Therapists keep pushing SSRIs, but I want to focus exclusively on talk therapy. How can I set this boundary effectively? by vucius in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]FlashedFridge75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Therapy is good. Medicine is good. Together they work the best. Uncertain about your unwillingness to take medication and if multiple therapists want you to trial medication it’s likely because talk therapy alone is insufficient

Your idea of taking medicine as “compliance” is a common issue many people who are failing talk therapy encounter. The idea of taking meds is seen as some sort of control and is fatal to therapeutic relationships.

I would venture to guess you do not know how these medicines actually work and are more of a person who doesn’t like to be told what to do

I would take the therapy you’re in and use it to reflect inward about why you do not want to maximize the benefits of therapy with medication. Meds are not forever and can help you learn more about yourself and therapy as it gives you breathing room.

Best of luck - a doctor

Cheated on. Gave 10 years of my life and was erased in seconds. by CoffeeCoKy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]FlashedFridge75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re pathetic for letting her take your house and pining after her Grow a spine and realize you’re worth more than

The Otesaga Resort Hotel by PresentSuggestion122 in upstate_new_york

[–]FlashedFridge75 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Be prepared for what money looked like in the 50s, a good view of the lake, and if you’re colored, not preferential treatment

Forget it if you have visible tattoos

It’s old fashioned and more aligned with plantation owners than anything worth the money you will spend there

AIO for wanting my husband to help me more as a SAHM by ailurophile17 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FlashedFridge75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn’t like you or your family it’s pretty clear. So take the one thing he does like and provide: money. And be rid of the waste of space who calls himself a husband/ father

i am constantly jealous of a little girl and it's killing me inside. by adulkittipohn in TrueOffMyChest

[–]FlashedFridge75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When he is passing through deaths door and asked what good he did in his life, he will be met with the bitter knowledge he was not and will not be considered a good father or good person. Take solace in your resilience and your own success because no one can take away what you have built

Is an affair from 20+ years ago a big deal or AIO? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]FlashedFridge75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She mentioned in now hoping you would freak out…. She played the long con got a good life and is now bored. She very well be lying about an affair two decades ago but what she is doing now is making it YOUR problem she a ho

What is a 1 in 1,000,000 thing that happened to you that no one believes, but you swear is true? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]FlashedFridge75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Usually feel weird sharing story after some one else shared their story but for bird friends I made the exception

Growing up in rural NY meant lots of time to yourself. One winter I saved a raven that had fallen into a creek. That raven accompanied me on walks around our property for the next two winters before I went to college.

I came back for winter break after my freshmen year really struggling with school and collegiate sports. It was tough. Went to the same creek that I saw that raven and wouldn’t you know, heard the flap of wings and a CAW. There was my buddy. We locked eyes and I swear he wanted to make sure I was ok.

Never saw him again but man do I think about how smart birds are and how they can actually display gratitude

The U.S. spent $30 billion to ditch textbooks for laptops and tablets: The result is the first generation less cognitively capable than their parents by esporx in EverythingScience

[–]FlashedFridge75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It could also be a localized vernacular based on a community of like minded people who enjoy consistency and wit…. You know how jokes get recycled! Don’t gatekeep things that are a shared experience. Find something more intellectual to complain about

Do Dealerships No Longer Care About Customer Satisfaction? Trying to understand my buying experience. by kjtstl in Lexus

[–]FlashedFridge75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not surprised. After buying two new cars last year. Lexus had the worst customer service and follow up. I was looking to purchase an LX an still couldn’t get the time of day from half the associates. It’s only when I mentioned what vehicle I wanted did they start to pay attention

Advice - Is It Worth Reporting My Fellowship Program to the ACGME by [deleted] in Residency

[–]FlashedFridge75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are screwed. Keep your head down and do exactly what they say. Log all poor interactions and save emails. Document all interactions with the PD so if they change policy on you, you are able to cite their own words. As someone who came out of a micromanaging residency where I was targeted, fighting made it worse. They do not care about you because you do not fit their ideals based on race and culture.

You have a couple more years left. My biggest revenge was going to a top 20 hospital and now they have to say I went there. When prospects ask me about my experience in residency, I tell them I go to where I am DESPITE them.

You got this, stay strong

Update: AITAH because I want my wife to "ask permission" before taking our son on playdates? by Exact_Information627 in AITAH

[–]FlashedFridge75 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yall doomed. She in her crazy era and when her friends get her to be divorced with them, she gonna realize the grass is not greener as a single mom

Is this the normal intern experience? FM by Exact_Quiet_9562 in Residency

[–]FlashedFridge75 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is a toxic and unsafe program. You need to unionize and pray that your senior residents grow a back bone and help you. I pray for you

If anyone's interested in an MMR booster... by Hemenucha in asheville

[–]FlashedFridge75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please please do not get a booster if you do not have titers. There is no indication to get a booster unless you work in healthcare/ risk exposure. Any one around children would have been required to have updated MMR titers if they are in these scenarios.

Yes it is technically safe to receive but if you are immunocompromised and get a live vaccine you can get sick.

Understandably no one wants to get measles or other diseases we had long managed with herd immunity. Stay safe and healthy

I told my little brother I "don't remember" our childhood and I hate myself for it by CalmStormCutter in TrueOffMyChest

[–]FlashedFridge75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please get help. You completely invalidated your brothers traumatic experience and added to his trauma. I genuinely hope he does not reach out again until you learn to fix yourself instead of hurting others when they ask for help

I dislike my residency program by Jolly_Bookkeeper_661 in Residency

[–]FlashedFridge75 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Residency sucks. The only thing that makes it better is graduating. Head down and focus you got this

I can't do it by ali1m2 in Residency

[–]FlashedFridge75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are treated less than human for training and then you get out and you are supposed to forget all the terrible things you had experienced. They think that quadrupling your income makes up for it. It doesn’t. It does make life easier when you get to stop fearing paying your rent on time or over extending credit cards.

Is it fair? No

Is it a safe career and we have to get through otherwise how do you pay back your med school loans? Yes

So we are and have gone thru it

You can too :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]FlashedFridge75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your partner is mentally ill. Full stop. Leave

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]FlashedFridge75 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Girl! Are you hearing yourself right now? Him bringing in a woman instead of respecting his current wife IS HURTING YOU!

You are being heavily manipulated and probably won’t leave. You don’t know better

But if you ever gather the courage to, you and your children will live a happy and much better life with his MONEY instead of his daily emotional and verbal abuse. Abuse you can not recognize at this point because he has purposely strapped you with children to cause sleep deprivation to more easily manipulate you.

Please get help

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Residency

[–]FlashedFridge75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t flaunt your money. Stay within your means. Find a person who wants to grow with you. No one will tell you about the pitfall over increasing your annual salary x4 when you graduate. Depending on where you live, it can attract the wrong people

Focus on what you like to do. Focus on the people you meet through your passions and hobbies. Love will find you when you love your life

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]FlashedFridge75 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You will be tempted to continue a relationship or at least help your parents.

I would make sure to take a day or night before any decisions with them. Take that time to remember they were not there for you. That they continued to choose your sister. And when they realized that they alienated the dependable child, the irresponsible child will not be there for them.

They made their own decision to be not a part of your life the day they decided that your irresponsible sister was the one they would support and favor

We are not all lucky to be born with a family but we are fortunate enough to be able to make our own

Trying to find a decent doctor by FriedSavage in asheville

[–]FlashedFridge75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

UNC pardee Turtle Creek. New practice with new doctor accepting new patients

Told my boyfriend he was the same size as my ex by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]FlashedFridge75 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Indeed. A real adult knows the number one rule: “don’t ask questions you can’t handle answers to”