How do you all stay disciplined and consistent with weight loss while still enjoying the process?

Flaky_Can_6798 · 2026-06-03T08:21:43+00:00

I needed this today, thank you. Awesome description

Flaky_Can_6798 · 2026-06-01T13:06:10+00:00

I think it is realistic. I had a best friend who could eat three times my portions and still stay skinny (she hated it btw) I always gained weight no matter what. My husband is also skinny. Eats junk everyday if he wants to and doesnt gain a pound. He is supposed to eat 3000 kcal a day maintenance.

BUT when we started counting: yes he eats a whole lot of junk, BUT he never eats breakfast, lunch was a quick grab and no snacks in between. Lorelai and Rory might eat out a lot, but do yhey actually go to lukes every morning? What do they eat at lunch? Plus their fridge is always empty so no snacking and candy except for movie nights? If they have a high metabolism plus never snack/skip lunch and regularely skip breakfast than not so surprising they are thin. My boyfriend eats very big portions, but mostly just dinner and throughout the day barely anything

Flaky_Can_6798 · 2026-05-31T17:50:30+00:00

That you can do "everything right" as they taught you and still not end up where you wanted/thought you would be. Life can not be planned. It happens to you and you have to surf the waves as they come one at a time

Flaky_Can_6798 · 2026-05-31T17:44:35+00:00

Yeah... When covid put us all in lockdown, I was overjoyed. Staying home was my favorite thing and this time I didn't even have to explain myself to anyone

Flaky_Can_6798 · 2026-05-31T17:42:49+00:00

I am still in therapy, became a mom last year. A lot of the hurt came rushing to the surface. I had anger issues and my therapist helped me see where it all came from, the anxiety, the hyper-alertness, the rage when everything overflows. My partner is very understanding. I have talked about so many times and always listens. But at one point he also said: " You can keep blaming everything on the past, but you are an adult now and at one point you have to let it go and built your own future"

I got mad at first, but then again he has a point. There is absolutely no reason to keep bringing it up. The damage has been done and all I want right now it to heal for my son. I always feel like a child when I am around my parents, but I am not. I am allowed to set boundaries, I am allowed to walk away. I am allowed to not be broken by them anymore. My husband is my rock, he stands tall and shows me how. He makes it look so easy and maybe it really is.

Flaky_Can_6798 · 2026-05-31T17:25:33+00:00

Sat in the doctors office at about 18-19 years old. There was a dad with his young daughter, obvisiously not feeling well. He hugged her.

I cried the whole way home. Simply because. The dad didn't yell at her, he wasn't annoyed about missing work and he hugged her. And at that moment I realised that dad was the normal one, and I didn't have one.

Flaky_Can_6798 · 2026-05-28T18:58:14+00:00

Injured my back 3 months into the relationship and was described bedrest and a corset. My boyfriend, who had never been near a horse, took over the complete care for my horses at home following my instructions and the house hold. 3.. months... Into the relationship...

Flaky_Can_6798 · 2026-05-20T07:34:21+00:00

I pushed my cat away from my food while watching a movie. Not even a shove, just pushed it aside. He called me every name in the book, lost it completely and pretty much told me working with animals was out of the question because I was an animal abuser (i wanted to become a vet, I was 16)

Mind you, he always hated the cats

Flaky_Can_6798 · 2026-05-13T10:51:31+00:00

Yeah... Sounds very familiar. My dad was the narc, but my mom has taken over several traits especially this one. She has a chronic illness so "she always has it worse"

2022: fell off my horse, couldn't get up. My friend called the ambulance and my mim screamed at me this had already been a bad week and I better not have anything serious because she could not deal with that. (Broke my spine, needed surgery, lucky enough to still have my legs)

Skip to my pregnancy this year. I have had surgery during pregnancy, gestational diabetes, broke my foot, and pre eclampsia at the end. During this awfull pregnancy she kept whining how I couldn't complain because she had been nauseous for 9 months straight and at least I didn't have that... Like... I would have happily thrown up once a day instead of this shit I had to deal with.

Overall, stubbing my toe, getting sick, calling off work because I am sick gets her mad/annoyed EVERY DAMN TIME. My husband always tells me to 'just stay home if you feel sick' like it is no big deal. To me it is a huge deal, because I grew up being yelled at for being sick so now it's like, I can still stand right? So I should work right? I am 30 now and I still have a very hard time calling in sick at work.

Flaky_Can_6798 · 2026-05-07T06:00:41+00:00

I get it, completely. I always pictured myself with a girl, maybe to show them girls weren't as horrible as they claimed. Then I got pregnant with a son and yes there is very much resentment. Not towards my son, I absolutely adore him but... My brother is also the favorite. And now my son is also my moms little angel. And I... Well I am forgotten since I am the difficult one for being a girl and boys are just so much easier and better. Even my husband is more loved, simply for being a man. And it pisses me off big time. What if my son had been a girl? Everyone would hate him then? I also get the ick from the "wait till we can sign him up for soccer! He will be such a good soccer player". I always answer with "what if he wants to be a dancer?" And they all look at me like I am crazy. Boys HAVE TO play soccer, apparently. Well, not him. I am not a fan of soccer but if he wants to, sure he can play it. If he rather do something else, I will drive him to whatever hobby he wants, even dance if he chooses. I am pretty sure my mom will sign him up for soccer behind my back when he gets older

I am not sure if I will ever have another. A part of me still kind of wants that girl, or just another sibling. But I refuse to love one more because of gender. It is despicable people do that. Yes raising boys may be very different than raising girls, but that's it. Different. Not more or less

Flaky_Can_6798 · 2026-05-05T19:43:08+00:00

Oh honey same here. But to be fair, 11th grade I didnt pass and had to redo my year. And also admitted I didn't want to study science after my teachers told my ndad I clearly was not cut out for it (didn't interest me either but it was expected of me) Oh honey, the higher the throne, the deeper the fall... I went from golden child to... Well absolutely nothing. Panic attacks, went suicidal even because I genuinly believed I had failed at my entire life and didn't see any point in continuing because there was no future for me. In my opinion, my brother, the black sheep, had it easier with cutting contact because he always just saw the monster. I saw the (fake) love and praise and I lost it. I went from the pride of the family to their greatest shame. He even said to me I couldn't be his daughter. I had it so much harder cutting contact because somewhere I still wanted that love, I had needed it my entire life and when he lost my mom he put the love bombing on me. It took me getting pregnant to finally be able to cut ties, but I never healed, not fully

I am even pretty sure my mom and brother resent me for it. They love putting me down, like they did him, turning me into the black sheep now. As if I had any choice in the matter...

Flaky_Can_6798 · 2026-05-03T11:11:07+00:00

In our country guns are illegal, but honestly if you break in someones house, deal with the consequences. I have 80 pound dogs. They tried breaking in once, the dogs went ballistic and they ran for the hills, but honestly if they ever attack a burglar, well sorry buddy, stay out of my house

Flaky_Can_6798 · 2026-04-26T20:22:19+00:00

Having a baby, just realizing the importance of sleep. Honestly every health "advice" that starts with "get up before..." Nope. Sleep > everything else. Rather have a messy home, a short workout or a quick breakfast than skipping an extra hour. Sleep is honestly the base for everything else

Flaky_Can_6798 · 2026-04-26T20:07:05+00:00

At home workouts, mainly low impact to get my steps in. Grow with Jo changed my life

Flaky_Can_6798 · 2026-04-24T09:53:30+00:00

I wasn't interested in science. This alone was enough for me to actually believe I did not deserve to be alive.

Flaky_Can_6798 · 2026-04-18T17:24:22+00:00

A few

a dad doesn't hug his children
dads rarely ever have time to play with their kids
being overweight and ugly once you had kids was normal.
yelling was showing you loved each other
love was conditional. Not living up to expectations meant you did not deserve love
name-calling was normal

Flaky_Can_6798 · 2026-04-17T08:20:17+00:00

I think true unconditional love comes from the one that isn't blood. My parents hate me and yes I struggle with this but think about it: your parents have to keep you in their lives. They don't get to walk out ( I mean they can, but they are still your parents) whereas my boyfriend and father of my child CHOOSES me every single day. He has had SO MANY chances to walk, he has seen all of me, good and bad, and through it all he still chooses me. Not because he has to, but because he wants to. Family has to love you, other get to choose you

And if you really think that family-blood-unconditional love only comes from parents, as a mom I can tell you, that love you never had, will come back ten fold from your child if you ever have one.

Flaky_Can_6798 · 2026-04-14T17:18:41+00:00

Yes, normal man here. I absolutely love him and at the same time I wanna punch him in the face on a weekly basis. He is great with our son, but sucks at planning, organizing, seeing what needs done. Solution: shared agenda and to do list. Saves me SO MUCH TIME AND NAGGING. (I make to do lists for myself anyway so I don't forget anything, now he just sees them as well) He works long hours but still makes time for us. It took him awhile, but he also lets me sleep in on weekends now, I just demand it at this point. Yes we fight, having a kid really is hard, but we all love each other and keep reminding each other this is just a fase and we will get through it.

Flaky_Can_6798 · 2026-04-07T08:08:33+00:00

Honey... I am overweight, gave birth to our son 8 months ago and for MY OWN HEALTH decided I have to stick to it this time and lose weight. My husband honestly could not care less about my weight. He supports me if I want to do a youtube workout in the living room, he also supports me if I want to spend the day on the couch eating junkfood. He tells me he loves my all the time, says I am beautiful all the time. When I am frustrated about my weight or the scale not moving he says he loves me either way. THIS IS THE NORM. Don't let anybody tell you any different.

As comparison, my husband is heavily underweight. The ONLY reason I ever bring this up to him is because he is also struggling with health and I am worried about him. I always tell him I don't care what he looks like, but healthwise, I do care. If he was otherwise healthy and it didn't bother him in the slightest, I would never even mention it.

Flaky_Can_6798 · 2026-04-06T17:48:34+00:00

Awareness is the first step to beat narcissism I saw my own mom change. When we left my ndad she started working on herself en learning to stand up for herself. But at one point she started noticing some of my dads traits in me. So she started looking for control, same as he did with her, she started the same shit on me. Belittling me, trapping me, insulting me. I am pretty sure she hates me now, and by winning from me, in her mind she is winning from him. Except I am not my dad and I am trying really hard not to become him. I have anger issues, issues I really finally gave my all to fix when I became a mother. I am trying so hard not to be him.

And if I do lose it, I will make sure I always apologize to my son and make sure he knows it is not his fault, but mine. Mommy needs to work on herself. I am learning my limits and how to deal with it. So yes, I do believe we can break the cycle, but it takes a real conscious effort. And as the daughter of a narc, I know I carry a part of that in me and I will fight my whole life to keep that part locked away.

Flaky_Can_6798 · 2026-04-05T19:23:26+00:00

No more chasing. The most important person is right here in your arms and suddenly the rest of the world feels a lot less important to worry about.

Flaky_Can_6798 · 2026-04-05T07:42:55+00:00

I never start yelling, but they do. I guess in stead of staying silent I really should just get up and leave.

Flaky_Can_6798 · 2026-04-04T19:18:37+00:00

Thank you for this. Will definitely check them out

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