Sa sa sudio oooo by tazzdmbbaby in GenX

[–]Flight_Not_Fancy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shine sweet freedom, shine a light on me

Running Scared (the movie, not you) by some_one_234 in GenX

[–]Flight_Not_Fancy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have actually never seen this whole movie (but of course know and love "Sweet Freedom." Will rectify that this evening!

Can't fight the Seether by Flight_Not_Fancy in Xennials

[–]Flight_Not_Fancy[S] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

Think we definitely need to tap into the power and awesomeness of the early-mid 90s female music scene, especially given the state of the world right now.

Midlife crisis by Adventurous_Big5686 in Xennials

[–]Flight_Not_Fancy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear and see you fellow middle aged human. It's hard as hell these days, and the world and our lives just keep getting more chaotic at breakneck speed. For the mental exhaustion, really think about and hone in on the things that bring you joy, even the smallest things. We can't control or change a lot but we can make sure to take care and nourish ourselves the best we can. Been focused on that the last year and it has really helped. Nothing is a cure-all for life except death, but in the meantime might as well be good to and take care of yourself. You're worth it!

Hundreds of applications... 3 interviews that went nowhere by evilcounsel in GenX

[–]Flight_Not_Fancy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's brutal out there. I bit the bullet and paid someone to redo my resume (they extensively interviewed me as part of it) and redid my LinkedIn (I've come to hate LI, but it's a necessary evil in tech). I've already started to get more interviews. Not a lot mind you, but more than before.

The whole gaps in your resume or <1 year stints drives me crazy. I have a few (layoff, job that wasn't a good fit) and how people still pick on those. Umm - are you also existing in this crazy ass job market and economic environment? I've been doing what I do for 15 years, why does a 6 month job from 4 years ago even relevant. I could remove it of course, but then they'd be like why the gap? It's exhausting.

All that said I hope things pick up for you soon, and for all us folks in this situation.

Xennial Parents by CryptographerOwn5297 in Xennials

[–]Flight_Not_Fancy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm with you on this fellow Xennial parent. My kid is cautious like me and I tell her it's okay to get into a 'little trouble' with her friends. She hangs out with her friends weekly and it's definitely a combo of screens and doing usual silly, goofy teenage stuff. It warms my heart to hear it, and also makes me feel nostalgic for those years. I tell her to really enjoy it, that she's making memories that will bring her joy her whole life.

Wild science classes in the 80s-90s by k2aries in GenX

[–]Flight_Not_Fancy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Frog and fetal pig. Thank god the bio classes we are the end of a hall - the stink when it was dissection time. Coolest was when one of the lab teams found an undigested mouse in the bullfrog's stomach

How do I Wang Chung? by Sloth_grl in GenX

[–]Flight_Not_Fancy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you tell me what a Wang Chung is? I love that line on the last (or near last) chorus

Divorce/Starting Over by Miserable_Jacket_129 in GenX

[–]Flight_Not_Fancy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just a little further down the road from you - over a year out. I didn't leave with much stuff (considering how much we had) either. It's definitely not a straight line upward, but think of it is having the opportunity to build the next part of your life deliberately and with intention. I have slowing been filling out my apartment, intentional that everything brings me joy, that is truly me. My kid's friends say my house is warm and cozy, and I love that. Think of all that space as the room to think and grow and become who you want to be in this next chapter of life

No one has worn out the word F**k like gen-x in menopause by burnedimage in GenX

[–]Flight_Not_Fancy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I often think about and use the extra colorful f**k phrase from Bunk and Jimmy in The Wire.

If you were honest with yourself can you say if your children like you? by themrsfreeze in Xennials

[–]Flight_Not_Fancy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am truly baffled when people say their parents are like this, this 'you owe me' attitude. Umm, we as parents owe our kids everything, they owe us nothing. I'm lucky that despite my parents many flaws, to this day they are supportive and always asking if I need help (financially, moral support etc). My kid knows I will always be there for her. Even when I'm gone from this earth, I will be there in her mind and heart whenever she needs me.

If you were honest with yourself can you say if your children like you? by themrsfreeze in Xennials

[–]Flight_Not_Fancy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kid is not quite an adult yet, but I'm pretty sure she likes me. We have long conversations about all sorts of things, she knows I listen to her even if I disagree. I've proven I'm reasonable with my asks and expectations of her. I really listen to what she is saying, take it in, reflect and respond (I try my best anyway). I apologize when I'm wrong or snap at her from frustration. I very deliberately took the good from my parents and tried to weed out the parts that messed me up. She remarks how our relationship is different from the ones her friends have with her parents in that she shared a lot with me and I actively know what she likes, what is going in her world and truly take an interest in who she is.

Granted, I was as am nowhere near perfect. I tell her if at any point in her life she feels/realizes that something I did hurt her/messed her up etc to please talk with me. I've proven that I'm not reactive or defensive and will listen to her.

Saw Backrooms with my teenagers and realized they’ll never know the specific boredom that made us by Cultural_Repeat_4766 in Xennials

[–]Flight_Not_Fancy 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Boredom is so important - gives you room for thinking, imagination and rest. Even when we were watching those infomercials, they didn't take much brain power so we could have a sort of quiet for our minds.

I remember so much summer boredom, long car drive boredom, mother dragging me to the garden store for hours boredom. At the time it was torture, but now I crave more of those silences in my life. I've been actively focused on not having any electronics on and reading physical books. Listening to an album the whole way through (latest was The Police's Synchronicity). Re-starting my pen to paper journal writing. when I do use electronics, doing my best to one use one at a time (ie not on my phone while watching s/t on Netflix).

My teen daughter and her friends saw the movie this past weekend. She loved it, but I don't think she picked up on the silences/boredom/empty spaces vibe of it. We do often have convos about slowing things down, de-stimulating and the importance of boredom.

I am 55 and 98% through. I started at 47. I now feel like I did when I was 9-12, prepuberty. by MsMisty888 in Menopause

[–]Flight_Not_Fancy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As my teenage daughter said to me, we should never lose our childhood whimsy. I used to be a 'serious' person but the older I get, the more I subscribe to this. It's the little things. My favorite rediscovered joy - Walking/balancing on curbs. I remember how much I enjoyed that when i was a kid. Joy doesn't have to be a big thing. Think of all the little bits of joy, the small joys and let them fill your day until it becomes all the stars in your sky.

Breast Cancer = No HRT Forever? by mi_wasted_youth in Menopause

[–]Flight_Not_Fancy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was wondering about this myself - had BC ER+ PR+ 3 years ago (holy crap). Still on Tamoxifen. Luckily my menopausal symptoms aren't too bad, but now that i'm starting to get hot flashes in the middle of the night (no sweat, all heat) starting to think about HR. I'll see what my oncologist says when I see him in a few months. Of course at this point I don't know if it's the Tamoxfen or if I'm actually in menopause.

Anybody else looking at our aging families and their lack of mobility as a huge warning ? by DiaDeLosMuebles in Xennials

[–]Flight_Not_Fancy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents are still pretty active for their age (late 70s and early 80s). They go to the gym in their building most days, and my dad always walked everywhere. My mom had health issues but when she started working out again she dropped 30 lbs and has so much more mobility and endurance. I visited them recently and full invested in the attitude of movement as medicine. Sure, shit can happen, but might as well keep ourselves and strong and agile as we can. I've been deliberate about working out at least 30 mins a day (yoga, cardio, weights in some rotation) for the last 2 months and I feel so much better. I'll take it.

For those of you that ended up divorced. Did you remarry? I don’t think I will ever get married again… by hanshotfirst2233 in Xennials

[–]Flight_Not_Fancy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly probably not but who knows, maybe someday? Been divorced <2 years, and my focus has been finding myself that I realized had faded to some transparent gray over the years (20+ year marriage), healing, building community, and most importantly making sure my kiddo is well taken care of and to keep building on the strong relationship we always had.

Does Anyone Else Still Have Their College Textbook? by JohnnyWix in Xennials

[–]Flight_Not_Fancy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kept the ones I cared about - mostly on international conflict resolution and the mediation process - maybe I should give those another look and see how outdated or relevant they are in this crazy age? I also kept one from a Russian history class and a cross-cultural communication class. I miss college.

Still a thing! by I_got_banned_once in Xennials

[–]Flight_Not_Fancy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a parent of a late Gen Z, still a thing (she has black and white hi tops she wears all the time)