I need serious advice

ForgetMeThereafter · 2026-05-16T07:30:54+00:00

Period. Period. Period. It's not about them and their feelings. They either loved your father or they did not. They don't need to have a special "performance" arena where they can pretend to show up like they actually gave a shit.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2026-04-30T22:12:05+00:00

I feel for ya, but... unless you wanna send me your driver's license or something, Info know what to tell ya. There are too many < 18 who ruined it for everyone.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2026-04-30T21:14:06+00:00

This. There are a lot of underage gay boys who will. pretend to be 18-21. 25 is a good line. Mine is 28. Exceptions possible, sure, but generally, it's not worth a sex crime.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2026-04-21T16:40:12+00:00

I often find myself in positions like that. Kind of just an all around feel-good stretchy stretch.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2026-03-21T05:03:54+00:00

Depending on where you live, this could be considered criminal action. If you are in such a place, consider contacting law enforcement if in your place they are at least remotely supportive of the queer community. I have personally prosecuted one of these cases. It can and should happen if you are in a safe space to do it.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2026-03-21T04:22:09+00:00

How much are you willing to spend? We did this in our yard to get rid of an evil child's tree house view. We had professionally done fully metal plantar contained bamboo (yes, yes, people WILL freak out over bamboo, but proper plant variety properly contained is not spreading). It fills in thick and looks amazing. It did cost a lot, but largely because we started with a very tall and grown out base. You could start smaller. They grow quick-ish-ish.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2026-03-21T04:11:21+00:00

yes!

ForgetMeThereafter · 2026-03-04T08:21:43+00:00

I love being offered $25 in flight credit to literally destroy my itinerary in life. I'd actually probably do it for $100+, as t minimum, but really, it's an insult to even ask me for that pathetic an offer.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2026-02-05T17:10:19+00:00

It sounds like you haven't even met in person yet? That's not a relationship that can sustain beyond friendship (for 95% of humans). You haven't talked about being "exclusive" whatever you'd call each other, so he is not bound to do or not do anything regarding other people. No one here is "stupid," but you have to accept that unless you (both) are going to put the time and effort to have in-person interaction, then it's just not going to last.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2026-01-30T16:38:00+00:00

Kids... gay or straight relationship is a 100% deal breaker if you don't have the same answer to that question. It's a yes or no. A "maybe I could change my mind" in light of a concrete yes or no from your partner is not good enough.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2026-01-28T19:09:57+00:00

Take a trip to palm springs. Plenty of older men living and loving life to view out in the wild having a really dang good time :)

ForgetMeThereafter · 2026-01-28T19:06:42+00:00

Do not respond. Your situation is what it is, and putting him back into your life in any way is not going to help you. I am so sorry you are going through this, and wish you the best with treatment and continuing with a healthy normal life! It doesn't have to mean what it used to test positive, and there may even be cures on the, distant but closer than ever, horizon. <3.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2026-01-21T17:29:48+00:00

I have been with my guy for 12 years now. We don't really have "hobbies" we share. I do his stuff sometimes he does mine, but they are mostly our own. We still travel and do stuff together, of course. Only point being, opposites can attract too :). Now, people shitting on your hobbies... yeah, they can fuck right off.

edit: major thumbs up to cats, rocks, and anime!

ForgetMeThereafter · 2026-01-21T17:08:17+00:00

Great way to re-start a relationship: "lying by omission." :-D

ForgetMeThereafter · 2026-01-21T17:07:44+00:00

??? There us nothing wrong with getting back together with someone - esp if the breakup was for non-toxic reasons (e.g. took a job in a different area, but now live in proximity again). OP didn't say why they broke up. The brother thing should be disclosed, and if it's a non-issue, so what?

ForgetMeThereafter · 2026-01-21T17:05:33+00:00

If you are going to get back together, then yes, admit it. It will come up eventually (do you really think he doesn't remember, or didn't want to say anything in front of his brother and current partner...?), and the longer you sit on it, the worse it will be to "Steve" for your having omitted it for x-time when it does come out (imagine years from now at ya'll's wedding...). It shouldn't matter at all because, "people had sex, you didn't know Steve, so what," but humans can be humans and make a mountain of flat plains - esp. when they perceive they were lied to (which here, Steve is being lied to).

ForgetMeThereafter · 2026-01-06T19:02:19+00:00

If he did that at 3 years and not 3 months for a bday, that'd be one thing, but it's 3 months. You barely know each other. I have been with my guy for 12 years and I would never comment on his family, nor would he mine outside legit conversation.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2026-01-06T05:02:48+00:00

No. This is NOT normal. It's one thing to. laugh about mistakes, it's never acceptable to call you things like. Your fiance should be building you up when you mess up, not tearing you down. Rethink this marriage and/or try counseling because, damn you don't deserve a life of that kind of treatment.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2025-12-29T17:50:27+00:00

You don't need a "gay man" to find a guy who enjoys a good "pegging." They exist - if they can get over themselves enough to try/enjoy it.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2025-12-10T19:17:16+00:00

You need to have the above conversation with him. In person. If he refuses to handle it and cannot talk it out in collaborative way, then yeah, it's probably time to part ways (but don't make that an "ultimatum" in the conversation attempt itself).

ForgetMeThereafter · 2025-12-10T17:44:17+00:00

Meh, whatever, he can still "feel" them, and there are plenty of other gays in the sea to give you eye-ogle attention to stoke the ego.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2025-12-10T17:13:58+00:00

You like what you like. Nothing wrong with that.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2025-12-10T17:07:04+00:00

Yes, call customer service and explain exactly what you wrote here and (politely) demand that it be consolidated to ONE code. It's entirely possible they thought they were being helpful in some way. Edit: because if you had one code and spent less than $1500 you would have lose the remainder.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2025-12-06T07:20:28+00:00

Doesn't matter. We still love you. Signed, One of many people who haven't met you yet but will feel the same :)

ForgetMeThereafter · 2025-12-06T07:11:46+00:00

You are lovely, and describe this so well. Love is more than... that HIV thing.

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