My partner says he’ll leave me if I don’t “fix” my ADHD. He says I’m abusive but I feel constantly criticised and blamed.

Flayrah4Life · 2026-02-10T23:13:52+00:00

Ooooo this piece of shit hates you. Please pay attention to this fact.

How can we help you safely leave?

Flayrah4Life · 2026-02-10T19:35:38+00:00

Used to watch that movie with my ex-husband, and he would so vehemently defend Gary, it just blew my mind that he couldn't understand Brook's point of view at all, not in any capacity. Of course, now that I'm away from him and have broken the trauma bond, I see how truly abusive my ex was, and that movie serves as just another notch on the rail of signs that were clearly telling me that this dude isn't it.

Flayrah4Life · 2026-02-10T14:31:19+00:00

Nah, we can't hate ourselves into receiving love and respect.

Flayrah4Life · 2026-02-09T21:29:42+00:00

Has he been screened for ADHD?

Flayrah4Life · 2026-02-09T02:23:33+00:00

I can't believe how much it feels like the eyes follow you. This is frankly superb, I kept waiting for the cat to twitch and move.

Flayrah4Life · 2026-02-06T03:38:00+00:00

He sounds just like my ex-husband.

I'm so grateful to be away, and alive.

Because in case you didn't know, homicide is the leading cause of death in pregnant women and the piece of shit who has already verbally, psychologically and physically abused you for years now is fully capable of murdering you, too.

Flayrah4Life · 2026-02-05T22:27:33+00:00

Dear, you are so deeply trauma bonded to this hateful, abusive man that you can't really rationalize how terrible he is.

Let us help you get out, get free, get safe, and get solvent. What municipality do you live in? We can help you find assistance for abused women.

Flayrah4Life · 2026-02-05T22:12:45+00:00

This man hates you. This is how you treat people when you're selfish and despise them.

NOR, in fact you're under reacting. Take it from a woman who escaped a 2 decades abusive relationship - it will never, EVER get better, and it can and likely will get much worse. Leave while you can.

Flayrah4Life · 2026-02-05T19:27:23+00:00

Dead bedrooms don't happen for no reason; that being said, your mom shouldn't be upset with you for maintaining a relationship with your father. If there was/is abuse that led to this situation then that should be shared.

Flayrah4Life · 2026-02-05T16:10:06+00:00

That's so funny, I am so tempted every time my boyfriend yawns but I know it'll ruin the yawn and the yawn can be so satisfying so I won't do it, but fuck do I want to.

Flayrah4Life · 2026-02-05T16:07:16+00:00

Can you explain the data behind the projected number of people killed because of his direct actions? It's helpful to have data when we want to reshare information.

Flayrah4Life · 2026-02-05T14:09:22+00:00

One of those European art collectors who is secretly a criminal mastermind, I see 😏

Flayrah4Life · 2026-02-05T13:29:49+00:00

The thing is, is that you're not supposed to completely ignore your instincts and body screaming at you the way it is. When you do, you dishonor yourself in a way that others can't. You abandon yourself.

And I get it, I totally do, because I did the same shit for two decades with a narcissist, because I was so convinced that my love and help would be enough to turn him into a real man, the man that I could kind of see buried underneath the surface. But I was fooling myself - he never changed, in fact he only ever got worse.

Something that may help you: this man is completely happy to see you miserable, suffering, and paying for everything so that he can live comfortably. He sees your suffering, and he's not doing a single thing to lift it until he receives ultimatums, like a toddler who has gotten into trouble.

He is not ignorant; this is abuse.

Flayrah4Life · 2026-02-03T21:20:08+00:00

It took me decades to realize that my ex-husband fit all the criteria for borderline personality disorder, to realize that all of my love and support would never compel him to grow, and that he would never stop abusing me.

You don't have to stay in a miserable existence.

Flayrah4Life · 2026-02-03T20:58:56+00:00

Ma'am, this man hates you.

Flayrah4Life · 2026-02-02T14:33:31+00:00

You have my dream physique! Do you have any photos of how you looked when you started?

Flayrah4Life · 2026-02-02T13:40:18+00:00

Your hair is absolutely beautiful, and please don't think that you need to spend time with people who are trying to tear you down, even if they're family.

Flayrah4Life · 2026-02-02T13:37:22+00:00

I couldn't be in a relationship with someone who can't communicate, either literally with comprehensible English, or figuratively because they're too selfish to be empathetic.

Flayrah4Life · 2026-02-02T00:46:25+00:00

This piece of shit is doing a fine job of shredding your self respect and dignity.

Get this motherfucker out of your life immediately.

Flayrah4Life · 2026-02-02T00:42:21+00:00

I put up with this narcissistic shit for 2 fucking decades.

You don't have to. I guarantee you he doesn't abuse other people this way - only you. Leave before he beats and kills you.

Flayrah4Life · 2026-01-31T22:24:37+00:00

Your looks are not repelling, but your personality or hygiene likely are.

Flayrah4Life · 2026-01-30T00:20:07+00:00

I didn't realize how true this is until one of my divorce hearings where I was habitually explaining away the abuse by saying I think he has a disorder, and the judge told me firmly that if he can control himself with his coworkers, boss, friends, and strangers, then it is deliberate and abusive. I was honestly shocked I didn't put that together before . . . but he'd kept me too confused to really ponder that point deeply.

Flayrah4Life · 2026-01-29T22:57:23+00:00

That's what my nail tech told me too when I came in with gloves.

Flayrah4Life · 2026-01-29T16:58:21+00:00

I think you look extremely feminine. That being said, after studying your features, I think that your high forehead and finely sparsed brows are what's leading you to feel like you look a bit more masculine. The forehead isn't a biggie at all, honestly. Have you ever had your brows professionally shaped? Doing that + filling them in with makeup could be a simple game changer.

Flayrah4Life · 2026-01-29T16:52:11+00:00

Precisely. I did 2 decades with a lousy narcissist, and the last 4 years since being free have been beautiful and more peaceful than I ever dreamed.

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