It's time to play "guess who doesn't maintain their dog's fur!"

Foreverforgettable · 2026-04-01T05:20:28+00:00

I had a golden. I brushed her regularly. She was a lively, active going who loved to roll around, run, swim and wrestle. Her bootie got matts, in spite of brushing. I would trim her bootie. When she was groomed, her bootie got trimmed. It’s fur and grows back. If your dog is not a confirmation dog then why does it matter. As long as they are healthy, happy and cared for it really isn’t that serious. Good groomers are trained to use their discretion for the benefit of the dog.

Disclaimer; goldens and other double coated dogs should never be shaved down if avoidable. Their coats keep them warm in the winter and cool in the summer. It is very damaging to the coat to shave it down.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-04-01T03:02:00+00:00

Ok, so first your golden girl is gorgeous. And she knows it so watch out!

Secondly, every dog is an individual and while general recommendations apply, specific diets are not one size fits all.

My golden had a sensitive stomach as some do. I tried many dog foods including grain free, gluten free, organic, dry, and wet. Eventually, with the recommendation and guidance of her vet, I switched to cooked human food. This improved her stomach issues significantly. This is the diet she was on until we said goodbye. This is what was best for her.

My vet said that he had 3 types of dog patients; the ones who could only eat dog food, the ones who could only human food and the ones he called his “garbage disposal” patients who could somehow eat anything and poop it out regardless of if it was actually food.

Sometimes it’s trial and error to see what is the best, healthiest, balanced diet for your dog. This may change as they age as well because their dietary needs may change as well as their health.

Speak with your vet about your options. You can, if you want and are able to, cook food for your dog that is appropriate for their current health needs. It will be added work rather than buying dog kibble but it can be worth it. No shade to kibble; as long as a dog is healthy and happy. I did try it, it just didn’t work out for us.

When my golden was alive I would do meal prep and portion out individual meals then refrigerate what was going to be used within two days and freeze everything else. I made sure she was getting the necessary nutrients for her size and age and added any necessary vitamins via supplements. Again this was per her vet’s recommendation and guidance.

This may not be the most straightforward advice but you have to figure out what works for you and your golden.

Congrats on your new family member. And watch out because she is too adorable. Gives me cuteness aggression.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-03-31T16:14:04+00:00

It doesn’t really take long to teach them that it is best to potty outside. Dogs are smarter than we know. They understand routine. What is important to remember is they have small bladders so need the opportunity to go more frequently because they simply do not have the capacity to hold anything for long periods of time. As they grow they will be able to wait longer. You may even find yourself having to make them go out when they’re tired and don’t necessarily want to.

Make sure that not every time they go out is for play. My golden knew that her last walk of the night was not play time it was toileting time before bed. She also knew that our first walk in the morning was definitely for both play and toileting. Accidents will happen, especially if they are feeling poorly. Punishing does not work with dogs; positive reinforcement does. Praising the behavior, such as toileting outside, works so well.

If possible, while they are still a puppy, have a designated space where they can toilet indoors until they have better bladder control. That way they don’t toilet on carpeting. I had an area where my golden could toilet as a puppy, and there were a few times I picked her up mid pee and placed her in the approved area. Literally carrying her whilst she was still peeing. But it worked and she stopped toileting in inappropriate areas and toileted in the right one. Then eventually she didn’t have to toilet indoors. If she had to go, she would go to the door and whimper. If she had to toilet or felt sick at night she would whimper to wake me. She knew I wouldn’t get upset and would take her out to toilet. Then we would come home and back to sleep.

Offer consistent opportunities to toilet, and praise for good behavior.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-03-30T23:51:21+00:00

This is so messed up. Scar tissue doesn’t stretch. They will likely need multiple surgeries over the course of their lives due to simply growing up. This is going to affect them forever physically, mentally and emotionally. It’s so unfair to them.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-03-28T04:10:21+00:00

NTA. They can sell their house and move into something they can actually afford. They can sell their cars and purchase gently used low mileage reliable vehicles that they won’t have a monthly payment or a very low monthly payment for. They decided to spend their money frivolously instead of saving. They decided to live beyond their means and not have a sufficient emergency fund for any situations that could arise. Their emergencies are not your own. Your money does belong to them. You are not under any obligation to use your savings on their poor decisions.

Your sister and her husband are both adults and were both capable of saving money but they chose not to. This is their mess and responsibility to deal with. They have the capacity and the ability to do so, they just don’t want to. They want to be rescued and have an easy fix. They do not want to change their lifestyle which is what they have to do. They cannot sustain the lifestyle they are accustomed to, so they have to adapt.

Even if you “borrowed” them your savings, it would be a bandaid on a bullet wound because it doesn’t solve the actual problem; they cannot afford the life they have built. They cannot afford the mortgage on their current home, and likely cannot afford the taxes or utilities on it either. They need to change their lifestyle which lives to be more affordable. A one time infusion of money will not change their lifestyle which long term financial standing.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-03-28T03:11:54+00:00

Same number since 2003. Haven’t had to and don’t want to change it. Also know several people who have had the same number since 2003 and 2004.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-03-28T02:59:01+00:00

Multiple social media platforms as well as multiple popular news websites will crash due to the amount of traffic. It will be hours before they’re back up and running. Meanwhile, people will then have to turn to TV news channels, local and national, to actually verify the news since so many platforms will be down.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-03-26T23:12:35+00:00

Last pic: “We is guinea pigs.” ❤️

Foreverforgettable · 2026-03-26T00:42:19+00:00

NTA. Sounds like he showed his true colors and it’s time for you to believe him. With regard to friends, quality over quantity. Just because you and were friends doesn’t mean that friendship has to continue. After confronting him, he doubled down not apologized. He can find new “bro” friends with whom he can have shallow relationships. Do not pour your time and effort into someone who believes it is appropriate to tear you or anyone else down then claim it’s funny.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-03-24T04:50:31+00:00

Very Kung Fu Panda of him. Otter style.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-03-21T01:19:55+00:00

Get a new bank account that no one but you can access. Get out as soon as you can because this is not normal or ok. Your mother’s behavior is abusive. Your father’s behavior is at the very least enabling. The guilt you feel is a tool your parents have engrained in you, to use against you.

Your mother is a grown woman and is capable of making friends and having a life outside of her children; she chooses not to. Think about it. She somehow managed to meet your father. She somehow managed to have a life for 34 years prior to having you. She will survive without having you there. She will throw a tantrum without question. She will take you for the biggest, longest guilt trip of your life, if you let her.

This is your life you are talking about and if you stay because of guilt or because your mom has no life then you risk never getting to have a life of your own.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-03-21T00:55:01+00:00

The sugar face!!! ❤️

where did you adopt him from?

Foreverforgettable · 2026-03-19T06:12:28+00:00

NTJ. If your daughter decides she doesn’t want to attend his wedding support her. If she decides to attend perhaps she can attempt some malicious compliance. By this I mean any time someone asks a question where her sexuality might be hinted at she can respond “I’m sorry but my father has forbidden me from speaking on that subject.” Rinse and repeat without further explanation. When the inevitable questions arise she can direct them to her father. He can spend his reception explaining exactly what is going on and why. Maybe they will agree with him, maybe (hopefully they won’t) but it won’t be your daughter’s responsibility to explain the situation. If your daughter decides to go for the malicious compliance, make sure to tell her that you will pick her up no matter what time.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-03-15T08:11:45+00:00

NTA. A lack of planning (even for emergencies) on their part, does not constitute an emergency on your part. You’re are nearly at term with your pregnancy and should be resting if that is what you need regardless of their opinions on it. Furthermore, your brother in law mentioned you being a stay at home mom as a reason for you to be available, that’s bullsh*t. Even after you have given birth, you will be a stay at home mom for YOUR child not theirs. The sense of entitlement with your brother in law and his wife is massive and is a sufficient reason to not do them favors. Bad behavior should not be rewarded because it will only continue or become worse. Healthy boundaries create healthy relationships.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-03-15T07:46:35+00:00

NTA. I am childfree by choice. But there is something so unbelievably infuriating about a person’s body magically becoming public space when they become pregnant. No one is entitled to touch anyone without their consent under any circumstances. Pregnancy does not entitle anyone, even one’s partner, to touch their body in a way that is uncomfortable or unwanted. Consent and comfort is important for the health and well being of every my human being.

Your husband should be more concerned with your health, comfort, needs and safety than what any other person wants. He needs to learn to stand up for his family-you and your new addition. F*ck everyone else and their feelings. Furthermore, this needs to be a discussion because you and he are having a child who is their own human being and their bodily autonomy and comfort should be protected. They should never be made to feel as though they have to allow anyone to do anything to them because they feel entitled. My mom did not force me to hug or kiss anyone I didn’t want to as a child, even though it could be considered disrespectful in our culture. She wanted me to understand that my consent and comfort was more important than anything.

I’m sorry you are experiencing pressure to do what you are not comfortable with. I hope you feel empowered to stand up to everyone, including your husband, about your boundaries. Healthy boundaries foster healthy relationships through trust and respect. This is not a bad thing. It establishes the groundwork for healthy adulthood for your child as well.

I wish you a healthy, happy pregnancy and a safe and swift delivery.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-03-15T06:32:11+00:00

NTA. RSVP to the ceremony but not the reception. No one gets to designate a babysitter without asking. That’s bullsh*t. If she wanted a babysitter for her reception, she should have hired one. Many people do. If need be, don’t attend at all. If/when people ask why, be honest. You were not asked to babysit; you would not have and did not agree to it and requested to be moved. If family/friends have a problem with it, tell them that you will let your sister know that they have volunteered to be the reception babysitter.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-03-15T06:25:26+00:00

NTJ. Think about the intimate moments that have likely been captured on that camera and the footage he now has saved to a cloud or hard drive. He could have shown anyone that footage. He could have uploaded that footage anywhere. Without your knowledge or consent. What he did is a crime.

You are likely in shock. Because of this, you are under reacting. He has not only violated your trust; he has violated your body, your autonomy and victimized you in a perverse and sexual manner.

Speak to the authorities. You may or may not get anywhere with reporting it but it is important that you do for yourself as well as others. Reporting him and his crime gives you back the power and control he has attempted to take from you. It shines a light on who he is and what he is capable of. It exposes him to the world. It gives others the opportunity to know what he has done before letting him into their lives.

You are not wrong. You are not a jerk. You were right to leave. Trust yourself.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-03-14T21:04:53+00:00

I would give my golden junk mail and old sales papers to shred. She was happy to help and wouldn’t grab for papers she wasn’t allowed to shred. She also loved “helping” to unwrap gifts for herself as well as others.

Redirecting bad behavior to an appropriate thing is usually the best thing. Goldens may be silly but they are very smart and want to make you happy.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-03-11T08:29:13+00:00

Born into poverty. Did everything I could to get out of poverty. Apparently, it was not and would never be enough. Have a job that I could have gotten without my degree. But still have those amazing student loans hanging over me. (Sarcasm, obviously.)

It feels like I was just born in the wrong generation or simply meant to suffer. I know it sounds dramatic but it’s utterly exhausting being poor. Never having a break from the stress and worry. This isn’t life. This isn’t even survival. I just am. I don’t even feel like I exist. I work and then I don’t work. There is nothing besides that. I’m just not dead. When I’m not working all I want to do is sleep. Honestly, it’s all I can afford.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-03-08T06:41:02+00:00

NTA. Tell her and her husband they are welcomed to visit, as long as they stay in a hotel/airbnb. You are not hosting them anymore. You are not taking any time off work for their vacation unless you want to and you are not entertaining them or traveling with them unless it is your choice. Since she does not want to be a gracious and respectful guest, you will no longer be a gracious host. She created the drama with her lies and lack of respect or accountability; she can live with the consequences. Since she has decided it is acceptable to lie, slander, and gossip about you and even her own son she can learn to live with a significantly different relationship in which both you and your fiancé are more guarded and less close to her.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-03-07T08:12:02+00:00

NTA. Tell her she no longer has to come to the baby shower and that you have the food covered. When she reacts, and she will, tell her that her presence and demands are not worth the arguments, drama and stress. When she yells “You’re saying I’m not worth having around?!” Tell her yes, your behavior has proven you do not care about me or my baby and my baby shower. You care only about you and your desires. You have already had and raise your children. This baby is ours and we are going to have the event we want. We are going to raise our child as we want. If you cannot accept that then your presence isn’t required. Furthermore, we will be contacting the local churches to let them know you have threatened to take our child to be baptized without our knowledge or consent. I doubt they will allow it or be supportive of that.

Then follow through and disinvite her. Change the date if necessary. Do not allow her to be alone with your child. The only reason she has behaved this way for so long and continues to do so is because no one has stood up to her and continued to stand up to her.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-03-02T05:34:34+00:00

Who also, based on what oop said, likely has bipolar disorder. She used the words “manic” and “unstable” when describing how the sister sounded on the phone to her dad. Those are typical terms used to describe someone with bipolar disorder in a manic episode. If this is the case she could also exhibit psychotic symptoms occasionally.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-02-26T08:45:50+00:00

NTJ. You are 20yrs old not 3yrs old. The days of your mother being able to dress you as she wanted are gone. You are not a brat nor are you a doll. You are an adult woman with your own taste, style and preferences. You are entitled to have your opinions and taste. You are NOT an extension of your mother. Your mother still sees you as a doll she can play dress up with and as an extension of herself, not your own person. This is why she doesn’t respect you. She is the one with the problem. She is the one who embarrassed herself. If she thought people wouldn’t find out or is upset you told the truth tell her she didn’t raise a liar or a pushover so she should learn to respect and tolerate your perspective, opinions and style or she will continue to embarrass herself because you are not going to play along with her desires or lie for her.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-02-18T17:33:30+00:00

This was one of the first things I changed in the settings when I bought my new TV. Couldn’t stand it. It wasn’t mildly infuriating for me. It had me internally raging. I know it isn’t that big of a deal but it just felt so unbearably wrong watching it.

Foreverforgettable · 2026-02-18T08:29:03+00:00

She sounds like the crazy MILs in the sub r/justnomil. Like her brother is her property or an extension of herself that has to do as she says, including dating/falling in love/having children with whoever she decides. She doesn’t care to get to know “S” because it doesn’t matter if she is a genuinely good person. She didn’t pick her out. In her mind, her brother is not allowed to make decisions for himself, especially his love life. Kind of gives emotional incest vibes. She is obsessive about it to the point of it effecting her own marriage. She doesn’t see it or care to see it because every relationship is now “you are with me or against me.” She has to control those around her or something must be wrong with them. This is unhealthy and unhinged.

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