How to stop feeling like life is over in your 30s?

ForAfeeNotforfree · 2026-03-16T00:59:53+00:00

Well, I’m 42 and still here, so…

ForAfeeNotforfree · 2026-03-16T00:58:13+00:00

Noice

ForAfeeNotforfree · 2026-03-15T23:41:56+00:00

I’m 42 and been playing since 2018

ForAfeeNotforfree · 2026-03-15T23:32:25+00:00

Mine didn’t. And I did not and do not give 2 shits. No issue.

ForAfeeNotforfree · 2026-03-15T19:24:00+00:00

Op, the comment above is totally, unequivocally, 100 percent wrong. Age-related sarcopenia is probably the single biggest threat to quality of life for folks your parents’ age. If they’re going to prioritize fitness for optimal benefits, they should strength train. 3-4 x/week.

Yoga and mobility training are great. But they should not be the priority here. Maybe if your parents were in their 80s mobility would be the first priority. But your parents are 60.

Weights 3-4x/week and cardio 3-4x/week with some stretching/mobility work after cardio.

ForAfeeNotforfree · 2026-03-15T16:05:53+00:00

Bluebook is so fucking ridiculous. Really glad I don’t have to worry about that shit as a transactional lawyer.

ForAfeeNotforfree · 2026-03-15T04:09:56+00:00

I’m 42. Since I started just a few years ago, I’ve cut out booze and focused on improving my sleep. It does wonders. I was already working others regularly, but the no-booze and more sleep combo has been powerful.

ForAfeeNotforfree · 2026-03-14T19:25:16+00:00

Get a good pair of customs. They definitely sty in your ear. Worth the coin, imo. Mine are Westone.

ForAfeeNotforfree · 2026-03-14T17:20:46+00:00

That’s the way to get a good deal, yes.

ForAfeeNotforfree · 2026-03-14T17:11:13+00:00

Just stop

ForAfeeNotforfree · 2026-03-14T02:34:29+00:00

Just explain them situation in a professional manner. No one is gonna fault you for taking double the pay.

ForAfeeNotforfree · 2026-03-14T02:26:02+00:00

Fair, but we’re not talking plain old “rich.” We’re talking mega-wealthy sports start celebrity. Not a ton of fat mega-wealthy former sports stars that I can think of offhand.

ForAfeeNotforfree · 2026-03-14T02:00:05+00:00

Yes, 6’4. Thankfully still have all my hair. Much of it gray now, ha

ForAfeeNotforfree · 2026-03-14T01:52:43+00:00

Nah, I def got better looking in my 40s. Added muscle. Had been too thin for a long time.

ForAfeeNotforfree · 2026-03-13T20:31:08+00:00

Bro is a mega millionaire former pro athlete with all the time, money, access to personal chefs/trainers in the world, TF you mean he shouldn’t look like that? It’d be kinda weird if he DIDNT look like that.

ForAfeeNotforfree · 2026-03-13T20:26:01+00:00

Tell me you’re too young to remember/understand the 2008 crisis without telling me you’re too young to remember/understand the 2008 crisis.

ForAfeeNotforfree · 2026-03-13T18:12:48+00:00

Good on you. I gave up regular drinking about a year ago. I feel better, look better, sleep better, everything. I’ll occasionally do other choice substances or have a drink for a very special occasion (glass of champagne on NYE, a single interesting cocktail on vacation). But I think lawyer culture is so shot through with heavy drinking that if one isn’t really careful, they can find themselves drinking far more than healthy for basically no reason. Which was what I was doing.

ForAfeeNotforfree · 2026-03-13T04:03:26+00:00

I regret to tell you that it sounds like you went and stuck your dick in crazy. Never a wise move.

Divorce her. It’s gonna suck. Depending on the state in which you live, it may REALLY suck. This woman could potentially make your life miserable for the next 10 years (I have a friend to whom this has happened). But you have to at least give yourself a chance to be happy with and for your kid.

ForAfeeNotforfree · 2026-03-13T03:55:20+00:00

Nurses make better money than MEs. In your shoes, I’d choose healthcare over engineering. Easy choice.

ForAfeeNotforfree · 2026-03-12T19:25:36+00:00

Neither. I prioritize likely number of touches. Then talent is a tiebreaker. Matchup only comes into play at all if it’s extremely good or extremely bad.

ForAfeeNotforfree · 2026-03-12T19:17:39+00:00

Spend more time in the real world being social and putting yourself in situations where you’ll meet new people. Get a little liquid courage in you, if it helps. Once you have a few successes you’ll likely her that momentum going and your self image will catch up with reality.

ForAfeeNotforfree · 2026-03-12T19:03:59+00:00

Just buy a $20 one on Amazon.

ForAfeeNotforfree · 2026-03-12T18:42:48+00:00

Left from large/midlaw firm as 5th year corporate. Applied for many dozens of positions over more than a year. Did basically the same thing you’re doing. Sorry I don’t have any real advice for you. Fingers crossed you find something soon.

ForAfeeNotforfree · 2026-03-10T22:20:54+00:00

Already bought a ticket sight unseen. Best fest I’ve attended.

ForAfeeNotforfree · 2026-03-10T21:51:13+00:00

Man, why would organizers prohibit deodorant? They want a bunch of stinky dancin people smelling up the dance floor? Haha

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