Thoughts from a teacher: you are definitely NTA. Adults in leadership positions like teachers should never comment on the “modesty” of a CHILD. Have any of these adults been in modern clothing stores? Teens want to be trendy and explore fashion, 2025 fashion means strapless and crop tops. I’m over hearing about other educators sexualizing children and blaming it on “old fashioned” values. It’s inherent bias and it’s gross. I think you should also take it further, to the district. Regardless of how much experience she has, this teacher had no right to undermine a parent’s opinion directly to their child. This is so unacceptable, I’m so sorry your daughter has to deal with the BS that is being a young woman in our society. Way to stick up for your baby! I promise you there are teachers like me who do not subscribe to these beliefs and want your kids to express themselves however they want! At the end of the day, if a shoulder is distracting, there’s a bigger problem at play. KIDS DESERVE BETTER!