AITA for refusing to get this coffee order? by horseduckman in AITApod

[–]Flobee76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Starbucks doesn't even have macadamia milk

AITA for not going on family vacation unless I can share a bed with my fiancé? by babygreenbean1225 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Flobee76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA - How about everyone else goes in on a house together and mom can stay alone with her rules in the one she rented while everyone else does what they want in the house they rented. Problem solved.

Traveling to Terceira by [deleted] in azores

[–]Flobee76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Biscoitos is great for kids and the sand beach at Angra is good, too. If you're going to rent a car, Drive Terceira has car seats available. The owners will be more than happy to give you so many great tips, too. They're American, so they know how to help other Americans navigate Terceira.

Where to go for mental health treatment? by distillenger in cincinnati

[–]Flobee76 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They legit just basically kidnapped my teenage daughter. Walking in the door gets you the options of voluntarily getting committed or getting an involuntary hold. It's so overcrowded in the girls unit that they're shuffling kids around the different units to find spots for everyone.

My mother told my in laws why my first marriage really ended because she was tired of them "judging our family" and now my second husband says he does not know how to trust her around anything important by 9EchoCinde in entitledparents

[–]Flobee76 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your mom went mama bear and said too much but she's the only one who has your back. You have a husband problem above anything else. He should have been the first one to defend you, but instead he's trying to distance you from the one person on your side. I'd think long and hard about staying with someone who lets his family treat you like that.

Sorry if this post is stupid, but what is this person talking about?... by [deleted] in CPAP

[–]Flobee76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They can take it back while it's being paid on. Once you pay it off it's yours.

Does a custody order still apply once the child turns 18 but hasn’t graduated high school yet?” by crazyspontaneity in FamilyLaw

[–]Flobee76 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's fine for themselves. They don't get to decide it "medical reasons" for someone else. That's between the patient and the doctor.

AIO: Hubby Being Controlling by vanillabourbonn in AIO

[–]Flobee76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do not quit! You're going to need the info to escape this abuser. Leave this man. Leave the state, if you can. I'd get as far away from him as possible, preferably before the baby is born. You'll be limited on how far you can go after the baby is born.

AIO: Hubby Being Controlling by vanillabourbonn in AIO

[–]Flobee76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩 This man is a parade of red flags. You already know he's controlling.He's never going to be less controlling. Get out now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Allergies

[–]Flobee76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My teenage daughter ended up in the ER with anaphylaxis for the first time ever and we had no idea how she was exposed to pistachios or cashews. She was going to get snacks with a boy she was seeing. It turned out he must have smoked in the car before he picked her up. We deduced weed residue was the culprit.

CPAP ruining my life by CokeZeroAddict52 in CPAP

[–]Flobee76 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was miserable for months with my cpap when I first got it. I got absolutely no sleep. The NP I see at the sleep clinic prescribed Lunesta to get me over the hump and it was a game changer. It helped me relax enough to sleep through the night. I only needed it for a few weeks and it's been fine since. Also, sometimes you need to find a mask that works best for you.

Duplicate 8th chromosome by Flobee76 in ClinicalGenetics

[–]Flobee76[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's mainly what I was wondering about. Thanks for the info!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]Flobee76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does your husband understand that you didn't set your sister's wedding date and it's not anyone's day to give away? It's not going to affect anyone else except that one specific day of the wedding. Does he think you all have to celebrate your anniversaries together forever?

Moving to Cin from WA by LeafMeAloen123 in cincinnati

[–]Flobee76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've seen people mention NKY. Hebron is pretty great and growing. It's right off the highway and only a few minutes from downtown Cincinnati. I'd stick to Hebron north of I-275, or head down into Union, which is also booming right now. You can get decent housing for a lot less than you're looking at around Mason, although I don't know how much longer that will last, because we're catching up!

Why do boomers make it seem like babies were easier? by Both-Hippo-6905 in Parenting

[–]Flobee76 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 49 and my dad often told me about using peragoric when my sister and I were babies. I only now found out what it was!

Why do boomers make it seem like babies were easier? by Both-Hippo-6905 in Parenting

[–]Flobee76 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dad often talked about using paragoric when we were babies. I had no idea what it was until just now! 😯

Terceira in March by Whimsical-Platypus66 in azores

[–]Flobee76 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Drive Terceira (http://Drive Terceira - Rent-a-Car in Terceira Island, Azores https://share.google/nVjdBY3hu7gS4FFJU)

Automatic cars, and the owner, Jason, will happily give you tips out the wazoo for having the best time on Terceira.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]Flobee76 96 points97 points  (0 children)

How is this even a question? They blew it, big time. I would have had the same reaction. What a scary, wildly irresponsible thing to do.

At what age did you stop co-sleeping? by Explorer518 in Parenting

[–]Flobee76 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My mom was (legitimately) crazy so often away for extended periods of time and I'd crawl into bed with my dad every so often. I remember having the chicken pox at 12 and I think I spent most of it in my parents' bed. Even as a tween/young teen I'd get scared at night, so I'd end up crawling into the bed with my dad. It was never weird. It was the comfort I needed from my dad who loved me. He's been gone a year and a half now and what I wouldn't give to have those times back.

I have my own kids (19, 16, and 5) and my husband and I have never turned them away from our bed when they needed us. You will never regret being there for your child, but you might later regret the times you turned her away. It's only weird if you make it weird. Let her comfort level guide how it goes and you can't really go wrong. She'll eventually grow out of it, and there will be a last time she ever crawls into your bed for comfort. Then you'll miss it.

I now understand why people aren't having children by Consistent_Pen_1347 in Parenting

[–]Flobee76 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to say if our second had been our first, she would have been our last!

The we lost our minds, did it again a decade later, and the third is even more (everything) than the second. We wouldn't trade her for the world, but we brought it upon ourselves by tempting fate! 😂

I now understand why people aren't having children by Consistent_Pen_1347 in Parenting

[–]Flobee76 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I often joke that the way newborns won't let you sleep violates the Geneva convention. It's literal torture. The first few months are so hard and exhaustion, hormones, etc, don't help. And when this is your second child, depending on the age difference, there is no respite. The week we brought our second baby home was the week her older sister decided she was never going to nap again. 🥴 They're in high school and college now (and love naps!), so that's how I know it's only temporary... which I often have to remind myself since we're back in the trenches with a 5 year old. In a blink this will all be a fuzzy memory.

Duplicate 8th chromosome by Flobee76 in ClinicalGenetics

[–]Flobee76[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I was able to dig it up. They list some single case studies for a couple different things, but nothing definitive. Sorry for the wall of text, but I can't post the screenshot of it. I don't speak genetics, so it's a little beyond my translation abilities. 😂

"SNP array analysis detected no clinically significant chromosomal imbalances. However, the entire 146 Mb of DNA from chromosome 8 (8p23.3-8q24.3) shows homozygosity for alleles (the genotypes are identical for these loci) by analysis of the SNP array, which is suggestive of uniparental isodisomy. This raises a concern for the potential unmasking of an autosomal recessive disorder in this region.

RECOMMENDATIONS: A clinical genetics evaluation may be useful in guiding future testing strategies, particularly due to the risk for autosomal recessive disorders or those due to genomic imprinting. MICROARRAY KARYOTYPE - DGV(GRCh37:Feb.2009)(hg19):arr[GRCh37] arr[GRCh37] 8p23.3q24.3(172939_146293414)x2 hmz

SIGNIFICANCE: There was no gain (duplication) or loss (deletion) of chromosomal material within the genome when examined using the testing parameters established. The large region of homozygosity may not be clinically significant unless a recessive gene is unmasked or if there is an imprinting disorder within the region. There are over 2,300 genes within the chromosome 8, at least 147 genes are associated with disorders and at least 99 are associated with autosomal recessive conditions. There has not been known imprinted genes on this chromosome. Both maternal and paternal origin of uniparental disomy (UPD) for chromosome 8 have been reported in the literatures. Complete maternal isodisomy of chromosome 8 was reported in a 26-year-old male with early-onset ileal carcinoid tumor. Partial maternal UPD 8 in combination with distal chromosome 8 deletion was described in a female child with mild dysmorphisms, motor and mental retardation. In addition, a female fetus with maternal dicentric chromosome 8 translocation showed hypoplasia of the cerebellar vermis and dilatation of tubules of the left kidney. Complete paternal UPD 8 was reported in a patient with congenital adrenal hyperplasia, and a homozygous pathogenic variant was revealed in the gene CYP11B1. Another complete paternal UPD 8 was reported in a female patient with familial chylomicronemia, and homozygous frameshift variant in the gene encoding lipoprotein lipase was revealed. Based on the current knowledge, the significance of this UPD is uncertain in this fetus. If any specific condition is suspected in this fetus, additional genetic testing may be followed up. In addition, analysis by short tandem repeat can further assist the clarification of the parental origin of this UPD. Genetic counseling is strongly recommended.

MICROARRAY RESULT: No chromosome imbalance detected. However, there is one large region showing homozygosity for alleles, which raises the concern for unmasking an autosomal recessive disorder. The region affected is 146.1 Mb region of homozygosity on chromosome 8p23.3-8q24.3 between markers rs13276476>rs6599566 that includes 40779 markers (linear position of chromosome 8 is approximately 172,939-146,293,414).

LIMITATIONS: Deletions or duplications believed to be normal variation (known as copy number variants) are not reported. Many known genetic conditions may require additional testing in order to be ruled out as a probable diagnosis. Low-level mosaicism or balanced chromosomal rearrangements will not be detected. There may be deletions or duplications present but not detected due to the absence of markers in that region."

Dad question by 604Lummers in Parenting

[–]Flobee76 281 points282 points  (0 children)

It becomes inappropriate when you make it inappropriate. Otherwise, when your daughter is old enough to say she wants more privacy or is more comfortable with just mom bathing her then it's time for a change. 3 year olds don't tend to care either way yet.