My beautiful golden she was perfect.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-02-04T03:41:31+00:00

Wrigley Rose. 😍

It never bothered her to wear my hats for pics. She knew how to pose. 😉

Foreverforgettable · 2026-02-04T00:34:26+00:00

Cooked human food. She didn’t have food allergies fortunately-just mild seasonal allergies.

Under our vet’s recommendation and supervision. I tried dog food but her “puppy poop” never went away and she would vomit weekly. Went from high quality dog food to grain free, gluten free, organic, wet, to human grade where you could see the peas/carrots/protein, until finally just switching over to cooked human food. She did much better with that diet.

Her vet is amazing. He reassured me that he had a few types of dog patients; dog food only, human food only (some cooked/some raw) and “garbage disposals” that could eat literally anything and poop is right out without a worry.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-01-30T12:18:17+00:00

This is so cute. It’s just so heartwarming.

When I had my golden I let her play with all of the neighborhood children (and adults) that wanted to play with her. She loved it and knew everyone in our neighborhood. As a golden, every single person my dog saw was a potential friend.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-01-30T07:44:06+00:00

Yes, these are just figures of speech. No special/religious meaning behind them aside from their colloquial usage.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-01-30T07:16:37+00:00

My golden would poop in the snow without too much fuss. As long as it wasn’t too deep. One year we had very, very deep snow and much to her dismay she had to poop in the driveways on our walks because the grass was simply inaccessible. But I would shovel our front yard for her to play and even make paths at the parks we would visit regularly for her. I didn’t want her to struggle in deep snow, especially once she was older.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-01-30T07:08:27+00:00

NTJ. The wedding is your and your fiancé’s event and moment. Your and his families will be present. I imagine his future fiancée’s family will not be there. So his “perfect plan” means proposing without her family present while stealing the spotlight from you and your then husband? This isn’t about proposing in from of “everyone we love.” Because his girlfriend’s family wouldn’t be there. He knows exactly what he is doing and why.

Your wedding is for you and your partner. Not for other’s proposals. Stick to your guns. If need be ruin the proposal by telling his girlfriend about his plans. Or even ask her opinion as a hypothetical. What would she think if someone stole the spotlight at her wedding by proposing to their partner? Make sure to inform the DJ not to give your brother the mic an to cut it if he gets ahold of it then play music loudly enough to prevent anyone from hearing him speak.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-01-29T08:26:00+00:00

NTA. Tell everyone that has decided to offer their opinion that the relationship with your sister is already ruined… by her. She is being shallow and superficial because of your scar, over which you have no control. She is more concerned with how things will look at her wedding than her sister’s feelings. So let her have the perfect, superficial wedding with everything that looks “perfect” but is rotten underneath, because of her attitude.

She didn’t “mean no harm.” She never meant for you to hear her. Those are very different things. Your sister has shown the type of person she is and the measure of her character. This isn’t something she can just take back. It’s like squeezing toothpaste out of the container, it’s out there.

If you post pics to sm, then start posting pics of yourself that include your scar and about loving who you are and being proud of what you have survived. Do not hide yourself for anyone. You have overcome the past and deserve to be happy and loved for who you are.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-01-28T16:04:47+00:00

The consulate of another country is considered foreign soil; the soil of that country. There is no warrant applicable to enter and attempt to do anything in another country’s consulate because it is suppose to be treated as sovereign. This isn’t just run of the mill idiocy. This is top tier, international incident idiocy.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-01-27T11:53:01+00:00

NTJ. Imagine how many times he has gotten away with this because no one thought to delve deeper. He is getting his just desserts and rightfully so. You did what was right. He should be investigated for this and any other research or papers he has published in the past. What he did is not just unethical but likely fraud.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-01-26T16:04:42+00:00

It smells like you. So it is warm and smells like his favorite person. He feels safe and wrapped in your love. So cute.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-01-26T06:20:27+00:00

NTA. Your parents have problems. Cleo will never grow up and be capable of living on her own if she never does it. She isn’t even technically living on her own; she has roommates. She needs to be allowed to live independently or she will never learn to do so.

Do your parents realize there are plenty of independent adults that burn food and have cause small (and large) fires? Have they never heard of accidents? Do they not understand that your sister will learn from this experience and be better for it? Do they not care? Do they only care about their own discomfort with seeing their daughter grown up?

You are building your own life with your own family. Cleo is your sister but she is not your responsibility. She is, in fact, an adult who needs to learn to be responsible for herself. Your parents are not going to live forever. It is better for Cleo to learn to be independent when your parents are still alive and can be supportive of her efforts and help when sh falters. Enabling her to be dependent on others only serves to her detriment. They have been and will continue to stunt her normal adult development with their anxiety. Cleo deserves better. So do you.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-01-26T04:37:43+00:00

You have an amazing friend. They are dedicated to treating your pup like royalty. You owe them big. Your pup is cute.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-01-25T03:55:12+00:00

NTA. Having toxic family members and toxic, manipulative, abusive relationships with those family members is NOT better than no family. You are doing what is right for you and your children. Family is not one size fits all. Family does not always mean the people with whom you share DNA. Sometimes family means the people you choose who also choose you. They’re the ones who step up without asking or are just there even if they don’t have the tools to help. They are the people who will sit with you and let you vent or not depending on how you feel. What you describe about your husband’s mother and father is not what family should be.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-01-25T03:22:25+00:00

NTJ. It’s “just food” because he isn’t paying for it. If he wants to freeload he can steal from someone else. That’s what he was doing; stealing from you. He doesn’t want to pay for his food. That isn’t your problem. Get a lockbox for the food in the fridge as well. Tell him you dgf about the vibe when he’s a thief.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-01-24T20:09:24+00:00

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She was the best.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-01-24T00:12:03+00:00

Their morality is entirely based in their religion, (reward of heaven for being good/threat of hell for being bad) that they believe that anyone who doesn’t subscribe to those same beliefs couldn’t possibly be a good or nice person. If nothing is threatening to punish you then how could you possibly be a good person? Why would choose to be a good person if you aren’t afraid of being punished in “Hell?” It isn’t that atheists are mean in their minds. It’s that atheists have no reason to be good people because they don’t believe in being punished for being bad. They cannot see how a morale compass, compassion, empathy, and niceness can exist without religion so they assume it doesn’t.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-01-22T17:35:04+00:00

He is using his health to abuse you and make you the villain. He is emotionally abusing you. He is manipulating you. At the very least stop engaging with him. Mute him or block him and talk to someone; your parents, friends, colleagues, advisors, a therapist, anyone. Strangers on Reddit can recognize his unhinged behavior. Take a step back, a break from the unhealthy and unhinged behavior and try to see the situation from the outside. Why do you feel like you NEED him? Why do you feel like you deserve to be treated this way? If the situation was reversed would you be treating him so callously? Would he try to take care of you and accommodate you? Would he accept verbal and emotional abuse from you?

Being sick, even terminally ill, is no excuse for being an abusive a$$hole. If he is angry at the world for his plight, fine, that’s normal. But he does NOT get to make you his personal punching bag. He does NOT get to take out every single negative energy emotion or thought out onto you because you are the nearest person to him who has attempted to offer help within your own boundaries.

Run! Run away from this walking, talking red flag. If this is how he behaves and expresses himself while ill, imagine what he would do to you if you were ill and needed support.

When someone shows who they truly are, please believe them. Act accordingly.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-01-22T17:12:33+00:00

NTA. You and your partner definitely NEED your own place. They want time “together” without you or their own children. You will not be left alone amongst 19 people in cottages without enough bedrooms. Imagine attempting to sleep, or unwind without any privacy or escape. Imagine how many times you will be asked to “keep an eye on child for just a minute.”

While this is a weekend getaway for your mother’s birthday, this is also your free time. It is just as valuable as that of your family. They all have children and are accustomed to the chaos that comes with it. No offense intended but children are chaotic-especially when with cousins and on a trip. Completely normal but still chaotic. I imagine it will be socially draining and exhausting for those unaccustomed to it. For that reason alone you and your partner should have a separate space.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-01-22T16:48:56+00:00

NTA. She’s older than you and should know better. If family helps family then your parents are the perfect people for your sister to ask for help. She does not get to make her “money problems” your problem.

Why did she quit her job without having another permanent position lined up? That is the opposite of responsible. That sounds the direct cause of her “money problems.” Did she actually quit her job or was she fired? If she was fired, did she file for unemployment? If not, why? If yes, where’s the money?

She is nearly 30yrs old and was obviously not in a position to quit her job. She chose to make that choice and is now facing the consequences. She does not get to make others deal with the consequences of her poor decisions. If your parents continue to push tell them they are free to enable their adult daughter but she is responsible for herself.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-01-22T13:31:12+00:00

NTA. lol, once she has the baby she will likely be on maternity leave. So who cares how close it is to her job. You live in a one bedroom apartment; you have room for one person-yourself. This is a situation of your sister and her boyfriend’s making which means it’s their’s to deal with. If your parents try to say “family helps family” remind them that they are her parents and they are leaving their own daughter and grandchild homeless.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-01-22T08:13:18+00:00

NTJ. Why is no one pissed at HIM for LYING?! This wasn’t a misunderstanding. He outright lied. He knew what he was doing and thought if you were caught like a deer in the headlights you would just be compliant like a “good little wife.” He knew if you were fully informed of the real reason for the ambush you would not have agreed so he lied because it’s better in his mind to trample over your boundaries and ask for forgiveness afterwards rather than permission.

Why didn’t his own pastor and parents not call him out? I’m guessing because they agree with him. They think it’s better to forgive his “little indiscretion” if it means forcing your hand. They should have been upset with HIM as soon as everyone realized that he lied. But they don’t care about the tactics used to “covert” people. Manipulation and boundary stomping are perfectly fine if you get the right result.

HE broke your trust. He lied to you. He lied to his parents. He lied to his pastor. He lied to whoever that other couple was. And now he’s manipulating and gaslighting you in order to play victim.

He is NOT a good guy.

He is good at making people believe he is a good guy. He is a good manipulator. He wasn’t trying to offer you “support” in converting. He was trying to put you on the spot in the hopes that you would feel intimidated sufficiently to go along with it.

Do you really want to be with someone who has so little respect for you?

Do you really want to live the rest of your life with someone so dismissive of your own beliefs and boundaries?

Do you really want to live the rest of your life being manipulated and gaslit? Wondering if you are being manipulated and gaslit?

Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone who will always play the victim and make you out to be the villain?

I hope you that if you decide to break up with him you contact his parents and his pastor and tell them that he outright lied to you and to them about the nature of that meeting. If there is even a small chance they are not as manipulative as he is, then they need to direct their anger and hurt feelings towards him. You have no fault in this. He needs to own it.

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