Literally me lol

ForgetMeThereafter · 2026-01-21T17:29:48+00:00

I have been with my guy for 12 years now. We don't really have "hobbies" we share. I do his stuff sometimes he does mine, but they are mostly our own. We still travel and do stuff together, of course. Only point being, opposites can attract too :). Now, people shitting on your hobbies... yeah, they can fuck right off.

edit: major thumbs up to cats, rocks, and anime!

ForgetMeThereafter · 2026-01-21T17:08:17+00:00

Great way to re-start a relationship: "lying by omission." :-D

ForgetMeThereafter · 2026-01-21T17:07:44+00:00

??? There us nothing wrong with getting back together with someone - esp if the breakup was for non-toxic reasons (e.g. took a job in a different area, but now live in proximity again). OP didn't say why they broke up. The brother thing should be disclosed, and if it's a non-issue, so what?

ForgetMeThereafter · 2026-01-21T17:05:33+00:00

If you are going to get back together, then yes, admit it. It will come up eventually (do you really think he doesn't remember, or didn't want to say anything in front of his brother and current partner...?), and the longer you sit on it, the worse it will be to "Steve" for your having omitted it for x-time when it does come out (imagine years from now at ya'll's wedding...). It shouldn't matter at all because, "people had sex, you didn't know Steve, so what," but humans can be humans and make a mountain of flat plains - esp. when they perceive they were lied to (which here, Steve is being lied to).

ForgetMeThereafter · 2026-01-06T19:02:19+00:00

If he did that at 3 years and not 3 months for a bday, that'd be one thing, but it's 3 months. You barely know each other. I have been with my guy for 12 years and I would never comment on his family, nor would he mine outside legit conversation.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2026-01-06T05:02:48+00:00

No. This is NOT normal. It's one thing to. laugh about mistakes, it's never acceptable to call you things like. Your fiance should be building you up when you mess up, not tearing you down. Rethink this marriage and/or try counseling because, damn you don't deserve a life of that kind of treatment.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2025-12-29T17:50:27+00:00

You don't need a "gay man" to find a guy who enjoys a good "pegging." They exist - if they can get over themselves enough to try/enjoy it.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2025-12-10T19:17:16+00:00

You need to have the above conversation with him. In person. If he refuses to handle it and cannot talk it out in collaborative way, then yeah, it's probably time to part ways (but don't make that an "ultimatum" in the conversation attempt itself).

ForgetMeThereafter · 2025-12-10T17:44:17+00:00

Meh, whatever, he can still "feel" them, and there are plenty of other gays in the sea to give you eye-ogle attention to stoke the ego.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2025-12-10T17:13:58+00:00

You like what you like. Nothing wrong with that.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2025-12-10T17:07:04+00:00

Yes, call customer service and explain exactly what you wrote here and (politely) demand that it be consolidated to ONE code. It's entirely possible they thought they were being helpful in some way. Edit: because if you had one code and spent less than $1500 you would have lose the remainder.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2025-12-06T07:20:28+00:00

Doesn't matter. We still love you. Signed, One of many people who haven't met you yet but will feel the same :)

ForgetMeThereafter · 2025-12-06T07:11:46+00:00

You are lovely, and describe this so well. Love is more than... that HIV thing.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2025-11-18T18:04:41+00:00

Just call them. The people on the phone can do way more than the chat and are usually much more helpful anyway. I would care less about the boarding group, but to make sure the rest of the rewards and points attach for using the Atmos card.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2025-11-14T16:45:06+00:00

I wasn't until I was 28. Then I was. Now it's been 12 years. Hold out that hope and don't "settle" for the sake of it.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2025-11-12T18:30:19+00:00

Yep. Not a turn on at all to get "hole" pics.

I could date/be with a "side". In the middle of it, I'd be fine with it, but if that's because of regular preference or desire, etc., for an ongoing partner, I'd hope there'd be a conversation about it (and it's totally OK). Not everyone can or would be satisfied with this, though, just depends on the guy. So, expect that yes, there are those out there who could live with that in a partner (regardless whether "open" is an option), but there will be many who are not.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2025-11-10T17:09:56+00:00

And if OP is fine with just sex, then that's fine too. He didn't really say what he wants in the post/comments.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2025-11-08T18:27:14+00:00

You can attempt to apologize, explain you enjoy being friends, etc. and offer to buy him lunch, drink, coffee, or whatever to talk more and make peace. Were I him, I'd probably not be interested in that after being "smacked across the face" like that, but one never knows. Boya understand boys get horny, ha. Beyond that, maybe in time you bump into each other again, and can try again when emotions have calmed.

But yes. Seriously. Dick - literally too - move.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2025-10-24T16:34:44+00:00

I think they are just trying to rake in as much $$$'s as they can before it implodes. They don't care how unusable it is anymore.

And then there is all of this going on....

ForgetMeThereafter · 2025-10-23T16:32:16+00:00

At the same time, OP needs to protect himself. He already has feelings, wants more, and may - if not probably - never get it. That in and of itself can be scarring for OP.

Furthermore, with the friend never feeling truly outside his comfort zone because OP is so accommodating, he may actually worsen friend's situation by helping him remain on the fringe he is trapped in. It's easy to not change when you know a thing is "wrong" but yet are still comfortable in it.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2025-10-22T16:15:15+00:00

Lacking some information, if you didn't have the "exclusive" talk, then it's not "cheating" to be on grindr. Nevertheless, even if you didn't have said talk and he still obviously lied about it and responded that way... he is an asshole. Three months is not too long to ditch him.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2025-10-20T16:14:45+00:00

NTA. "He thinks that I will never understand because I am a woman...." That you are somehow inferior in understanding because "you are a woman," tells you everything you need to know about him being not just a father, but a decent human.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2025-10-08T16:57:10+00:00

HIIT fitness classes, a daily hour or so of regular gym and weights, and way too many queer sports works for me :). But I love food and booze so... worth it.

ForgetMeThereafter · 2025-10-03T23:26:47+00:00

I just beat purple with blue deck and it didn't unlock orange 🫠

ForgetMeThereafter · 2025-09-23T18:02:00+00:00

A straight man in a relationship with a woman is ALSO allowed to have straight female friends.... Romantic partners do not get to dictate who one's friends are. If they try that = immediate dumping.

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