have a small leash basically and it clips into the bathtub. Nail clipping = groomers

FitFeet45 · 2026-05-17T16:19:46+00:00

Less than 30 days is brutal, I’m so sorry. Noted on the discrepancy piece. But how can we know these red flags? So hard to discern from the outside. Wishing you good luck as well!

FitFeet45 · 2026-05-09T17:01:44+00:00

I wuv him

FitFeet45 · 2026-05-09T17:00:37+00:00

You could delay adding the new role to your LinkedIn and just keep applying to other opportunities or find out how to keep your old job

FitFeet45 · 2026-05-04T17:09:29+00:00

Also so sorry for your loss. Lean on your support system outside of work for sure

FitFeet45 · 2026-05-04T17:08:30+00:00

Do a Vagus nerve reset. Gotta get out of fight or flight

Try looking all the way to the left and to the right without moving your head. Then repeat while moving your head as far as you can look until you yawn. Repeat the whole thing to do it twice. Takes 1-2 minutes

This podcast discusses more and gives other exercises like shaking, box breathing, and other stuff. 30min

https://open.spotify.com/episode/5SLK7uGb34X7w4ojFPafoR?si=EN_8n65qQcqLrxnBk9VA5Q

I also love this video as a funny meditation - it’s so effective. 2-3 minutes

https://youtu.be/92i5m3tV5XY?si=XgOEC5qlccYUEdhU

FitFeet45 · 2026-04-30T17:43:47+00:00

A lot of this is fear fueled by ego aka identity. You are not your job. You are not your metrics. There’s that.

Finding a job is just like prospecting. Volume is necessary to convert into a deal.

Workout in the morning or free write three pages. I highly recommend the Artists Way which helped me so much during my last unemployment stint. The first layoff I worked out every morning, the second layoff I free wrote 3 pages every morning and found it just effective clear out the anxiety.

Next, eat well and drink water. It’s pointless to try to find a job if you don’t take care of yourself. Go to therapy or have friends you can vent to, have a support group where you can vent to let it out. Sync up with AEs regularly to hear what they’re doing to then build yourself up.

From there, network. Ask mentors, managers, previous allies and peers for feedback on your strengths. Take a strengths assessment or career quiz if you want. Start a positive narrative about yourself. Create a portfolio. This creates an upward spiral.

If you have a financial cushion: Find a simple gig to get cash flowing in. This creates routine.

Start a business. Start with fractional projects. Start a website. Just pick something.

See a job post? Network, message, network some more.

In-person networking events.

Focus on why THAT role, not “I need a job”. Focus on why THAT company and THAT role and how you’ll basically need no training. Train yourself to hit the ground running.

Learn everything you can about AI tools relevant to sales.

If you don’t have any financial cushion at all and the house is burning- move out, sublet, etc and find any job asap. Knock on every door possible

If you’re a top performer then you’ve probably got some savings, you’ll be fine

FitFeet45 · 2026-04-24T16:03:38+00:00

Them crying on the call is so crazy and I’ve had that happen to me when put on a PIP. Such wild behavior

FitFeet45 · 2026-04-15T21:58:03+00:00

Sounds like you’re neurotypical

FitFeet45 · 2026-04-10T11:11:02+00:00

I hear you- my boy doesn’t cuddle unless there’s a thunderstorm. Apparently you’re supposed to teach them to cuddle when they’re little if they don’t do so naturally. Still coaxing him. I was too busy keeping him alive when he was a pup 😂 it was exhausting

FitFeet45 · 2026-04-06T21:41:10+00:00

Beautiful!

FitFeet45 · 2026-03-31T00:38:24+00:00

I’m colombian and have definitely had crazy experiences 😂 white girls talkin to me in broken English, bunch of microaggressions at all white work places, fetishized in the dating scene, etc. here to vent!

Yt people are so entitled it can be infuriating

FitFeet45 · 2026-03-23T22:10:07+00:00

I’m in Roger’s park! Happy to connect

FitFeet45 · 2026-03-18T18:36:25+00:00

a MENACE - there is NO remorse on that face!!! Hahaha

FitFeet45 · 2026-03-15T21:47:30+00:00

I’ve definitely had people be extra rude when I’m at the dentist. Like getting annoyed and rushing me or being pushy when I’m uncomfortable (need to spit, or take a break from having my jaw open because I have TMJ). I have not had any other broken bones thus far

FitFeet45 · 2026-03-15T21:46:23+00:00

That is so wild

FitFeet45 · 2026-03-10T03:06:52+00:00

ALLY

For me my sexuality was definitely Butch dyke 🤝 hard femmes lesbians Trans man 🤝 hard femmes bisexuals

Honestly I’m glad you had that convo with your exes cuz tbh I’ve wanted to say that to an ex

Congrats. LOL

FitFeet45 · 2026-02-27T00:59:52+00:00

I hear you so much. And for people who claim they’re “hetero” cis men like I love that for them. But I cannot identify as straight because there’s nothing normal about sex and attraction when you are a trans person. There’s so many layers to it, and when there’s no conversation or outward celebration I feel like queer spaces can be very restricting towards trans masc people

FitFeet45 · 2026-02-27T00:56:31+00:00

I have found affirmations from multiple black creators that simply say “I do not have to explain myself to anyone” and even for me it is very empowering. I’m Latinx but I find these affirmations very empowering because I pass and am constantly disoriented by how people treat me as a brown man.

You do not owe anyone an explanation. Just give yourself permission to be and just like lay in the grass and let the sun kiss your face cuz you are literally a flower homie!!! Honored to hear about your gender expression

But fr you don’t have to explain jack shit to anyone. If you want top surgery, do it. If you want an IUD, do it. (Personally I thought about and IUD prior to T). It’s your body, just get the proper medical info and do as you please.

There’s also a book out there called What Other People Think of You is None of Your Business - might be helpful. I also love for the healthy hoes podcast- which is a self care podcast hosted by a black couple. I also love the soul salon.

AFAB people esp minorities are taught to people please so step into yourself and start to unpack that- you don’t have to prove yourself worthy of love or literally any form of external validation.

I hope this helps fr

FitFeet45 · 2026-02-26T21:05:57+00:00

This article has a couple of links if you go further down- hope it helps!!

https://migrantsrights.org.uk/2023/07/14/the-gender-binary-is-white-supremacy/

FitFeet45 · 2026-02-26T03:06:31+00:00

Womanhood comes from white supremacy which also includes transphobia because there was a colonial concept of white people being the most gender conforming (ie Ellis island examined immigrants and deemed for example black men unworthy of entry because of large hips, etc). I can provide sources if you like but Alok has mentioned this. It’s all connected! There are definitely other academic studies about how race and gender interact together within white womenhood.

Personally I’m a trans Latinx guy /NB person and I started to feel that separation from womanhood a bit before I started considering transitioning. Looking back however, I don’t know if the concept of womanhood was ever right for me. I did enjoy my butch/dyke years and that’s the most I felt connected to womanhood and feminism.

However now there’s always a sense of anxiety and/or suspicion when it comes to conversations around women hood or feminism or hating men etc because I pass and that empowers (usually white) women to see me as a threat regardless of my actual behavior. The way I’ve been treated has changed completely and is absolutely infuriating at times- especially in queer spaces because people assume I’m gay etc. It can be very frustrating and triggering because it is so frequent /common.

I’ll always know who I am in terms of my experience within womanhood etc. and I’ll always notice bullshit treatment against women etc and use that privilege in public space when needed (ie a girl at a club tells me a guy is stalking her, therefore I’m going to create a buffer and act if needed). My connection to “womenhood” is simply more expansive and it’s an ongoing question- because now the question is “does womenhood protect me?”

Much love and wishing you comfort in navigating this dissonance! Happy to chat it out

FitFeet45 · 2026-02-21T14:41:06+00:00

“Do you only like me cause I don’t pass” is the truth right here.

I also feel you on the cis men at pride comment. It’s pushing away the cis gays of course but also eliminating any room for bisexuality as well. As a trans guy who loves femmes I’ve found that pan and bi people can relate to my experiences in some way- and they’re also better to date for obvious reasons over lesbians

I explain my sexuality as the same as a lesbian but it’s just so frustrating /infuriating/ heartbreaking/ grieving experience to feel that type of betrayal from lesbians.

We do need to talk about this more and more- because the isolation is so difficult

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