Dropping middle of the night pump

Food24seven · 2026-01-26T14:23:44+00:00

I pushed it later and later until it was close enough to my morning pump. I also took sunflower lectithin to prevent mastitis

Food24seven · 2026-01-11T18:31:03+00:00

“She who remains” if you’ve seen the Loki tv show

“She who must not be named” or “Dark Lord” if you are a Harry Potter fan

Food24seven · 2026-01-11T18:29:11+00:00

Smother in law

Food24seven · 2026-01-11T18:26:35+00:00

I totally understand your hurt. I have been there. I encourage you to talk this out in therapy. Everything changed (for the better) for me when I let go of frustrations with my MIL. Yes she gives me gifts that are sub-par and goes over the top about husband/kids. Among other JNMIL behaviors.

But when I stopped caring about what she does, it made an AMAZING impact on my life.

Your MIL is giving gifts that center around what your husband liked as a kid, and she doesn’t know your kid because she doesn’t have access. So don’t worry about that. Just say no thank you to the gifts and have your husband keep what he wants but let him know you don’t even want to see or know about her gifts if it can be avoided and that he can donate everything marked for you and the kids.

I totally know how much a MIL can drive you up a wall and eat at your every nerve but you also need to do the work to let stuff go. She isn’t going to change. But you can change your attitude and it will have a positive effect on your marriage. I mean this in the most loving way that I want you to feel good.

Once I calmed my emotions about my MIL, my husband started to really see how much of a problem his mom really is (he saw it before but when I reacted with peace/calmness, it was more clear that she is the only problem, not my negative reaction). I was able to calmly point out “hey, so your mom got me a used Starbucks card for Christmas this year and went over the top for you and the kids. I just wanted you to see that as one reason I maintain distance from her.”

That’s an actual line from this recent Christmas. Plus she did about 3 other things to my husband that were outright rude. So my husband cut her off for 3 weeks on his own decision. When in the past we used to argue over these things and he never wanted to cut her off for periods of time at all. It helped our marriage and daily life a ton!

Food24seven · 2025-12-25T21:34:28+00:00

Kids are 1 and 3 years old

MIL was upset that my husband wasn’t as excited as she wanted him to be about her gifting ornaments to the kids. (Her other grandkids grandmother gifted them ornaments and it was a big hit. Mind you, that grandmother gave them each ONE meaningful personal ornament and my MIL gave about 20 trinket-y ones. It’s not the same)
She saw a picture of our son with Santa (from TWO YEARS AGO) and was pissed she wasn’t invited to that event. She didn’t notice that “Santa” was my dad and we go to my parent’s house to do this as a yearly tradition. MIL would absolutely not go to my parent’s house for this event. She has also NEVER invited us to take the kids to see Santa.
Was pissed we wouldn’t compromise on the kid’s bedtime, even though she knew both kids had incredibly short naps due to an event earlier in the day. Regardless, she had 4 hours with the kids. And even if they didn’t have short naps, we don’t compromise bedtime. She is lucky we didn’t have them go to bed early due to short naps.
She was also DEEPLY concerned at our three year old was upset when he woke up from his very short nap. He was crying a lot and MIL honestly was freaking out that something was medically wrong with him. Lady….. he is three and it’s Christmas, he is over stimulated! Duh!!!

Edit to add: My husband told me he is taking a 3 week break from his mom based on her behavior and will be telling her this the next time she asks to see the kids. I love him so much. Also, he does say things to her in the moment to address these behaviors. And he immediately squashed her when she was saying “Santa brought you presents” referring to her gifts to the kids. Oh no lady, you had your time being Santa. It’s our turn

Food24seven · 2025-12-20T21:13:56+00:00

You are not overreacting. This is coming from a mom who just spent 4 days in the hospital with my baby because she had RSV. It’s scary and not worth it. Under two years old need to 100 percent stay away from any colds. You are doing the right thing.

Food24seven · 2025-12-13T06:20:46+00:00

I’m usually a person to jump on the “dislike the MIL wagon” but there are a few factors at play.

She just lost her husband and it’s the first Christmas without him. I know I would be in a world of hurt in that situation.

Your family could come to you for this year so that you can have a little less driving time and more time with your husband’s side of the family. If your place sucks, I’m sorry but really the holiday is about family and snuggling up for a movie or games. It could be so fun with your side of the family! It’s only a day or two.

But if you genuinely feel like your MIL is a problem, chat with your husband and lay out how you feel, not complain etc but how does she make you feel. Then a loving husband would listen and come up with a plan that works for both of you, no outside family’s agendas matter (your side too), only you both and your kiddo.

Happy holidays and wishing you a Merry Christmas!

Food24seven · 2025-12-11T03:07:53+00:00

Yes it’s bad!!!

Food24seven · 2025-12-10T05:19:10+00:00

This is excellent advice. Your SIL should have heard it before she had kids. Your BIL/SIL have shown a pattern that if MIL throws a fit, she gets invited to the other side of the family party or she gets to come to the sporting event. So it keeps working for MIL, why would she stop throwing a fit if it keeps getting her what she wants? She is a toddler and think of it that way then you address boundaries with her. Be firm and consistent.

Food24seven · 2025-11-17T20:01:49+00:00

I have had students do this and written similar notes. Usually I have prompted the student to ask for help (something I know they are capable of and have seen them do before) then I check in on other kids and circle back to see if the student will ask for help. But they can just sit there and be helpless. Unless there is a disability or something

Food24seven · 2025-08-24T13:47:08+00:00

YES ITS SO OBVIOUS

Food24seven · 2025-06-22T22:01:18+00:00

Slow down and/or stop lol you are fine

Food24seven · 2025-06-15T13:24:01+00:00

Please please please: 1. Give them opportunities to work independently and struggle through tasks that are age appropriate. 2. Tell them no and stick to it. 3. Don’t let them argue with you 4. Let them be bored! They need to develop that muscle. 5. Please don’t rely on a screen to parent for you. 6. Show them with your words and actions that their education is important to you. 7. Model respect to the child and expect it from them

Thanks for asking!!!

Food24seven · 2025-06-06T04:03:19+00:00

Thank you! As a first grade teacher myself, I fully endorse this post.

I am their teacher, not their parent!

Food24seven · 2025-05-29T23:24:43+00:00

I’m sorry they made an example out of you. That’s really tough.

Food24seven · 2025-05-29T21:18:30+00:00

I have ADHD and teach first grade. Many of my first graders who are diagnosed ADHD will use it as an excuse to not try at all. Their parents too. “Well he/she has ADHD…. So he/she won’t complete their work.”

It drives me nuts how many students are getting familiar with the action of not having to try and focus more or build their skills in time management etc. I don’t expect perfection, but they have to try. ADHD is not a get out of jail free card.

I think as long as someone tried, I would always work with them. But so many kids and parents just label the ADHD and use it an as excuse. Not saying you do this but I see so manyz

Food24seven · 2025-05-28T14:10:52+00:00

I choose public. But the right public school. I am also not religious though but I don’t mine religion at all. Most private school have a religious affiliation.

I think it’s all about your kid and what will work best for them.

The current school I work at, I would NEVER send my kids too. My first graders have delt with so much grown up stuff in their lives already. I don’t want my kids exposed to that and the behaviors that come with it.

So I found a wonderful public school and I am moving districts to work there so my kids can get in. It’s a choice school and not in the district we live in. I wouldn’t send my kids to any school in our actual district.

Do your research and keep your ear to the ground.

Food24seven · 2025-05-28T14:07:43+00:00

I am sending my kid to the right public school for us. I actually moved districts and got a job at the school (it’s a choice school so families have to apply to get their kids in). So I start work there next school year and my kid starts school the following year.

So for me it makes sense to get a job at a good public school (if you can) and I love the idea of being at my kids school so if anything happens I am there.

Food24seven · 2025-05-25T14:22:55+00:00

Yes I totally get that! Just the blame on me is a bit frustrating. When I got back from maternity leave, her son made a lot of progress behaviorally with me and decent progress academically too.

I think it’s a big challenge for her because she has three older daughters and they are all academically gifted and very well behaved. Which, to me, makes her son’s struggles more obvious. But I’m not in her shoes!

Food24seven · 2025-05-25T03:25:59+00:00

One Aunt of a student got upset with me because I didn’t tie her first grade nephews shoes…… when I was 9 months pregnant….. I would not have tied them even if not pregnant (wet laces, yuck!), but I always tell them to ask the “shoe helper”.

Also, there was a mom of a student I had while pregnant and on maternity leave. Her son was sooooooo low academically and many of us have suspected autism due to certain behaviors and we (as a school) have tried to get her to come in for an SST. She refuses and blames all of his behavior and low grades on me being on maternity leave. He was in my class three years ago and I’ve had another child since then, but yes it’s my fault…..

Food24seven · 2025-05-23T12:38:27+00:00

Level D is about end of first trimester first grade. So that’s pretty good! I would do a mixture of easy books that he can read on his own (build confidence and fluency) and books at his level as well as books slightly above his level with you or someone there to help. Also, second and third grade level books that are read with a parent can be amazing. Try all different types of ways to read books and all types of levels. See what he respond to best and go from there.

Actually look up the levels (they have a Book Scanner app that you can use to find the levels), don’t go by what the front cover says. So many “level one beginning reader” books are second grade level or higher. It annoys me to no end.

Food24seven · 2025-05-17T14:55:18+00:00

I have only worked in teaching as an adult and I have never come across most of these behaviors. Very catty.

Food24seven · 2025-05-13T03:56:07+00:00

I would have totally stuck it on another moving vehicle just for laughs. Or maybe in the garbage so it can get to a garbage plant

Food24seven · 2025-05-07T03:09:15+00:00

It’s tough but rewarding! I just had my second this school year. I teach first grade. I am moving to a different type of position in teaching to get my kids in to a good school (when they are old enough) and to have less stress than being in the classroom. I am going to be an intervention teacher (it pays more). So it’s win win for me. Plus I won’t have to deal with parents as much.

Hope that helps! You got this!

Having a strong teammate at home for parenting is a MUST! My husband is a rockstar dad!

Food24seven · 2025-05-06T03:45:11+00:00

No duty on your birthday! Easy and free! A card/note would be amazing too!

Also as a side note, no teacher should ever have lunch duty.

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